My wife wont have sex with me during the day. She incists we do it at night when every one is asleep. But Im too tired at night I work an average of 16 hrs a day in terrible heat. What can I do?
2006-08-23 12:39:08 · 29 answers · asked by Not tellin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im only home on sundays all day, Most of the time I leave before dawn for work. We have 3 kids at home but there usually asleep in the morning.
2006-08-23 12:45:02 · update #1
WHY WOULD ANYONE TELL ME TO RAPE OR KILL MY WIFE? YOU GUYS A LIL BIT CRAZY. NOT ALL OF YOU JUST THOSE WHO SUGGESTED THAT!
2006-08-23 12:48:01 · update #2
Oh my God, Im the same way. My hubby hates it. I think you have to romance her. Take her to lunch, suprise her with something. Talk sweet to her, and touch her where you know it really gets her. Thats what I need. maybe thatll work for you. Good Luck!
2006-08-23 12:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by ~~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either send the kids to a sitter, or just make sure you can be totally private. send them to their friend's house or something. Maybe...the mood just isn't right during the day. I understand that. Try making the room right; shut the blinds make it as dark as possible; light a few candles; buy her a nightie and give it to her with some roses when you take her to lunch. But make it clear that you didn't take her to lunch just to get sex from her. Compromise some. Who cares if you're tired as long as you're happy and sexually satisfied? Do it at night sometimes. You don't want it cause you're tired; she doesn't want it because people might here. You are probably driving her nuts too! Make an effort, whether you're tired or not. She'll love you even more for it, then sex will be even better. Just sit down and talk with her; tell her you'll try if she'll try. Good luck!
2006-08-23 19:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since I know who you are and I know you left some things out Im gonna put you in your place. For one your wife isnt holding out on you, who in the world wants to have sex with 3 kids awake and running around the house. She stays up til late evening hours waiting on you to wake up from your "nap" that lasted since you got home from work hoping to have conversation and maybe a lil love making. Man you should really post ALL the facts before you let all these people judge your wife. Your pathetic.
2006-08-24 13:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesnt want to do anything because there are people around... Sex is a very intimate thing and when there is a chance the kids can hear, most women wont do it.
I say, call up a sitter, get your wife to come to lunch with you, and have a motel/hotel room reserved for the lunch hour so you can spend some MUCH needed parent time together.
2006-08-23 19:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda in the same boat. My guy works 4pm-2am.
I work 8am-6pm when i come home he is already at work when he comes home I'm sound asleep and have to get in up in a few hours plus he is tired. We are weekend warriors. Saturday we spend time with the kid and as soon as my son goes to sleep we go at it like teenagers. Sunday we get up way early and have a good round of it.
Just find the time I'm always in the mood and he isn't. Trust me I would love for him to come home and lay the pipe down I am more than willing to go to work a little tired.
2006-08-23 20:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by gracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels like it's rushed during the day. I know if we want to do it during the day we have to hide in the bedroom with the kids trying to break the door down. How romantic is that?! Get a babysitter perhaps so she can relax and enjoy it.
2006-08-23 19:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compromise.. have sex during the day one day and at night the next. if she won't go for it, hold out on her. just come home and say you are too tired. or, just take a nap before hand, if that is possible... if she won't compromise, thats kinda lousy of her. BUT if she won't, you're going to have to choose which need is greater... sex or sleep
2006-08-23 19:42:27 · answer #7 · answered by MnKLmT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with her for a little while and i'm sure she will come around, That so sucks you have that problem i could care less what time it is when i have sex as long as i get to lol. But don't cheat on your wife though that is bad advice!!!!
2006-08-23 19:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is the light of day that keeps her from it cuz she's insecure - then just darken the bedroom windows and offer her a back rub. Don't ask for sex. Say, "Hey, you want to cuddle and make out?"
2006-08-23 19:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm thats tough question, tell her you both need to compromise. tell her you need to have sex once in awhile in the day time then you will give her some during the night time. switch it up....if she dont agree on that i think you are in trouble.
2006-08-23 19:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋