Does it mean that he is unhappily married? Eventhough he is in his early 30st and `ve married for over 10 years???!!!!
2006-08-23 13:11:24 · 37 answers · asked by Fromthefirstsight 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
then obviously he isnt interested in a family life
2006-08-23 13:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay wither or not this married guy is happy with his marrage or not, is his buis. and should be off limits to anything other than friendship.
However remember that some people who have been married for a long time and are happly married do things seperate from the other person, and maybe his wife is throwing a tuperwear party that he doesn't want to be at.
However if he is unhappy with his marrage and he is just avoiding his family rather than go threw a divorce that is his choice.
On the other hand he may just be going threw a hard time, they maybe fighting and this is his way of dealing with it and giving her space.
He may also be an alcholic and all the stuff that goes along with that.
You will never know unless you ask him......
2006-08-23 13:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your married ten years here doesn't mean a couple is happy. It just be come a routine. Spending three nights a week in a bar is no help sound like he rather be there than with you. Ask why? Don't nag him it only drive more to the bar. But find out if there is something bothering him. Some men hide their emotional problems behind drink.
2006-08-23 13:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if HE's unhappily married, but I'm pretty sure his wife is. He might be alcoholic (wasted 3 nights a week - how productive). He might be immature. If he is unhappy at home, he's certainly not doing anything to improve the situation - which is what immature people do.
2006-08-23 13:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me on this one. This guy is more than a problem drinker. He's probably an alcoholic. He has inner issues that in all probabillity have nothing directly to do with his marriage. The fallout of his drinking is likely landing in many places, not just with his marriage. To wit: his finances, his job, his friends (no, not drinking buddies, his friends), his pastimes that don't involve drinking, his driving record, and on and on. Remember this: most guys, single or married, don't EVER get "wasted." Only a small fraction of men beyond the age of 30 gets wasted regularly as your question suggests. When your husband gets his drinking life in order, he'll get his home fires burning again.
2006-08-23 13:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by runawaytraderdotcom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's unhappy with his marriage and thats his way of trying to forget about it. But that doesn't work. It just cost money and you feel bad the next day. He is defanitely having problems with his wife. He may be hiding something from her and don't know how to tell her so he tries to forget it by getting drunk.He just need to accepted that there is some kind of problem and face it. Talk to his wife, them both talk to a consulor or something. He is defainetly avoiding his hoome. And thats noway for anyone to live. If you have to do that you shouldn't be married.
2006-08-23 13:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl000000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if this necessarily means he's unhappily married or unhappy. This sounds more like addictive behavior that is typically a product of several factors.
2006-08-23 13:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by MoxieMinx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it has nothing to do with his wife. It means he is now an alcoholic. Go to ALANON and if he wishes to change his life, he should quit drinking, and seek support like at AA. Whatever happens, just remember an addiction is something that hurts everyone around him, specially wife and kids. So, no reason to stay married with someone who is wasting everybodies lifes.
Just remember this is not about you, you are not the problem, the problem is his.
2006-08-23 14:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by avll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married 20 years and he spent 5 nights a week in a bar getting wasted and during our divorce he begged and pleaded for me not to divorce him...no I hate to say it but they just like to party and be drunk..has nothing to do with loving you or wanting out of the marriage
2006-08-23 13:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. It could be that he is just bored and looking for some fun. The alcohol drinking might be what he thinks he needs to let loose. Go with him to the bar and let your own hair down a bit and see what happens. Also, you could ask him if he wants to spice it up a bit at home so that he isn't at the bar as much.
2006-08-23 13:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by Melm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There not enough info to decide. It could mean lots of things. Does he have kids at home? Maybe he just wants to relax after work and he can't relax at home. Maybe he is a drunk. Maybe there is a problem with his marriage. Maybe he is with friends he really enjoys. There is definitely a reason though. Most guys in good mirages will go home most the vast majority of nights.
2006-08-27 04:08:04 · answer #11 · answered by goose1077 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋