what can i do to spice it up. I have not been with a lot of men so i really don't know a lot how can i spice things up in the bedroom to get my marriage back on track.
2006-08-23 13:51:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been havong some problems major problems and i am willing to give anything a try to save my marriage
2006-08-23 13:59:07 · update #1
I think you need to reconnect with him first. Talk, listen and love. Forgive and forget the past and move on or move out. Do what you did when you first married him and were happy. If he's wanting you to be more open to different adventures in the sex department then maybe you need to let him show you. You may not have the experience but I'm sure he can tell you what he likes and does not like. You don't have to have slept around alot to be good in bed, you just need to know what the other person loves,wants, desires and you'll be great!
2006-08-23 14:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say that if your marriage is on the rocks that I am sure it isn't all because of your sex life and nothing I or any one else can tell you to do in the bedroom will save the marriage. First thing you need to do is communicate with your husband to find out what the exact problems are, if you want to try to prolong that, you can try giving him romance, along with a wild side, there are hundreds of toy and lotions that will spice it up but the most important thing is calm communication.
2006-08-23 20:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by hm10s4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on which came first, the rocky marriage or the no sex life. If the rocky marriage resulted in no sex life then counselling and reading books on marriage therapy might do the trick.
If the sex life problems came first, well there are some good ideas above. Sometimes spouses are quite shocked to discover that the reason for the poor sex life is that the husband is gay, so you might want to rule that out.
2006-08-23 20:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try surprising your husband with something fun, like tickets to a baseball game or tickets to the movie. Do this every once in a while to relax the two of you.
To spice up things in the bedroom, ask your husband if he'd be willing to try new and exciting things. If he is willing, then purchase some sex toys & try them out. Also, role playing will spice it up too.
2006-08-23 21:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy something new to make yourself feel sexy, plan a dinner at a restaurant (make reservations), definitely drink some alcohol, this will help loosen both of you up if it has been a while, talk about the old days when you used to sex it up, and then when you get home force yourself to have sex, even if you don't feel in the mood you will once you are doing it - Trust me! Make sure you try to at least once or twice a week, force yourself too even if you don't feel like in the mood. It is healthy to have a good sex life, and maybe you need to start making some of the first moves.
2006-08-23 20:56:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I don't think this is the only prob with ur marriage but apparetly u are willing to give anything a try....... Just ask ur husband to go to an adult toy store with u and see if you can both agree on some things to spice things up!
2006-08-23 20:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by fox69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you introduced more things in your sex life. Like wearing a sexy outfit or using lotions or sex toys guys really like that stuff. Try new positions tell him your open to more posibilities. Make him hot basically you got it girl use it!! Spice up the sex life surprise him do something he wouldn't expect. Roleplay!! me and my hubby do that and its vantastic. Don't be scared to try new things he is your hubby let anything take you anywhere don't be embarrased let it all out.
2006-08-23 20:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by Vanessa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, women read books..very few men will set down and go through one with you, even chapters you think are worth reading to him, they just don't pay attention, and then they get all bulled up and think your DISsatisfied in bed with them.
I'd go for a little risque bed play, maybe suggest getting a sexy video to watch together and just go from there. Maybe surprise him once in a while with taking the initiative or touching him intimately outside the bedroom when no one is watching.
2006-08-23 21:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously sex should not be a guage of an on track marriage. Make a list. Sex is just one thing. If died because of sex that maybe a sign of bigger trouble. But for no- COMMUNICATE...
2006-08-23 20:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Timf4515 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to spice sex up go online and check out some porn sites. I know it sounds perverse but it at least gives you an idea and maybe an interest in other positions and opportunities.
2006-08-23 20:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by evie_cooper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋