We have no communications. I try to talk to him he shut me out, We have no sex life. I am a very attractive female and i get compliments from other men but they mean nothing to me iwould rather recieve them from my husband, But he barley notice me. Any suggestions
2006-08-23 14:16:56 · 19 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have been to a marriage counselor nothing is helping
2006-08-23 14:18:51 · update #1
we have been married for 3 years and in a relatioship for 10 years.
2006-08-23 14:28:17 · update #2
Wow, that doesn't sound good. Is he angry at you for something? You say he barely notices you. Why is that? Do you think he is cheating on you? Is he occupied with work and bills and under stress? What do you talk about when you do talk or is it just complaining about the house and kids?
Life gets to be tough when the kids come along. If you have a hard time coping with it all most men will either pitch in or bail out and leave it all to you.
I think you have to confront him head on and be strong about it and demand to know what's goign on in his head. Ask him outright are you having an affair or why is it that you ignore me and are letting this great wedge come between us. Tell him you want to fix this now before too much distance grows between you. See how he feels about wanting to fix it. If he doesn't want to try then I guess you have your answer.
You might be surprised to hear what he might have to say however, it could be unexpected...so talk and see what's going on. If you're religious, maybe you can talk to your minister and he could talk to your husband and find out what's going on with him and then you can get together and get some counselling either from him or better still a marriage counsellor.
2006-08-23 14:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by EVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married? Do you still love each other? It must be awful to be fighting W/ the love of your life. Marriage is a 2 way thing...it's hard...not a fairytale like we wish it was. If both people don't give 100% in the relationship then there really is no hope. I would be thinking about the kids too. I have friends who's parents are divorced and they are soo much happier W/ the situation because seeing your parents/rolemodels fight and shout and @ each other is one of the hardest things to see as a child! You've got a lot to think about! I would go alone to a counsellor and see what they have to say on your side of the story!! Good luck.
2006-08-23 21:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by shoeaholic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married but I hope I can help you. Marriage is about compromise and the that big word you mentioned before..... COMMUNICATION. It's like the fuel that keeps a marriage going, second to God of course. My advice to you is to lay down your principles, state your case. Ask him if he's having an affair or if he wants to continue with your marriage. You can't be in this situation forever. Something has to give. Do whatever it takes, just make sure you keep your decisions Christ centered.
2006-08-23 21:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lashonna F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well like first his prolly missing that sex life a lot because his a male so just give it to him because you guys are married( you might want to use a condom if you really don't want to get pregnant.) Another thing is try to respect him and praise him when he does some thing right, guys love to feel like superman, mention things he does wrong but in a nice way and DON'T rag
him about it. Also if you guys are arguing about the stupid toothpaste thing (if you should roll it or squeeze it) just buy TWO
thing it won't cost that much more.
2006-08-23 21:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by alayna_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you been to a marriage counselor, then either two things are happening.
1) You two are not listening and applying anything you both have learned.
2) Need a new counselor and keep attending.
You need to listen to what he is saying and learn how to approach the issue differently. He needs to do the same.
2006-08-23 21:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to change yourself. Period. Not saying that he is right, but if you are the one having a problem with what's going on, then you need to change it. You can either change yourself to accept it, or you can just be a happier person, stop nagging him, be the best wife in the world and things will improve on their own. Give him compliments, and maybe then you'll begin to receive compliments too. Just be a happier person and you'll notice he'll change too.
2006-08-23 21:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by Rexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a weekend to yourselves. a vacation for just the two of you. If he can resist a sexy female he's not a fullblooded male. If he is going to a couselor [lots of men wouldn't] he must know there is something wrong and is willing to help fix it. My best recipe is a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom.
2006-08-23 21:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by La-z Ike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your husband some medical treatment. He may be suffering of some type of complexes. It is the time to show sympathy towards him. If he recovers from his illness then he will start behaving normal.
2006-08-23 21:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by jainpushp01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats your problem where is the sex woman! Give the man what he wants. Thats what he married you for or part of the reason anyway, right?
2006-08-23 21:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well fix ya self up and if i have told ppl ova n ova again dont fight ova money the kids or lil things..if u fix ur self up one day b4 he gets home or put the kids down or get rid of them for a lil while and be nakkid when he comes home in heels n done all up n he dont jump ya bones right then then he is sleepin with someone else. tell him u want to be with him..
2006-08-23 21:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋