I am 24 yrs old Indian girl. I feel sad, depressed and lonely! I was raped when i was 7 yrs old! I am unwanted child of my parents as they themselves told me, that they wanted to abort me but could not as my mom could have died, as it was cesarian section, and it was illegal to abort. They hate me and my dad used to beat me everyday and my mom used to support him, i was not allowed to socialise. My dad and mom sexually abused me and always forced me to suicide but i didnt.My boyfriend raped me with his friend in a car! I did my graduation and doing my M.B.A. Now. i am at present in Canada in Youth Exchange Programme. I really want love, and one guy from U.S.A. is coming to meet me this weekend. He wants to marry me, he knows my past, i met him on matrimonial site. he has a fiancee in India, but he wants to leave her and marry me, as he wants me to be happy!Should i marry him? I feel suicidal and cant talk about my past to anyone except on net! what if he dumps me? I LOVE God! plz help!
2006-08-23 12:39:22 · 15 answers · asked by isha s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You are not a mistake you are a miracle. God does not make mistakes only people make mistakes. One day your parents will answer for the way they treated you. You should be happy. Only marry this man if you are going to be happy. Get some help for your suicidal thoughts. You need to seek help. I hope everything works out for you. May God bless you.
2006-08-23 12:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by jane d 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Girlie........
I really wish i could be there to hear u. feeling suicidal is quiet natural when u have faced so many things. I must say u are a brave girl to have come this far in ur life. Who says u r worthless, mistake. U urself have managed to comethis far. U r Great my sister. I really appreciate ur courage and i am damn shocked to hear that u r success now. Why feel suicidal now. U have everything in life. Life itself is a gift why r u losing it.
I mean i love u. U r a wonderful person. I really wish i could be there to here ur problems. Listen u r such a wonderful girl u will come accross so many good people and u will find the right guy for u. but be carefull with ur life. Don't take any decision in life which involves the risk of losing ur self esteem. U will be happy then. Beware of men cos when u show u r so helpless they try to take advantage of u. So be confident be a brave girl, live ur life king size. Don't let anyone feel pity for u. U r brave and wonderful person.
All the best from my side. u can mail me if u like. This friend of urs is always there to listen to u.
Love and wishes
2006-08-24 06:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Preet_Answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You should really see about some counseling. Counselors are trained to leave their own opinions aside and will try to work with you to deal with your past history. You may get feedback from your net conversations but you really need to deal with a professional on this.
2. You are currently very vulnerable to an approach that promises love and security. Please be very cautious with this guy from the U.S. If he has one fiancee already and is willing to give her up for you, he could easily find another person and dump you with as much disdain. This would not be good for you and he probably wouldn't care.
3. Again, you really see about counseling. The school health organization should be able to point you in the right direction. Remember, not only have you had a traumatic history, you are also in a foreign country and away from whatever support systems you may have (limited though they sound).
2006-08-23 19:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by eriurana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually think I'm a pretty funny guy. But I'm taking you seriously.
If all you say is true, then you are in a lot of pain. I sympathize. However, you will never find peace for yourself in another person. You need to live alone for awhile. Come to know and love yourself by yourself. Until you can do this, you have nothing useful to offer another but your body and no other person will offer any thing that will be a comfort to you, regardless how much you might mean to them.
Get to a point that Mom and Dad's problems are no longer your problems and marriage seems more of an option you might like, than an escape you must have.
Truely, this is the best advice I can offer you if you are sincere.
If you are not sincere .... Get Bent!
2006-08-23 19:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find a Psychologist that you trust and talk to her/him first. I wouldn't marry until you've resolved some of your past issues. One should never marry out of pity. Suicide is never the answer! Part of becoming an adult is developing self love and quit blaming/hurting over your past. Yes, you had a crappy upbringing, but you are free to choose now! You can become anything you want to be!! You are 24!! I would predict that you have a good 70 more years left in you. Look to the future! Hope this helps.
2006-08-23 19:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by seanroyce 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want to say some words to you, but I know nothing can soothe the pain , because I know what it is to be an unwanted child and others taking advantage of the fact that you crave for love and care
I m one like you; so just realise that whatever happens, God has something great in store for you. Whatever happens, happens for good, You have a lesson to learn from every event.
Trust my words, cos I went through all the pain that you have gone through; at right time God has given me happiness; and peace and a good life
Whatever it is complete your MBA and get a job; be independent first, and the rest will follow
2006-08-23 21:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by insignia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all u r not a mistake. ur on this earth because god wanted u fight all this matter of urs le'ts just forget abt ur past right now. well first of all why don't u find out that why that guy from usa wanted to marry u, and listen he is dumping a girl for u so u should make sure that u won't get any cursed from that girl that ur boyfriend's fiance. To behonest first find out why he is eager to marry u i know u told us that's he only wnat to marry me bec he feels sad for u but make sure it's love not just the attraction that young guys take in their youth and later they just drop it (devorse it) i kthink it's too late to answer ur question but i felt to help u out even though it's too late. bye and i am from canada too.
2006-08-24 00:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by Khu$hboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put all you faith into what one person says, it may be hard but you should learn that not all people are going to hurt you and you don't always have to talk about your past right away. Give people a chance b/c there are some amazing ones out there. Don't that and especially don't give up on your self.
I hope this helps.
2006-08-23 22:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by Gwennan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey isha ...don't feel depressed b'coz here ur parents r wrong and not u so why to give punishment to urself.....u should meet thet guy first and then decide if he is the correct person for u or not and don't ever try to commit suicide for those parents who treat u so badly.....i just want to say that ur parents don't deserve u .....if u wanna friend u can contact me at candy_cake_chocolate@yahoo.co.in but i m quite younger than u ...i m 15 but i m an indian girl from punjab.......GOOD LUCK for ur meeting with that guy
2006-08-23 23:13:20 · answer #9 · answered by tulip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complete your M.B.A and find a good job.Don't fall in a trap, once again.Trust in God.If you know,the Gayatri Mantra, chant it. Engage yourself in some social work. Things will change for the better.Good luck.
2006-08-23 20:37:55 · answer #10 · answered by Truth ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋