2006-08-23 15:04:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is definitely something that should have been discussed in depth before "I do". My husband and I hadn't even met in person yet and we had discussed having children!
If you feel strongly about having children and your partner isn't agreeable, it may be a reason to leave the relationship.Try talking to him, try reasoning with him, try counseling if you're both willing to give that a go.
If he's not going to change his mind then the question you have to ask yourself is this: Is he worth it? How important is it to you to have children? Is this man more important to you than any children that might be in your future?
My husband and I have one daughter. I just miscarried our second child. We are planning for more children, should God see fit to send them our way. If my husband decided that he didn't want anymore children, it would hurt and I would miss what might have been. But my family as it is right now is more important to me than any future that may or may not be.
You have to decide what is most important to you.
2006-08-23 15:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your situation, I'm very sorry to hear about this. Although I'm not a bit fan of "divorce", I would have to say that if you've done all you can and you truly want children and your partner doesn't, then that's the only option out, it appears.
I'm just wondering how all this came about when a subject as crucial as this should have been discussed way before making a life commitment to marriage.
If indeed it was and your spouse "changed his/her mind", then I really feel sorry for you. What a terrible predicament to be facing.
BTW - I AM divorced b/c of my spouse being abusive to me. But, hoping one day to find the right one and be happy ever after!
Good luck! I sincerely hope things will work out for you!
2006-08-23 15:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by penwrite5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wanting kids is not grounds for divorce, in and of itself. Although it could be seen as "Incompatibility" which some states allow as a reason to divorce. Many states have "no fault" divorces. Divorce laws vary by state, so see website below.
2006-08-23 15:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by ewb843 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known 2 couples who've split up over this. Both times the spouse had agreed that they'd have children, and then once they were married, changed their minds.
As to whether or not you should get divorced depends on if you still love your partner.... and if your partner still loves you.
2006-08-23 15:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Annie's World 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you agreed to not have kids before you were married and are only now changing your mind, no it is not a reason. If he had agreed to have children after a couple of years and is now saying he doesn't want them, yes it is a reason for divorce.
2006-08-23 15:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not really. But if you wanna have kids you better start praying now. Jesus said that the only reason people could divorce is adultry. so try to stick it out and beleive for the best.
2006-08-23 15:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by April N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on if the partner said they wanted to have kids before they said I do. I would be devestated if I was in a relationship and the guy said he wanted to have a family with me. Then after we put the rings on he decides he doesn't want to. It would depend on how much you love this guy are you willing to just settle for just you and him if not then move on find what you want.
2006-08-23 15:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it could be a valid reason...IF your partner had lied regarding his/her feelings on the subject. Or if he/she all of a sudden changed their mind regarding having kids. But you have to decide what's more important to you...
2006-08-23 15:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by butterburgerqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide. Is the thought of not having kids worse than the thought of divorce?
2006-08-23 15:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she or he agreed before the marriage to have kids and now is saying no, then you can divorce him or her and get an annulment based on fraud (see Renee Zelleweger and Kenny CHesney).
2006-08-23 15:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋