Do you think you can say too much about your past?

Question

in other words does he/she really need to know every detail about everyone you have ever been in a relationship with?

Answer 1

I think you should keep things back that could potentially be hurtful. Unless you are specifically asked about it.

Answer 2

It depends. I came clean as clean as possible with my husband BEFORE we got married, because I didn't want him to hear anything second hand.

I didn't leave out the people however, I did not choose to reveal every sordid detail, nor do I think it's necessary.

Therefore yes, you can say too much about your past. No man wants the mother of his children to have been a Ho.

Answer 3

NO NO NO NO NO !!!! The other person does not need to know about your past relationships... EVER!!!!! If you tell all and then later get into a fight the other person will throw it up into your face.

Answer 4

Save it for when the relationship has progressed to a serious partnership. Then YES you must tell all. However don't spill the beans on the first date. They don't need to know until you get into a sexual relationship!

Answer 5

It depends on the person. There are some people who will take what you tell them in confidence, get insecure about it, then turn it against you. Doesn't make them bad people, just...well, you shouldn't have told them. And then there are people who really can handle the things you tell them. The trick is to know who to tell. :) My husband and I haven't exchanged each intimate detail of our previous relationsihps, save the ones right before we both met, and neither one of us really cares TO know. I could care less. He's mine now. Period. lol

Answer 6

I think that if you are marrying someone, they eventually learn everything about your past because you are (or at least should be) married to a person for a lifetime... So over that course of time, you pretty much tell them everything, and they learn things about your past.
If you're casually dating someone then, no, you shouldn't ramble on and on about your past because it may become unattractive.

Answer 7

i don't want to know exact detail of my husband's past and i don't think he knows fully mine. sometimes we know that whatever happened in the past helped made us who we are today. besides, i think as we get older, we'll tell each other eventually...so there will be something new to talk about.

but for sure i do not want to know how many girls he slept with nor does he want to know who i've slept with before we met each other. that's where we cross the line.

Answer 8

Hell no!! We all have a past, Some people like their past and some people not so much, however you would not be who you are today without, and that is all that really matters.

Answer 9

No, don't do it. That "past" is partaining to a person that no longer exists right!?! (The old you, the one who wasn't in the present relationship you are in now) Then why make that person part of your present or future. Leave it where it is ............ in the past!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

DEFINITELY, try to leave out the embarassing, white trash problems.

Each new relationship should be better than the last. You have grown (hopefully) why does he/she have to know what an idiot you were?

Answer 11

yes i think you can say to much .
i say answer the questions they ask , but dont have a pitty party ,, to talk to much of it all the time makes a person think you cant move on and are still dwelling on the lost loves of it .