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Well I am not going to be on here anymore.
Why is it that I get any outlet to myself and it gets taken away?

Why can't I have privacy?

I am not doing anything wrong. I know marriage means sharing, but being a grownup means having certain rights.

I mentioned to my husband that I like to go on here, mostly to answer questions and now my husband feels like he needs to come and take this from me, why?

I am so upset that I can't even fight with him about it, too much anger. I have no friends, (this is silly, I am crying over this) I have no one to talk to about anything -except my husband - sometimes you need someone else's ear to listen to you, to bounce stuff off on. This place is great for asking stuff you either can't ask someone that actually knows you or for second opinions - now it's gone, cause it was supposed to be private.

I don't want freedom, I want some common respect.

So am I wrong?

Am I asking to much?

Answer 1

When my marriage was ending( before I knew it) that is what struck me the most : just give me respect!
I have to tell you-quick before you are gone- It sounds like you are in an abusive situation.
This is definately something worth crying about. Don't ever think you are being silly. Your husband is wrong. He has no right to control you like that.
It may be that he doesn't understand what answers is about and may think it is for meeting people. Those are different sites. Is he concerened about you not being anonymous? I have no clue who you are or who he could be or where you are or how to reach you. You have a made up name and no info is shown to anyone. You can see it when you go to your Q's and A's by your avatar, but it is blocked from the public view. There are so many people in the world of this internet he has nothing to be concerned about. Human experience is often similar for many of us so even If you mention things in your life, it does'nt point you out- it could be any of us. This is good support and informative. You are an adult and capable of ignoring the sick and immature people and focus on the good here.
Maybe If he could understand that it would open his mind. Show him how to get on here himself and let him find out what this is all about before he takes away something that means a lot to his wife.

If that doesn't help, do look into learning about verbaly abusive relationships. There is lots of info and people and places to help you. Call from work. Go to the library. Empower yourself. If you have children then you Have to. You can not let them think that it is ok to be treated this way or they will suffer in their relationships like you are, or worse turn into abusers themselves. You can stop the cycle in your generation.

If you need to, to be safe, click on 'view' and 'see history' and erase this site so he won't see this.

Answer 2

I understand where you are coming from. I spend a lot of time alone with just my children and this is a nice outlet. If he is trying to control all things in your life, then you need to get away from him, because it may not be long before he becomes abusive. I do have friends outside of this place, but because we all have our lives, it is sometimes hard to get together with them. He should not be feeling threatened by your just being online. My husband thinks it is funny that I enjoy answering questions. He will often read my answers and agree or disagree with me (especially if I tell someone to leave their spouse). But he doesn't try to control my responses.

Answer 3

That is sooooo wrong. Sounds like he is very insecure and controlling. Controlling people have a strategy.....they isolate you so that they can completely control you. If it was up to your husband you would have no contact with the outside world. No Oprah, no Cosmos, no calling relatives, no friends, no going out with friends, no hobbies outside of the home, no internet and no yahoo. Are you seeing a pattern?

We're all gonna miss you.

Answer 4

Nope, you're not. Don't argue with him, sweetie, just TELL him. Stand up for yourself do what you want. My husband can be very controlling and very selfish when he wants to be and up until recently I've let him. Becaues I didn't think I had a right to stand up to him. But he went a bit too far and whooo boy was he surprised by my reaction. I held it in until I couldn't hold it anymore. Stand up for yourself, hon. You aren't doing anything wrong.

Answer 5

You have every right to be on here,you are an adult and you are entitled to spend your free time as you wish.I really don't want to sound nasty,but girl,go and find your back bone.How can you expect some one to fight for you,when you can't do it yourself.I really hope that you stay and here.Take care of yourself o.k.

Answer 6

youre not wrong or asking too much. You must realize youre in the grips of a control freak who wont let you have fun. Best of luck with how you handle this one...time to let him know you cant have this anymore...if you cant have a life with him maybe its time to have one without him.