2006-08-23 13:31:27 · 25 answers · asked by DESIREE C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
15yrs and counting...
2006-08-23 13:32:45 · update #1
If it were easy everyone would be married.
My grandparents back in the war time, were married at a young age and a couple of years ago my grandfather passed away, leaving my grandmother to be alone, She isn't the same.
I think that all the things that we work hard for in the end are worth it. However I think that finding the right person to be married to is harder.
Things that last a life time, or half a life time take a lot of hard work and patience.
I think that is why they say test of time. Only time will tell if you are still going to be married later on down the road and if you can work together.
I have never been married, however I think that the same holds true about having children, I have come to believe that people who have kids tell people who don't have kids that its great so that sooner or later they will not be the only ones in this boat.
lol It is hard to raise children these days however the payment out weighs the negative. I am sure that it is the same for marrage.
good luck
2006-08-23 13:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its hard because you live with that person and start knowing eachother better and start know what can spark an arguement, what can make that person hurt emotionally, what eachothers needs are, and wants. You find things to pick on to eachother, but then there are those moments you can laugh,share your thought and ideas, remember the good and the bad, and think hey there are more good than bad so there must be something there that still keeps it alive even though its hard.
2006-08-23 14:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by hopelovesu2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it because a marriage is like a home. If you routinely fix all the small things around the house and take care of it, home maintenance is not too difficult. If you put it off too long, there's a lot of things to work on and some things that you thought were small turn out to be big.
2006-08-23 13:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree but to go with that...Why is life so damn hard... Because anything you want the best out of, you have to work ten-fold to achieve the best from it.. Whether it be marriage, life or to be completely ridiculous about it.....dinner. You will only embrace what you put effort into.. It all may be difficult and some obviously more so than others, but that only means the out come is that much better, stronger, and healthier!!! Lots of luck!
2006-08-23 16:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by mstars696 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is like a good job..in order to reap it's reward's one must always stribe,to work ever harder to acheive to your goals..so that the end results are ever satifying. Besides, in today's world not too many reach 15yrs. Communication,repect,trust,love,these are your tools so use them wisely
Peace
2006-08-23 14:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Alluva52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is hard because you have to adjust to the other persons way of life. You take on more responsibilities and have other priorities than what you had before. For some people it takes ten years to ease up, others it may take twenty. Hang in there it'll get better.
2006-08-23 13:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think it's all that hard. You should really ask yourself if you trully love him. Everyone is bound to make mistakes, do stupid habits, get irritating but in the end you end up just loving those stupid things about them. Think of it this way, would you feel better if you were on your own with your current husband not in the picture? If your answer is yes then you need to get a divorce, the quicker you do it the faster he can get on with his life.
2006-08-23 13:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is worth it!! Would it mean as much to you if it were easy? 15 years is a lot to be proud of. I have 11 behind me, and they were not all easy. But sometimes it helps to just talk things out. Or give a friend an ear full. Hey, you can fill up my email with your grips, I'm not judgmental, and it may help you if there's something you just want to say......
2006-08-23 13:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by Chaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are married to the wrong person.
I'm married, and I don't find it that hard. There is more pleasure than pain.
Perhaps you need to work out just where your marriage is heading.
Try to find ways to add more spice to the marriage.
Work out if you and your partner have been taking each other for granted.
Treat each time as your first time.
All the best!!!
2006-08-23 13:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it was written to be that way in the beginning with Adam and Eve. Genesis 3:16 To the woman God said: ........
Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.
This scripture refers to the struggle that husband and wife shall have as part of the curse. Showing that the woman will strive to be over her husband but the husband has divine rule over his wife.
Sorry, I guess you can blame it on Adam and Eve.
2006-08-23 13:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by RedC. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋