Hi im in the african american and my boyfriend is white. Now his parents hate me because im black, and dont want us going out. I been going with him since april the 3rd of 2005, and were so hooked on each other. Everyone at school loves our relationship but again his parents still hate it. So were sneaking around and then i make him tell his dad cuz i felt bad for him hidding it from his parents, and they make us break up. So me and him decided to stay together. Now we have had our good times and bad times but we always work it out. This boy is not only my boyfriend but my soul, mind, heart, best friend, and better half. So now his daddy catches us again the week before school start and we decided to stay together but this time if we get caught he has to move. Now im confused because i love this boy to deaf but i dont want to get caught and make him have to move. Then again its hard on him because he's always worrying about his parents finding out, and now im always stressing.
2006-08-23 12:47:20 · 7 answers · asked by cutie p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You do have a dilema, the main problem being your age. Seeing you are both at school, and under eighteen, he is still under the control of his parents.
Being underaged, also makes it hard to get a job, and a place to live.
You have little choices, see each other, and be very discrete about it, or give each other up, until you are both of age.
Neither is a great solution, but I can't see any other.
It's a waiting game for you both.
Good Luck to you both.
2006-08-23 12:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by johnb693 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What kind of a future can you have with him if his parents are racist? And your continuing to be with him is making him disobey his parents. In my opinion, stop wasting your time and move on because it will probably end anyway, I have seen this before and racist parents will stop at nothing to end a relationship. It is not the happiest answer but the most realistic. Nothing says you can't remain friends, but I would advise you to set your sights on another man/boy, whether white or African American, for a relationship. If you mean this much to him then he will try and set his parents right when faced with the reality of losing you. Meanwhile, you should do the right thing and not give him opportunity to disobey his parents, regardless of whether they are right or wrong, and it is obvious they are wrong in this circumstance.
2006-08-23 13:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im white and my man is blk,,,,and if his or my parents had issues about us that would make us stronger as a couple.....i dont know how old you guys are but if you dont have a plan if he gets kicked out of his house its going to be very difficult for the both of you. its a dam shame the ignorance of some people...it really pisses me off!!!! what makes him think hes better than anyone else??? all i can say is good luck....if you guys are too young to move out together maybe yu should wait until you finish school ,,get jobs and find your own place together,,,then show them all that you are in love with eachother.
2006-08-23 12:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know if you hang out at school is cool but also do some after school program and be discrete about it i know his parents are racist but they can't help it but you don't need to be stressing about this either so be careful and keep it on the down low and good luck and when you are out of school be together and if they move what to keep him from running away from them be careful cause can't nothing stop true love
2006-08-23 13:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, why risking your life on short relationship,you know that relationship only last when parents are in support of the said relationship, especially when it come to marriage, you ll be marrying the whole of your husband family, you might build the same love for another person, please quite that relationship or the guy's family will go after you.
2006-08-23 12:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont know what to say but i m going to ty to help you...ok...this is what i think if you go to the same school as him then only hang out at school....my opinion is that yah should only hang out in school and not go out after school because you dont want him to move....i rather just hang out with him at school because his parents cant catch yah their...but if you go out with him after school their is a chance that you and him get caught and you know you dont want that.....i hope this helped some....i wish you a lot of luck...
2006-08-23 12:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by shy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other, stay together. let them find out, it doesnt matter. Stay strong, who cares what the parents think.
2006-08-23 12:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋