My husband ex-girlfriend called children services on my husband and myself and lied. She told them that we abuse our children. The reason she is so angry she is so pissed off at my husband for moving on and not being there for they son 24/7, also she is pissed because we are married.
We did get investigated and the lady did not see any indications that there was any type of abuse going on. The lady did say that if that person calls again they would have to come back to investigate again. Do that make any since? If there is no abuse why bother coming again. Please someone explain that too me?
2006-08-23 15:15:37 · 23 answers · asked by Vicky 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well you could get revenge and call ACS on her. This would then allow her to know what it feels like to go under the microscope. If she calls them on you again, then do the same again. Since ACS cannot tell you who called them, you can only guess as to who that person really was, but if you have some good proof of your own, you could involve the police and say that false charges are being made against you and see what they can do, or you could involve an attorney. Your husband could also use the attorney to take the child away from her so that she would get her wish that he spends more time with their son. Just in his home and without her.
2006-08-23 15:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try putting yourself in the shoes of the social worker for a few minutes. You receive a call saying someone abused their child. You investigate and find all is well and no abuse has occured. You receive yet another call about the same family. You decide that since all was well during the first investigation, you won't bother checking in again. You will just assume that everything is fine this time around, too.
But what if all isn't well the second time around? What if this time something is horribly wrong and you could have saved a child from injury or even death? Wouldn't that be worth having to go back out a second time?
The lady is being thorough. The lady is trying to see that your children and safe and sound. Can you really fault her for that?
I'm sure you are going through a terrible time because of these false accusations. I would suggest talking with a lawyer, legal aid if necessary, and getting advice on how to deal with the ex so that she will have to leave you alone.
2006-08-23 15:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work with these situations all the time. And each and every accusation has to be investigated....we never know what will or won't be a real case. However, there is something you can do about this. Take her to court and sue her for punative damages and harrasment through the legal system. She must make at least 3 false accusations for you to have a case, meaning three separate incidents. Also pursue the Social Services department to file suit against her too, for knowingly making false accusations. It ties up their case workers and it's such a shame to have to go to these BS cases when there are real kids in trouble who actually need help. I've seen several of these cases go through already and have testified at one. The victims are always awarded large sums of money because these reports stay on their record just like a bankruptcy would whether they are true or not, and a good court system will compensate you for your trouble since she is doing it maliciously. I wish you lots of luck!
2006-08-23 15:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do... I think they enjoy sticking their noses in where it doesn't belong. Only time they don't seem to investigate is when there is something actually going on with witnesses and proof.
Chances are the call was anonomous or they won't tell who reported you without court order. And THEN you're set to prove she intentionally reported it falsely and it wasn't a 'misunderstanding' or her part.... so chances of getting anything or having anything happen is 1 in a million unless someone hears her say she did it intentionally and will testify for YOU.
But, frankly and personally, I would report her right back. If she gets it right back and knows that you (or maybe one of your friends) will call on her, she won't do it again unless she's a real hard-core idiot.
2006-08-23 15:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by The::Mega 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Becuase even though one investigation didn't indicate abuse doesn't mean another wouldn't and CPS wouldn't be doing their jobs if they didn't investigate. It was found to be a false report, so you have nothing to worry about.
If this continues happening, the agency has the right to file a harrassment charge against the person making the false allegations, though its rare.
2006-08-23 15:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lady is just doing her job...she must see alot of cases each day and truley cares about children..if someone was abusing there children and she came back out and found nothing..had to leave and someone called again only she thought everything was ok bc she had been there the day before...what if everything wasnt ok..what if the children were beatin untill they were dead..so remember dont get upset at her.
2006-08-23 15:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone reports abuse, they are legally obligated to check it out. However, the fact that you were checked out already and nothing came of it, stands in your favor. The second time probably won't be as thorough or as much of a hassle. As long as you're not doing anything wrong, she will look more and more stupid to ACS.
Hang in there! She can't do it forever. Eventually she'll get a life again and you can get back to yours peacefully.
2006-08-23 15:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jen B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who works for ACS, they get these calls all the time. They have to investigate just to make sure. They have such a hard job, trying to identify abusive caretakers. Be glad that you proved her wrong, let her know that you could do the same to her.
2006-08-23 15:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by KIMBO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
happens all the time to people like yourself
eventually the biitch will get over it and move on
at the moment she is brewing
but that is the job of CPS or ACS
they have to investigate no matter what
If it happens again then I would take legal action and consult a lawyer about harrasment charges
or get the husband to handle it
make him talk to her about it and how its screwing up the kids heads!
2006-08-23 15:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they come back because if someone accused you and something happened to the children they would be at fault for not providing protection for the children. You could sue the woman if it continues. False Statements are no fun but have to be taken seriously.
2006-08-23 15:20:46 · answer #10 · answered by crissyll22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋