im am a white 17yr old femal,?

Question

i am a 17 almost 18 yr. old white femal. i am engagged to a 19 yr. old black male it is longdistances till march 07 we are verry much in love. but my mom has a hard time excepting us. and me and my mom were once verry close. now our relationship has gone down the drain do to the fact she wont except us... how do i get her to see. we are in love. and we will be together in the long run, but not fight with her any more.. we are planin to get married and have kids not to long from now. like 5 years. he is my first and my last. how do i get her to see and except and if not except. leave her negative comments out of our relationship. cuz it is really effecting me and his relationship

Answer 1

Marriage is serious and should be considered to be forever. Your mother only wants to make sure that you are making the right decision. It may have nothing to do with his race really. Most women are delaying marriage until they are able to provide for themselves and not have to depend on any man. However, I have a suggestion if you still are planning on marriage at such a young age. Have a private investigator make sure he isn't cheating on you before you get married. It's better to be safe than sorry.

Answer 2

Talk to her. Tell her that you like to see her happy, but that you also like to be happy. Tell her that you are at the moment and that he treats you nice.
If this is not working, just go on with your life, but remember you are only 17 and still living with your mom, so now you need to obey the houserules.
Look for an appartment. Never lose respect for your mom. Never. No guy or woman is worth it.
P.S Your diploma should be the first man in your life, NOT a man. Focus on your degree. Otherwise chance is you will end up with an abusive husband / lover, without a college diploma or some degree and regretting the decisions you make in your life.
Note. You won't be able to rewind the time. You now have all the time, use it, sweety. You seem like a very nice girl.
Your priorities are wrong. So sorry, but the ODDS are against you, especially because of this long distance relation ship.
Statistics show that these relationships don't last. Don't get me wrong. Stay with him, but put your future first.

Answer 3

Why are you such in a hurry to get married? You have so much yet to experience. The fact that you guys hace been having a long distance relationship worries me. I am assuming you haven't seen eachother on a daily basis therefore you do not know eachother well. WHats the longest time you have spent with your fiancé? I wouldn't rush into things if I were you, you might regret it. You shouldnt let a guy come between your mom and you. Has your mom met him? Perhaps she's not happy about your relationship because she doesnt know him. Can he support you? FInancially, emotinally,etc. These are questions you should be asking yourself before you end up alone and pregnant. Good luck.

Answer 4

first,you are kind of young to get married,and second you are going with a guy from a different race.so that in it self is why your mother is upset with you.and being long distance to.and planning on having a family.well good luck!the odds are not with you.
here is what will happen to you !
you and the boyfriend will get married.
you will have two or three kids.
you and him will not be working,can`t find work.
them you will cry and want to come home to mommy`s house.
he will be hiting you and abuse you and have a girlfriend on the side,because he and you are fighting all the time.
do you get the rosy picture? like I wrote before,it`s your life good luck,write back in 5 years and say you told us so.

Answer 5

Honestly you really want to know the best thing that you can do ..
here goes.

g o to your mom... tell her you love her and you know you dont always see eye to eye. but you love her anyway and your hoping she will the same.let her know ..you know she is only looking out for what she thinks is best for her daughyer, but explain to her.. it may not be the best thing for you.. but ,how would you know unless you try ..ask her if she ever felt that way.
let her no no matter what and who your are with ..you would never put them before her.. never.in a sense that your relationship with your mother will not become non existing , just because you have someone else in your life


This is to you:

you have understand how she is probably feeling. i have daughter 18.. and boy did time fly . i dread the day she goes off to college.. but i know i will have to let her go.. i dread the day she does find someone to love.. because i know she may hurt from that love... rather it be racial or just letting go.. if you both are as close as you say. if you and your mother really have that closness. dont argue with her respect her opinion but let her know if she can please respect yours...

let her you know you see no color to you everyone is the same if she could please respect that

. i think you get what i am saying
just do not do it in an argumentive way just ask her if you can just talk and if she could just please listen...

but always remeber no matter what... you can never replace the love of your mother. your mom will always be your mom.. and always-always- give her the respect she deserves. even if you both don't see eye to eye.

Answer 6

Satistics say different for your kind of relationship unless both of you are well educated and he's faithful and not in jail.I've had a co-worker try to get me to go to his church to hook me up with a sister cause mostly the guys aren't available or trustworthy.I have been with sistas though. I still don't get the never go back part. Goo-luck wit dat do. Maybe you'll win the lottery.

Answer 7

Get the both of you and your mom together one night for dinner, and just have a conversation. If she still doesn't except, then just tell her how you feel. Don't argue, because you're too good for that. Tell her that you fall in love with who you fall in love with. And thats that!!! Good luck to your future!!

Answer 8

Just tell her how you feel communicate and just tell her the truth that she's too much work and she needs to back and and i know that hurts but it's the truth and if that doesn't work go to doctor phil h's really good this is a type of situation doctor phil can handle.

Answer 9

youre 17. teenagers are fickle. i doubt you two will last 2 years (although i hope im wrong). if her comments are affecting your relatioship, shes winning. she only wants whats best for you cause youre still her baby girl. if youre(and by that i mean BOTH of you) truly madly deeply in love, then her comments should have no effect on you. and tell her its your life and to stop trying to interfere, but in a polite way. she wants you to explode and go nuts, so make her lose by keeping cool and calm. best of luck to the two of you.

Answer 10

is it the race issue that bothers her? or the age? I got married when I was 19 and I am so sorry I did I should have went to college, lived on my own first before settling down and you should not settle down at a young age.