embezzlement. His bail is 10,000.00. I am so afraid for him. I don't understand why he would do such a stupid thing. I'm a single parent and I love my son very much. I have always done the best I could for him. He comes from a good family. I know it's going to cost a fortune to obtain an attorney and I live pay check to pay check. Can anyone give me a little advice regarding what we're going to face in court and how I would go about obtaining a pro bono attorney for such situation? I don't know what to do. Please Help!
2006-08-23 13:19:23 · 19 answers · asked by catwoman32 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
You don't obtain an attorney for him. He can have one appointed by the court if he cannot afford one on his own.
Honestly, if you live paycheck to paycheck, and he is embezzling, he has more money than you do. This isn't something that you can or should take care of for him.
2006-08-23 13:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe it says if you are arrested for a crime...you have the right to an attorney. If you cant afford one ...the court will appoint an attorney for you. You can be there for your son in attendance when possible and whatever the outcome...hope that it isnt true or hope that if it is true that you continue to support him while he's being a good citizen. After the age of 18...what else can you do?
2006-08-23 13:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son can get a public defender to defend him if he can not afford an attorney. The court will appoint him one. Your son is an adult and you are not legally responsible to bail him out, or to pay for his attorney fees. He committed the crime, let him be accountable for everything he has done, including he needs to be responsible for any costs associated with his crime, including paying restitution if ordered by the court.
As a single parent we try our best and once our children become adults, they are free to make choices as have a free will. Hopefully this experience will teach him a lesson and he will not become a repeat offender.
Again, we are not responsible for our adult childrens' behavior. Period. My advice is to stay out of the situation and let your son deal with it. He is not a child anymore. And I would not stick up for him since you know he is guilty of this crime. Sitting in jail a few months before trial will teach him a lesson that will hopefully make him value his freedom and not want to get into the same situation again.
When parents bail their kids out of situations, their behavior is "enabling", which creates co-dependency. The best thing you can do for your son is not to do anything. Let him face the music and deal with the retribution he deserves.
Real love sometimes requires a parent to have tough love.
Which means you don't help or bail your child out.
2006-08-23 13:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ivy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you obviously love your son and know that he has made a serious mistake. If you are looking into obtaining a pro bono attorney, make an attempt to contact your local public defender. If they aren't listed in the yellow pages, try looking in the local government section.
2006-08-23 13:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by lakefrontblues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His punishment, if he pleads to blame and that's a time-honored offense, could be everywhere from a million-3 hundred and sixty 5 days in reformatory plus restitution, fines, and probation. He additionally would be waiting to get into some form of youthful criminal software if that's a time-honored offense. If he pleads no longer to blame and loses he gets a three hundred and sixty 5 days or greater if its a time-honored offense. He needs to get right into a top high quality rehab software as quickly as obtainable. i could look at a stable one now so he can tell the choose he has signed up and paid for it already. For those asserting that his existence is over and he's inherently undesirable: The male suggestions (particularly the prefrontal cortex that's to blame for decision making) isn't totally shaped till around age 25. He needs to get himself straightened out quickly however.
2016-11-05 11:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by awad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do a single thing at all!!! Your son will be appointed a Public Defender (and the vast majority of them are very good attorneys, contrary to common belief). Just tell your son to KEEP HIS MOUTH SHUT. 95% of people who are charged with felonies in the USA are convicted. Of those, more than 50% plead guilty. Out of the rest 95% or MORE are convicted because they do not keep their mouths SHUT. He does NOT have to speak to ANYONE (including the police) about ANYTHING. He should ONLY speak to his attorney. No phone calls, no visitors, nothing.
2006-08-23 13:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's an adult, he should be handling this himself.
It sounds harsh, but he's not going to learn from his mistake if you bail him out of trouble..
Love and support are one thing - no one is going to think you a bad mother if you let him deal with this. Love him, support him, but don't kill yourself trying to protect him on this.
He will be appointed an attorney who will do his best to defend your son. If he's not a repeat offender, depending on the amount of money he's stolen, the judge may cut him a break.
Put it in God's hands.
Was it a felony? What state are you in?
2006-08-23 13:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by jtxn170 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him get a public deffender. if he was man enough to steal the money he is man enough to pay the consequences. an attorney is just the beginning of it, you will have fines and court fees and alot of other things, if he gets probabtion then that will cost you money every time he has to go. if he has not used his youthful offender then look in to that all states are different but here until you are 22 you can use it.
2006-08-23 14:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's harsh to say but I think sometimes --he has to pay the consequences of his action. And you having to pay for his attorney would to keep him from having any repercussions of what he did. . . And --it could possibly create more and more bigger things down the line.
And if you can't afford it especially.
As an outside observer who doesn't know you and only knows the little bit of what you said, I say public defender. Don't throw your life away because of what he did.
2006-08-23 13:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by sweets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Won't the state provide him with an attorney if he can't afford one? Did he do it? It sounds like it in your question so what I don't understand is why are you going to pay for him to fight it if he's guilty? Seems to me he knew what the risks were before he did it and he needs his mother to tell him to stand up and face the consequences. I know you love your son and wish he didn't do this but he did and the best lesson you can teach him is that you are not going to bail him out of the trouble he knowingly gets himself into. And yes I do have children and all 7 of them know where I stand on this. If they get themselves in to trouble, I will stand by them and always love them but they will have to reap whatever it is that they sow. I know this sounds harsh but they all know I love them too much to enable them to break the law and then think that I will be there to get them out of it.
2006-08-23 13:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Stacy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋