My fiance broke everything off after almost 5 years because of my drinking habits I slowed down alot, but I made a mistake about a week ago and had to much to drink again. I dont get violent or anything like that when I drink she doesnt like it, I have tried to call and appologize but she want take my calls she means the whole world to me. Any suggestions?
2006-08-23 12:24:41 · 12 answers · asked by brent c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had a drinking problem when i met my husband but he hung in there because he saw how unhappy i was I got caught drinking and driving and did alot of stupid stuff when i was drinking but I got pregnant and got sober and plan to stay that way for my family after i have the baby,if you love her you will stop.People like you and i that drink alot are not drinking socially and when it causes problems in your family or friends you know its time to stop.good luck you can stop its not that important to keep doing it.
2006-08-23 14:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking excessively is not good for you. Perhaps she either is concerned for your health and doesnt feel that you are doing your part to quit or.. maybe she has had some drinking issues in her younger years that makes her uncomfortable being around you drinking. I would assume that she has requested you to slow down or quit your drinking on more than one occasion. Maybe she sees no future being married to a possible future alcholoic. GIve her some time to cool down, then go and see her. You and she needs to talk about this. I understand if you are old enough to drink, you should be able to, however if you want her in your life.. you both are going to have to come to a happy medium. Good luck.
2006-08-23 19:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she has had enough. Sometimes you can only take so much.You will have to live without her and show her how hard you will work on not drinking.
That stuff is just no good. Try to be careful. I know you said you don't get violent. But geez you are losing something special because of your drinking you must have a problem.
Sorry. I hope everything works out. Good Luck.
2006-08-23 19:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Bears#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she gave you all the time she's willing to from her not answering to your calls. It's not easy to give up on a relationship for that reason, been there, but once your mind is made up to let go it can happen. If she gives you a second chance once she answers your call, don't let anything cause you to relapse, get whatever necessary help needed if you want to keep her.
2006-08-23 19:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really feel for her and love her then i suggest you get your self into an rehab for alcoholics even a weekend one and let her know tell her that you need her to help you too,just give up cold stone dont buy it and dont go to places where they are tell her every time you feel like a drink you two can get it on instead see how it works
2006-08-23 19:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with an alcoholic for 3 years. You guys are no fun whatsoever. You need to go to rehab & work the steps. Perhaps when she sees you are serious she'll go back with you. I wouldn't bet on it but you need to do those things for yourself anyways. You guys really don't see the pain you cause until it's too late. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-23 19:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her and alcohol is the problem stop drinking go to AA. and i know you are probably thinking that you dont need to but ask yourself if you knew this was the problem then what gave you the impulse to do it again. your mistake was a weakness for alcohol show her that you mean it this time you want to stop for her.
2006-08-23 19:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom was going to get divorced because of that too, but they're back together. but since that's a whole 'nother story, my suggestion is that you quit drinking completely, think of your flaws, and fix them. these things are only fixed by time, and soon your ex-fiance will be yours. but only if you try, sweetie.
2006-08-23 19:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Chelsea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to AA , go to counseling if she sees things have changed she may give you another chance but if you only tell her that you are changing that will do you no good, actions speak louder than words
2006-08-23 19:31:41 · answer #9 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a woman that likes to drink, then both of you can be loosers.
2006-08-23 19:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by big E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋