been off drugs for a month, cant get otheres to leave me alone?

Answer 1

Tell them to F U C K Off! Anyone who wants you to use is not a friend...they just want you there to validate the belief system they have built up around their addictions.

Answer 2

I don't know if you've gone to AA or NA but I know they can help give you the support you need. If others are bothering you tell them that you're not interested in doing drugs anymore. When they see that you mean it they'll stop bothering you. It may take awhile before they actually believe you...especially if you use to party with them. In the meantime, start a new hobby or activity. Go out and meet new people that don't do drugs. Those are all positive things that could help you. By the way congrats on 1 month. You have alot of strength & courage. Keep up the good work.. You can do it!!!

Answer 3

People who are close to and love someone who uses drugs are not only scared to death for their loved one while that person is using the drugs but are usually quite aware of how easy it is for a person to slip up and use drugs again (and this scares them to death as well). People who love someone who uses drugs just want to know that it stopped and will never start again because the idea of what could happen to the drug user is so terrifying. For parents, watching their previously healthy and maybe lively child grow to be someone who uses drugs and messes up their life is one of the most awful things they can watch. All they want for their son or daughter is that they be healthy and happy and build their own future.

Give the people who won't leave you alone a little time to see that they have nothing to fear. Understand that because you used drugs you have created a fear in them for your health and wellbeing that they now have to eventually come around to realizing is no longer a worry. You must have had your reasons for using drugs, and maybe you weren't in a position to realize or worry about the fear and insecurity (what if something happened to you) and anger and worry your using drugs brought to those who love you. The reality is, though, that you weren't just hurting your own health and future. You were hurting the ones who love you and care about you.

Understand their hurt as much as they have probably tried to understand your weakness, and just give them some time. In the world of drug use a month is nothing.

(Oops. I may have misinterpreted your question. I thought the problem was that your family and friends are on your back because they need to know you're ok and not using drugs. I read the other answers and realized I may have missed the point...)

Answer 4

It is sad that you will probably have to leave your circle of friends for a while until you are VERY strong because they will continue to be "nice" and ask you to participate in whatever they are doing.

Weird though how life brings new friends when you need them though! You already have transparency and honesty going for you so you'll have no problem making new friends that are positive. Friends that will inspire you to greater things instead of making yourself sad at the end of the day.

Hang in there and know that you did the right thing. Those others are watching you and secretly cheering you on because if you can do it, that means they can too!

Answer 5

Try a 2 week holiday. Move to another neighborhood, or different part of town Make new friends. It's hard enough going off drugs without having to fend off "friends" who may wish to drag you back into the old habit because they want company and cannot quit themselves.
Congratulations.
D.

Answer 6

If they are trying to get you to do drugs just tell them you're not interested. It might help to point out that you're not judging them for their drug use, just that you made a decision for yourself.

I'd also recommend just leaving when the drug use starts. Don't make a big deal about it, just don't be around when it happens. Ultimately, they will stop using drugs around you if they want you to come around still. Sort of like "Pavlov's Drugs".

Good luck

Answer 7

The biggest problem people who stop using illegal drugs face is developing a new comfort zone. You have been associating with drug users for some time now, going to places where drugs were used, conversation usually centered on procuring and using drugs. The people you hung with were "just like you" and it felt comfortable to be around them even if you didn't want to be. Its hard to change and feel comfortable around people whom you feel are not like how you see you. They don't think like you, don't act like you, etc. Thats why the probation an parole officers don't let felons and drug users hang with their friends. Its hard not to act like the people you associate with. You will need help to avoid them. They will try to pull you down with them, get you to go back to your old behavior patterns. If you stay away from them for awhile you will develop new comfort zones and soon their ways will feel uncomfortable.

Answer 8

GOOD JOB!! You did the right thing. It will take them a little time to leave you alone. They will offer but if you're strong and keep a grip on this new profound life you will keep safe.

Answer 9

it takes alot of balls to kick.
but once you decide you want to be clean, nothing - and no one can take that away.
you're in control now.

keeping the same group of friends is going to make things harder than they need to be. distance yourself, make sure they know whats going on with you - hopefully they can respect that.

have you gotten to the point where you just open your eyes and the world is more clear, and it feels good - like the sun on your face when it's cold?

when you get to that place..the drugs will feel like an old dusty memory, and you'll feel confident that you'll never need them again. it will come in time..

it feels good. i promise.

good luck.

Answer 10

Find a support group and make them your friends. You are going to have to completely disassociate yourself from your former friends if they are drug users or enablers. Sorry to tell you that, but if you want to save yourself, you have to remove yourself from temptation. Very best of luck to you and good job so far!