i have been married for over 2 years but i feel as if im heading for divorce. we no longer talk or even sleep together. he has started seperating his money from mine. he wont even do anything with our girls what should i do. should i try to make it fresh again or just give up on it. i love him with all my heart but i feel as if im alone.
2006-08-23 12:48:53 · 26 answers · asked by MICHELE w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It all depends how he feels. If he wants to work at it then go for it. You can't be the only one in the relationship who wants to make it work.
2006-08-23 12:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jen G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is preparing to leave. Talk, talk and more talk. Try your hardest to find a sitter so you can get everything out in the open with no children around. Make a rule that you can yell and scream all you want but NO NAME CALLING! Don't let him walk all over you and do all of the screaming, stand up and tell him what you think and try not to cry. If he sees how strong you are he may think better of you for it. Good luck.
2006-08-23 12:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Melm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time for a confrontation with him, alone if possible. Ask him why the separate sleeping and money arrangements he's making. Point blank ask him what his intentions are. If he says he's headed out the door then you need to seek a lawyers help. Don't wait for him to leave you and all the bills behind. Take care of your girls first.
2006-08-23 12:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm no longer an authority right here, yet you're saying it really is basically an engagement no longer something authentic exceeded off between you, basically exchanged earrings, yet you probably did not get married legally precise? Then why do you imagine there might want to be any felony issues for you and your household? it really is only an uncomplicated engagement that did not bypass properly, engagement is a era the position you get to carry close one yet another with the approval of your households, i comprehend those traditions because i'm center eastern and we've very similar cultures, yet because you probably did no longer have any authentic dedication, and also you probably did not easily have any relationship (sexually) with the girl then you're surely effective. sturdy success
2016-11-27 01:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you are saying is the romance is gone, never marry for romance, it fades and you are stuck with just another person.
I know that term " the romance is gone" is overused but it is very true, everyone like romance and women lose the ability to romance men just like men lose it, when you are dating, you doll yourself up, try to look nice and then you get married, you doll yourself up for the people at work or church or the mall but never for him. and when you do , you make such a big deal about it that it is hard to enjoy the moment. women are always complaining about the romance being gone but never realize where they dropped the ball. think about what you did and how you acted b4 you were married and what has changed. have you become his mother just because you are a mother? do you slop around the house in your comfy clothes all the time? do you brush your hair every morning? even on saturdays and sundays? put on perfume on the weekends or the evenings, you always put it on when you were dating. married people tend to settle into a comfortable life that is a little too comfortable, you become co-dependent. are you and him co-dependent? frustration doesn't develop marriage skills, knowledge does . are you reading to identify your problems? or are you just blaming it all on him?
2006-08-23 13:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for some reason he feels disrespected. If you constantly harangue, harass, and berate your husband, he will pull back from you. If you threaten him, he will start to protect himself. I would ask him what the exact problem is, and find out why he is acting this way. Let him talk, and listen well. If he's being shady and is cheating on you, get a lawyer and protect yourself. He looks as if he's getting ready to leave you. Talk to him, and if he doesn't, then tell him your intentions of taking that lazy no good for nothing son of a gun to the bank. My advice? Find out the facts. Hire someone to find out what he's doing, and react appropriately. If it's something you've done, then fix it quick! good luck.
2006-08-23 12:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by punkdrunkard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys move on mentally before actually moving out psychically. He seems to have already ended the relationship in his head his body will soon catch up. You can't save a marriage alone no reason to try unless you are both 100% into making it right. Talk to him if he's not into saving it you have to let it go.
2006-08-23 12:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him that his actions are hurting you terribly. Maybe he doesn't realise it. Tell him you still love him with all my heart but you feel extremely isolated from him. Perhaps there were unresolved grievances previously, iron things out together. A word of advice for you, if he ever (touch wood!) leaves you, make sure there are enough savings for you and your girls to tide through before you are financially independent.
If you suspect he's got someone else outside, then you need to ask yourself this: Am I willing to stay on because I love him so much and wait for him to finally return to me?
Or: I am not going to take his nonsense anymore and I've gotta get up on my own feet and move on with my girls.
If you choose to stay on, endure and love him as usual. Loving a person doesn't mean you expect reciprocation. Maybe one day, he'll realise your love for him and he returns to you.
If you choose to let go, after a long period of endurance, do realise that your girls are innocent victims. They need your moral and financial support. Be strong for them.
2006-08-23 13:07:50 · answer #8 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I think you should try and talk to him but, keep it friendly no hostility. And maybe you two just needs some time alone. Take a weekend trip without the kids.
2006-08-23 12:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk. Communicate. Go on a date. Buy some lingerie. Do more then you normally do around the house to get his attention.Remind him why you two fell in love and got married and had babies. If you can't talk, write a letter or email.
It takes effort, creativity and desire to change things.
2006-08-23 12:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by nashiranickel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did something happen recently? When did all this start? One year ago? Did you two start drifting apart after the second or first child was born?
If you look closely, you will find the thing that caused the rift.
2006-08-23 12:52:12 · answer #11 · answered by brian k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋