2006-08-23 12:44:34 · 39 answers · asked by Clarky 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's because she's feeeling soooo uncomfortable right now...it's very nice of you to try and figure out what YOU can do to help. Most guys aren't even worried about what they can do to help, but since you are...I would do EVERYTHING you possibly can that is unselfish. Make sure she eats first before you, make sure she feels comfortable, make sure you tell her she's beautiful. Make sure you tell her how much you appreciate the fact that she's doing such a wonderful job carrying your child. Make sure if she is tired, you do the housework. DON'T resent her for being pregnant and needing a lot of attention...being pregnant IS a big deal, as some might downgrade it and say it is not. Just love her and be considerate of what sh likes and dislikes.
2006-08-23 12:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Massage all the bits that ache, especially the legs. Get a stool to put her feet up on if they are swollen. Basically pamper her as much as you can, help her relax. Try to do as much around the house as you can for her. Hoovering is good, before I was pregnant it took me 15 minutes to do the house top to bottom, but when I reached 32 weeks plus I ballooned out and it took me over an hour.
The most important thing though is not to snap back at her just take it like a man! My husband learnt this the hard way, bless his cottons!!
2006-08-23 20:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by chelle0980 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set her up something romantic and calming start off with dinner something that you know she really enjoys eating light candles put her a glass of white grape juice instead of wine and enjoy a romantic dinner while at dinner excuses your self for a minute. go to the bathroom and run her a nice hot bubble bath with candles and chocolate's around the tub have some soft music playing. while she is relaxing in the tub offer to rub her feet or give her a nice massage then help her get into bed and just show her that you love her no matter of the changes she has made explain to her that you understand how hard and how much she is going through to have this child and tell her how much you thank her for doing it and tell her that you are grateful to have such a wonderful wife. Tell her much you think she is going to great mother and so on basically kiss *** dude i know when my husband did it made me think about what he was saying and not the things that was going on with my body good luck
2006-08-23 13:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by take_me_away3354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be safe pregnant women are bitchy (like me) stay at a distance....the best thing for you to do is give her little things like run her bath make something that she is craving or buy her something. But be careful dont over do and stay far away when you do any of these things do them so that she can find them dont give them to her that just pushes all the wrong buttons.... make sure that you wait until she acknowledges you....if she doesnt comment on the gifts or anything that you are doing it doesnt mean that she is mad or doesnt care it means she doesnt want to be bothered be rest assure she does thank you she just not in the mood for the conversation of the extra time to say thank you....believe me if she doesnt yell at you or get up thats a good thing....by the way stay out of the way there is nothing that is safer than waiting for her to need you not you tagging behind her asking her if she does...space is good just dont leave her too much space then she feels alone be there but at a distance
2006-08-23 12:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by Donna J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a lovely question and congratulations that you're soon going to be a dad!
She's going to feel the same way until the baby arrives so I'm afraid you're going to have to be patient for a while yet.
Any help with household chores would be good, cooking, doing the washing etc - towards the end of my pregnancies I could hardly bend down to put washing in the machine.
Poor quality sleep will probably be playing a big part so making sure she gets plenty of rest and a nap if she needs one by the afternoon will help her to feel better.
Good luck
K x
2006-08-23 12:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give her a massage. You don't need to be a pro to do that. I am 20 weeks pregnant and I feel cranky too. But one thing surely does the magic is my husband gives me massage every night before go to bed. You wife is not only physically uncomfortable, but mentally, she needs to know you are giving her the full gear support.
2006-08-23 13:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run her a bath put some candles carefully placed out of danger of setting fire to any thing play some relaxing music in the next room put a rose on a towel for when she gets out have a box of chocs her fav on the bed for when she goes to bedgive her a wonderful massage on her feet an her back just use gentle stuff baby lotion an oil when she wakes up the next morning give her a suprise a bunch of flowers an breakfast in bed i had this done once an oh it was like being in heaven get some special bath products for pregnant women they help by helping you relax the smell is usually relaxing to an they help your skin too hope this helps just treat her like a princess another thing that is good get something to put a picture of you both an your new baby in just to show you really care good luck all the best
2006-08-23 13:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try being supportive and listen to what she's saying. Hormones do strange things to pregnant women. They laugh one minute, then cry the next. It's normal. Also, try rubbing her feet and back as they get pretty sore around this time. Another trick is helping get ready for baby, like getting the nursery ready, buying a baby toy, etc... All these things will show her you care, even if it seems like she doesn't notice!
2006-08-23 12:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Tammie C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just put yourself in her place. Remember you helped her get pregnant & she is doing all the work. Practical things you could do for her: Massage any part that is tired & sore, burn a cd for her of her favorite music (you could take this with you when she is giving birth, depending what choices you made for your birthing process), do any comfort things she likes.
Prepare a bath but not too hot with smoke free candles.
You know best.
2006-08-23 13:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by Fraulein 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how much you love her, and how much you appreciate what she's going through right now so that you both can have a child. Talk about the baby and how much you're looking forward to it.
Listen to her complain without offering solutions. For example, if she says "My feet hurt", instead of offering solutions, just say "I'm so sorry. That must be very painful." In other words, listen... listen... listen!
2006-08-23 12:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by sugarpine25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋