I am about to be 23 and start my senior year in college. I believe my mother is bi polar. Every time I go home she goes crazy on me. She just snaps. I have been dealing with this since I was a little girl. She can be a good person but it never lasts. Everthing has to be her way and shes "always right" I even graduated high school in 3 years to get away. My dad is a very loving man and his job requires him to be gone alot so he doesnt know the extent of it. But he does know, he just choses to do nothing. Just recently when I went home with my boyfriend my mom went nuts. Screaming at me and cussing. She cancelled my phone and took all my money out of my accounts. She is crazy. And I am done dealing with it. My dad wants me to apologize. He says thats the only way I will get money. But I did nothing wrong. I am a good kid. She tries to control me with money. I want to make it on my own somehow, take out loans work nights, anything. Do you think thats a good idea? I want to be happy.
2006-08-23 15:25:09 · 7 answers · asked by amtech33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it's time to get independent. Get some kind of job to support yourself and student loans for finishing school. It may be unhealthy for you to spend too much time with your mom if this is going on and neither of your parents wants to address it. Just remember though, she is your mom and she is the reason why you are here and she has something to do with who you have become!
You are obligated to be polite, respectful and loving without taking abuse. Keep your conversations and visits short.
2006-08-23 15:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by LG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother does sound bi polar ive done phd in this and mostly people suffering from it dont realise ive seen a mother and daughter whose 24 driving that daughter to nearly go mad after taking her all her money which was hers not mothers,then making her life miserable by always wanting her way(the mother)
to the point she drove her daughter to try to hit her since she was really driven to that point.The problem was with the mother who was bipolar.To add to this the father chose to side with the mother and do nothing about it blaming the daughter.I suggest you apologise only get your money back then leave get a job if you need extra money stay on your own dont go back to such a situation since this anger,resentment of being right but being made to seem like your in the wrong by your parents together when its your mother whose bipolar needs help will only worsen.Seems like mother and father dont want to admit the mothers bipolar and want to sweep it under carpet.So get a job,move out,live on ur own.Only after your mother has got help for bipolar and your father admits/faces it too get back home or else keep in touch with them through phone/email etc.It will only worsen not get better so get out first your mother cant be helped unless she accepts she has a problem and seeks help same goes for your father whose in denial too.This will emotionally,physically,mentally drain you as it did to that girl i saw for my phd thesis.goodluck and godbless!
2006-08-23 22:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain... my mother will call and talk nice a few times then call at 7am b!tching to the heavens about crap that happened when I was 3yrs old.. or something that NEVER happened at all.
I finally had enough and couldn't take anymore and started blowing up back... she has calmed down some now that she know I refuse to take the abuse. In fact this JUST happened Sunday night and I simply told her off and hung up. Monday she was perfectly fine.
Yes, try to get out on your own, maybe with Father's help. I was kicked out at 17 by my mother on one of her psycho rants and never looked back. Put myself thru college. You can't chance them and all it does is upset you to try.
2006-08-23 22:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by The::Mega 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at 23 you should be making it on your own. You need to be independent.
2006-08-23 22:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like bipolar disorder. Narcissism?
2006-08-23 22:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just might be. I think you should do what you feel is right for you to be happy.
2006-08-23 22:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by scarletts_mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its a very good idea I will say a few prayers for you.
2006-08-23 22:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋