Im so scared and nervous becuase I didn't even expect it I go to school and work and I have a 4-year old daughter, should I drop everything and have this baby? I am resposible 24, my BF wants to get married his happy why ain't I??? HELP IM CONFUSSED????thanks
2006-08-23 12:30:46 · 15 answers · asked by California<3 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just pray to the lord and trust in him and follow your heart instead of your head. Don't drop everything just to have the baby unless you really, really have to do so. Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-23 12:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by hot topic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What alternatives are you considering other than having the baby? None of us here can make the choice for you, and you really need to do some soul searching before you make your decision. Don't let the BF force you into something you don't feel ready to do, it's your life too. But if you do have the baby, yes, you will have to drop everything to take care of her. You will probably have to put off school and work for a few months while you take care of the baby. I was nervous and scared too, when I found out I was prego. I didn't know what I was going to do! All I can say is, this is your choice to make. All of us on here, we don't know the specifics of your life, and I don't feel comfortable telling you whether to have your baby or not. Just do what you feel is right for yourself, even if that means other options other than having the baby. Make sure you don't tell your daughter until you know for sure what's going on, because you don't want her to get excited about something that may not happen. Good luck to you.
2006-08-23 19:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Rose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to drop everything to have the baby. Just keep doing what you are doing. When the baby comes maybe a few things might change but not many. You have done this all before so it won't be as scary as the first time. You also have a boyfriend that supports you and wants the baby and you - so you will be fine. My son is 8 and I just had a baby - I felt the same way you did - but everything worked out fine. I am more mature, I know exactly what I have to do with the baby. I have already changed my way of life because of my first kid - so I really had nothing to change. I still do what I have to do to better myself and my kids' life. Good luck!
2006-08-23 19:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by Chela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have the baby and still be a responsible mom that works and goes to school. Finish your schooling as fast as possible. Even if you have to make some sacrifices, it'll be better for your kids in the long run. You don't have to drop everything. Keep working and going to school until you have the baby. Maybe take 1 semester off from school when the baby is born to give yourself time to adjust. A lot of people make it work. I am one of them.
2006-08-23 19:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well.....talk it over with your boyfriend. maybe he would be willing to wait another year? maybe you are just being hormonal and it's freaking you out. to be perfectly honest, i got pregnant last year totally unplanned. b/f was happy, me not so much. then i had a miscarriage. in the end, we both decided to try again. and again. turns out i wanted this baby almost as much as he did. if your man loves you, he will be willing in every way possible to make sure you are happy. and yes, it is possible for you to still go to school, raise a child and be pregnant at the same time. it's hard, but possible. and when the baby gets here, you can still continue with school. people do it all the time. if you want it, it can be done. so relax, talk about it with your man. you will both come to a decision you both won't regret.
2006-08-23 19:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt drop everything to raise the baby, your children are going to need an educated and professional mother. Please dont get married just because of a baby get married for love.
2006-08-23 19:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should of thought about it before you had the sex. Since you have a 4 yr old looks like you are not smart enough to learn your lesson the first time. Get your tubes tied. Quit thinning the gene pool.
2006-08-23 19:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by big E 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you have the means to raise another child by yourself? Assuming things do not work out with your boyfriend, would you be able to raise two children alone? Think about that question before answering the one you posted.
2006-08-23 19:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just experiencing a little anxiety.You shouldn't drop anything(unless you can afford to).In fact you should try to get and save as much as possible right now.I am so happy for you!!.CONGRATULATIONS!!!1
2006-08-23 19:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you are NOT responsible if you arent married but have a 4-yr-old and are pregnant. Seriously, you should dump the guy and give him the kid if you arent happy.
2006-08-23 19:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by kl-e 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋