My ex husband thinks he can take my kids away from me, with no real validity in his accusations, stressing?

Question

How can he take my kids away from me if he has been accussed of child molestation, not charged because of the lack of physical evidence, thank God1 And try to accusse me of not being a good parent. I am still providing my children with financial and food, until I get a place big enough for all of us...This is so complicated. I have primary residence of my children, he has had them most of the summer, because of a bad decision i made but did not want my kids to suffer....Please help...Serious only.

OWEN...my bad decision was purely innocent in that i got involved with a nice man who decided the relationship wasn't for him..but told me after we all moved in and I had given up my apartment. Leaving me and my children with no where to live.. My ex's girlfriend i trust with my kids, they stay with both of them until i get a new place.. i would rather be without than them... not a bad parent...thinking of them first.. My bad decision was giving up my apartment too soon. Oh and the "69" is 696, as in graduated high school in June(6) of 96....Smartass...not hiding anything...and my daughter had to undergo a lot of very hurtfeel months because of all this...heresay is heresay no matter how old the accuser is, and for some stupid reason the the plaintiff has the right to face his accuser regardless of age. She was 4....would u make ur daughter go through that on top of everything else..bad parent NOT!!!!

Answer 1

Break-ups are so hard. Most men only want custody to keep from paying support. Otherwise they'd be happy to forget they ever had kids, except an occasional holiday visit. Some dads are better, some are even worse. I'll pray for you. Hugz, Boo.

Answer 2

Just want to tell you something. Being a Mom and Dad is not easy, but a Mom had better walk the straight and narrow, because it is the children who will suffer. These Kids love you and Dad. And when you are not together it brings many un-happy days for these little hearts. As a Mother it means constant knowing what to do. Financial and Food is Great There is more then that. Cleanliness, hair care, tons of Laundry, keepiing the house clean. Keeping poor behaving Mom's Friends Out. Don't let your Friends abuse your kids. Believe me, if you think you got problems now, just wait until the kids get big and say to Mom and Dad, why did you let this Happen ??
I have a simular situation in my Family. The Mother is a party animal, She leaves the children with any Tom, Dick and Harry. She does not clean the children. They go to bed dirty. And wake up in Dirty CLothes. No meals on time. Late for school everyday. Take men into the basement. Stacks of childrens dirty clothes and the neglect goes on and on. How do I know ?? Because I have saved the sweet children from being taken away from this poor excuse of a Mother. She thinks she has done nothing wrong. The word is Denial. So My lecture to you is: Take good care of your precious Children. they are a gift to you. To your ex. then if you have any reason to believe that he is a child molester, the you had better make sure the kids don't go there. The two of you together had better grow up. STOP thinking about yourselves and continually take good care of your sweet children. They didn't deserve this , nor did they ask to be born. STOP MAKING BAD DECISIONS, because you will loose your CHILDREN. Grow up and be a good Mother.

Answer 3

Ok, I'll try.
Child molestation . Case was dismissed because of lack of evidence. So by law he's not guilty.
First you need to get a bigger place if you want them to visit or sleepover.
But you did tell only half of your story. You made a bad decision.? Well, I like to help, but with only half of your story, you are making this rather complicated.
It seems that the outcome of your case was decided on the bad decision you made. Sorry
Seek legal advise and give your children all the love you can give. They will never put their mom aside, so don't worry. P.S I don't know your age, but from now on, behave better you you ever have, because anything you do from now on can be used against you in a court of Law, especially if you want your kids back.
No drugs, No misbehaviours in clubs, no openly flirting with guys etc etc.
If you are proven to be an unfit mother you'll lose the custody case, but not your children. They will always come looking for their mom.
If your a good mother you will succeed.

Answer 4

Dear you are in a no-win situation. If you fight him for custody, then the children suffer. If you talk bad to your girlfriend on the phone about him and his "issues" and the children overhear, then the children suffer. If you give in and let him have custody, he will most likely bring them back, but if the children have to be without their mother, the children will suffer. My best advice to you is to keep your nose clean. I don't care if you're 18 years old and the fun has just begun, you have two children and an obligation to be an adult. No, you cannot party. No, you cannot go out and get drunk. No, you cannot have uncontrollabe, mind boggling sex with the bouncer down at the club. No. You can not do these "fun" things because the ex-husband will find out and he will use it to take your children. What you must do is not make anymore "bad choices". You must always think five minutes ahead of the game about what is good for those children and never, under any circumstances, do anything in front of those children that you wouldn't do in front of a priest/preacher. If you are a good mother and a good provider, the man does not have a leg to stand on. If you are questionable, in any way, shape, form or fashion, he will take your children and God help you getting them back from him if the courts give him custody.

You gave birth to those children so they come first. Remember that. Yes, you get to have a normal life, but now that you've gone through the rigors of a divorce, you have left yourself saddled for life (or at least until the children are 18) with the words "ex-husband" or "the kids' father".

Please, for your own sake, get your children home with you and keep them with you. Work hard every day, even if you're not making much money, and keep your nose clean. Do not smoke, drink, use drugs or have sex outside of a monogamous relationship. If you prefer to do those things, then do them, but give the kids to their father.

Good luck to you darlin.

Answer 5

Relax. He isn't going to take your kids away. If you are providing for your children and working hard to support them, no one can legally take your children away.
Your husband will NOT get full custody of the kids if you're supporting them and also because he was accused of child molestation. Although there wasn't enough evidence, judges still take that into consideration with their decision. Do not stress it because you will NOT lose your kids.
Continue to provide for them and set a good example and things will fall in place.

Answer 6

I am not sure what the law is in your state but in mine he has to prove you unfit. Dept. of Human Services has to do checks on both of you and your homes then give their opinion to the judge. And in addition in a lot of cases here the children get what is called an advocate, that is someone that listens to them and helps make sure they get the best home. The court here is also known to appoint an attorney to represent the child's interest. So if I were you I would make sure I am doing my best, no men over all night, food in the house, the house relatively clean and you should be okay.

Answer 7

I noticed you hid "because of a bad decision I made", but told us in detail of why you think he is a bad parent.

That shows me right there, you're trying to hide something and not telling us the whole story and basically you're looking for people to pity you and tell you how bad of a person he is. If he was never charged with anything, NOTHING HAPPENED.

On top of all this, don't act all innocent when you have "69" in your screen name.


::ADD ON:: WOMEN, SHE SAID THERE WAS A BAD DECISION SHE MADE. WHAT IS IT? DID SHE SMOKE CRACK IN A VAN PICKING HER KIDS UP FROM SCHOOL? DID SHE USE TO BE A PROSTITUTE? UNTIL WE HEAR THE WHOLE STORY, YOU CANNOT SIDE WITH HER OR HIM. SHE IS HIDING SOMETHING HERE AND ONLY TELLING US THINGS THAT SHE WANTS US TO HEAR.

Adultery: not only a good reason he should divorce you, also a sin of god. You should be ashamed and Good luck to him.

Answer 8

Why would he have them if he was even accused of child molestation?? What state do you live in that would allow that? I would say he is trying to scare you and it is working. I can say I would have fought like hell not to allow him to be with them if he at all has the possibility of child molestation. I would find another lawyer, go to the state Bar association, call the county government for help. I would say use your internet access to find out the laws in your state and educate yourself. He sounds like a loser that is trying to worry you, don't allow him to win.

Answer 9

Take a deep breath, get organized and call Legal Aid and get some answers. The court will not place your children in harm's way. Best of luck getting a place, that's your first priority.

Answer 10

The only way the courts will take your kids is if they find sufficient evidence saying you are an unfit mother. Child protective service will investigate. Don't stress too hard. He's the a55 and they will figure it out