I have MS and not getting any younger. I want to try to talk my husband into going for another baby. We have one 7 year old daughter, but I want at least one more. Can some one please give me the right words to talk him into it??? I don't want to trick him into getting me pregnant. I am over 30 and he is over 40. Please some ideas quickly. Thank you.
2006-08-23 13:15:44 · 13 answers · asked by M.S. Mom 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I am not totally handicapped in any way, due to the MS. I take care of our home and our daughter. Plus teach at Church, and volunteer at my daughters school.
2006-08-23 13:21:47 · update #1
My doctor has given me full clearance for this. They said I would be very healthy during the pregnancy. Yes, I would need help the first 6 weeks or so.
2006-08-23 13:25:25 · update #2
MS... multiple sclorosis. A disease.
2006-08-23 13:38:42 · update #3
Just be honest with him - use the same argument that you are using here - that you have MS, not getting any younger, and want one more child. Some men also respond to the "I want to try for a boy to pass on the family name" approach.
2006-08-23 13:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good old fashioned communication. Straight forward type. Tell him just what you said here. I am not getting older and I would like to have one more baby...simple...give him time to think it over and if he doesn't then respect his wishes. You said you have MS...that could be a real reason he may not want another child...who will take care of this child when you may not be able to? It may be a real concern for him. It also may not be good for your disease management either. Check with your dr first and get all the facts before hand. Some of the meds you take may not be safe for the baby and if you have to stop them to be pregnant...what will that do for you? Lots to think about....
2006-08-23 20:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by rainysnana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take the time to sit down with a piece of paper and list the postive things about having another baby and list the negtive also right him a letter stating how you feel and stating that u understand how he feels explain to him everything tell him how as a women you have lloked for forward to being able to bare chikdren your whole life. after writing down everything read it to him and give him time to think within the next week askhim what he thinks and accept his answer if he is not ready it could cause results that you may not like so just be honest and talk though it good luck
2006-08-23 21:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by take_me_away3354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start by talking to him about all the good times you had when your daughter was a baby. Talk about all the first things she did. See how into this conversation he gets. If you notice he's really into the happy memories, tell him how much you miss those times. Lead that into the having a new baby conversation.
2006-08-23 22:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tammie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him openly and honestly about it, and if he doesn't want any more children don't force it on him, or you may end up with MS, 2 kids and a broken marriage.
2006-08-23 20:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jason 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's feeling overwhelmed, you being sick and him being faced with the possibility of doing all the child-raising. I don't think you can talk someone into something ilke having another baby under the circumstances, and it's probably not fair to him - or the potential child - to try to guilt him into it.
2006-08-23 20:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him exactly what you just told the people on here. the worst thing he can do is say no i am sure if he really loves you he will be ohnest and not upset i am sure he wont leave you over something like this. he may be very understanding just be ohnest and tell him to be ohnest as well.
2006-08-23 20:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by ravon w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you don't want to be using a walker and that baby's graduation do you?? I think you should just have pride in the daughter you have and not worry about having another child
2006-08-23 20:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by ladym963 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take 10 minutes to think then write it on a paper.
2006-08-23 20:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by Muy W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you guys may have a boy and he can teach him all the things you need to be a boy
=P
2006-08-23 20:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by chunchy butt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋