I have a dead beat dad in my life that does not want to pay CHILD SUPPORT!?

Question

I want to find out where he works cause he says I will never know and he owns several stores and car lots. Is there a way without paying to get it..Plus he is supposed to provide insurance on my our child and he hasnt done that in over 2 years ..HELP someone smart I hope ..Please be kind ...

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Answer 1

If there's already a court order in place, file a contempt motion on him. It's easy to do and costs you nothing. On that motion, order him to bring W2's, a year's worth of paychecks and proof of insurance. If he doesn't, he'll be held in contempt and either have to fork over a large chunk of cash, along with getting insurance, or he'll sign a stipulation where he has to pay certain amounts each week and maintain the insurance, with the otpion of sitting in jail if he doesn't. And the minute he doesn't fill his obligation, march yourself right into court to file another contempt and an arrest warrant will be issued for him immediately. Then go home, call the police and tell them where they can pick him up at. Then when he's arrested, you'll get all he owes you in arrears at one time. And he won't be allowed out of jail until he pays it. Hard to believe it's that easy and you can do it without an attorney too. File it pro-se. I should warn you not to fall victim to making any arrangements or agreements with him. Anything he proposes is only for his benefit, not yours or your child's. The courts are looking out for you and put this in place to get dead beat parents to pay. At this point they wouldn't care if he's claiming bankruptcy on his businesses, they'd still tell him to get a job or else.

I know it seems like a shallow thing to do, but honey, non-custodial parents think that raising a child doesn't seem to be as expensive as it really is and they will do just about anything to avoid paying child support . Filing this motion of contempt, is something dead beats can't avoid. If you wanted to be really nasty, you could go after his businesses and put leins on his personal property until he pays up.

I wish you luck, although the law is on your side with this one and you aren't going to need it, I still wish you well.

Answer 2

If you have a court order for child support and insurance you need to go to the Family Court Commisioners office. They will schedule a hearing. It may cost you a little, like $35 or something, however it can be well worth it, because for that hearing each of you will have to fill out a financial disclosure form, these forms will be brought up in the hearing, the judge will probably ask you if there is anything else that you think he has not disclosed. If he lies in court he can get fined for perjury and possibly contempt of court. He could even end up serving some jail time.

Answer 3

Go to your local Child Support Enforcement Office with a copy of your original child support Order (and divorce Decree) and file for enforcement action (and ask for a modification at this time too). Be honest, fill in the form as best you can and be as helpful as possible -- right down to giving a description of his auto and his license plate number and address or anything else you have on him.

For you are ENTITLED to file (most states will do this for FREE when the deadbeat parent is OVER 6 Months behind in child support Payments).

Remember, they can only start helping you as quickly as you get the forms filled out. They will go after him for sure -- which is why you need to provide as much information as possible. They will do the search for his business interests, get the proper authorization to get his bank records, and even contact his employer to get income information.

Make sure you SPECIFY that he has NOT provided Health Insurance too when you apply. That is a Violation -- and they will take care of that situation too in the Child Support Enforcement.

ASK questions though -- for some states only enforce basic child support -- and even though your order states he must pay percentage of health costs (deductibles/Co-Pays), as well as percentage of shared costs (like school supplies), some will NOT do that unless the order specifies a SPECIFIC FINITE amount -- which CAN be modified too.

Answer 4

Get an attorney and go back to court to modify, if he owns all of these businesses than your monthly support order will increase. He will be served once you fill out your petition, he is then obligated to go to court, they will then find out where he works/owns and how much his monthly income is. Obviously, you have been through this so you understand that this could take awhile..months. If you don't know where he works then you can't go through Child Support Enforcement b/c to go through them YOU actually have to do all the work...sucks. I don't know of any other way but to contact an attorney. Good Luck to you, this is very heart-wrenching.

Forgot to mention, I don't know what state you are from but here in Missouri if you have court ordered child support and do not receive it you are eligible for MC+ regardless of your income, they consider me to be 225% above the poverty level and I pay 124.00 a month. My deadbeat is supposed to pay for insurance as well but I cant beat MC+ it covers EVERYTHING.

Answer 5

Take it to court. Inform them that he isn't paying his child support or providing the insurance for your child in over two years. The court will found out exactly where he is and he'll end up being fined (or locked up) if he doesn't pay!

Answer 6

The courts should know where he works. If the court ordered child support and health coverage, he needs to take care of these things. (I haven't received a dime in over 2 years, I know how angry you are). Have you contacted your local child support enforcer? If you are just curious about his assets I can't help. You really should go back to court if you feel you and your children are entitled to more. This doesn't cost anything, it just takes patience and time. Lots of luck.

Answer 7

If he has several stores and car lots then he must have money. I would take him to court and sue for the child support. More and more states are tying child support into business licenses, home mortgages, and drivers license renewals. In some states you cannot renew your business license without making your back child support payments.

Answer 8

Go to the court and file for child support. I am sure they can track him down and you will get your money. Even if you don't have any money you still can consult a Family Lawyer and the Dead Beat Dad has to pay for the lawyer. Post his name on all message boards on the computer saying "Looking for my missing dad"

Answer 9

I have court ordered child support in the state of SC and my child's father quit paying. He even moved to a different city in SC. He failed to appear in court for contempt so a bench warrant for his arrest was issued. I notified the court that he moved to a different city and gave them his new home address. They will not do anything. They actually told me I have to wait for him to be pulled over for speeding. That once the officer runs his drivers license the warrant will appear and he will be arrested. That could take years...... Any advise or direction would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 10

Have a friend follow him....Other than that, its a tough one. Its amazing how those assholes work so hard to try and screw you and, ultimately screw their own kids.

I've got one of those who filed for bankruptcy to try to avoid his debts to me......It backfired though because costs related to support can't be escaped through bankruptcy.

Some men will mess up their own lives in an attempt to avoid their responsibilities. All I can say is, MEN (not all men, of course), WAKE UP!! Get a life and move on. Your own anger and self pity are your worst enemies. YOU are your own worst enemy! Who do you think you're fooling?

Sorry...had to let off steam....Good luck...I hope you catch the bastard...but, in the meantime, look on the bright side...All the money in the world can't account for the blessing you have in your children. Keep them near and dear to you, because in the end, they know who was there for them....Keep loving them and you will prosper...with or without the loser.