my husband figures i should have sex everynight now that were married what do i do?

Answer 1

Men get their sense of acceptance from physical affection. If you don't feel like it, he will at first feel like you don't think he's all that anymore. But if you keep giving in when YOU don't feel like it, you'll eventually resent him and then your marraige is onthe way to trouble. Find a middle ground. Do whatever you can to feel sexy and get "in the mood" half of the time, and the other times when it just isn't happening for you, give him a back rub. I know it seems unfair, like it's all about him, but when your married for awile longer, that will flip and you'll get your chance for it to be all about you. How well you handle him now will determine how good he'll be to you later. But also, be honest and tell him that you aren't into sex that often. If he's a real man, he'll understand.

Answer 2

What happened to "talking" about this stuff "before" you were married? Newly married, just the two of you together "everynight", I'd put it up there on my list right after brushing my teeth before I went to bed!lol I think i see a "compromise" here! He wants everynight, you obviously don't, so , you've got to meet in the middle somewhere , that would roughly work out to 3.5 times a week , all things equal! Now the question is what does he do for the other 3.5 days that you don't want to and he does? If he gives up the 3,5 days, I think you owe him a subscription to Playboy and some quiet time while your doing whatever it is you're going to do when you're not having sex! It's a problem, one that could lead to bigger ones if you don't "talk" about it! It's going to have to be a "compromise " if you dont feel you want to have sex that often! He "can't" force you to want to have sex, but you can't stop him from "wanting" to have sex either, so hopefully you two can come to some type of an "agreement" as to how many times a week you do.Good luck!

Answer 3

Well, first I think you and he should sit down and discuss it. I have been married for 6 years and was with my wife for 3 years before it. While we do still have a bit of sex, it is not every night. Most married couples average between 2-3 times a week but some couples maybe only have sex 2-3 times a month. You should talk with him about your feelings about it and resolve what you and he agree would be a good amount. You don't have to set a clock by it or anything, but it could be an indicator when something is wrong and allows for compromise and both sides to set limits for acceptable behavior.

Answer 4

Your husband obviously has a much greater sex drive right now than you do.Men typically peak between 18 and 24,Woman be-
tween 22 and 28.There could very well be a day in the future where this will turn around and you'll be the one demanding daily
service.Be open.Talk about what middle ground you can "come together" on.Can you go 5 days a week?Ask him for Sundays
and wednesdays off.Is sex physically painful for you?See a doctor.And of course there are alot of creative things you can do besides intercourse.The main thing is keeping the communication open and discussing what would be agreeable for both of you.Best of luck.

Answer 5

Ask him why he wants to have sex every night. Then say ok but only if you can have as much fore play as you want. Make him wait every night until bed time and then engage in about 2 hours of fore play every night before the two minute finale EVERY NIGHT. After a while he'll be so tired he won't want it every night and 6 years down the road when you have a baby you'll be like 50% of the rest of America and have to ask him if you had sex yet this week or if you still have to pay each other your dues.

Answer 6

First decide how many times a week you want to do it. Also think about how flexiable you can be. So if you think that 3 times a week is good. Can you compromise at four if he thinks 5 times is best. Then tell him that you would like to talk about it. Tell him how you feel. For my husband and myself, I wanted every night and for awhile we did it every night then we did it his way where we did it every other night or every two nights. We came to the conculsion that it meant alot more and felt alot better when we did it every other or every two nights. Let him know how you feel. The best thing that you can have in a relationship besides sex is good communication. So sit him down and talk about it. Let him know you understand how he feels and explain how you feel. It will all work out for the best! Good Luck!

Answer 7

I mean thats not wrong is it? Dont worry about that, just keep on givin' it to him, he's gonna get bored of it sooner or later, coupled with stress at work and other factors, he soon gonna start leaving you alone and you will start feeling deprived of sex in your later years. So, enjoy it for the moment, it wont last as long as you may think it will. Sex drive diminishes with age and stress. For the men, less sex when they grow older, for women, its the opposite.

Answer 8

or wait untill he has an affair , he wants 20 minutes of your time once a night! is your marriage worth so little you cant give him 20 minutes geees. He must reaslise marrying you is a mistake, if you dont say yes how long will it be before your crying he had an affair

Answer 9

tell him to give you a break.. and a chance to sleep. i am not married but i get the same thing from my boyfriend since he recently moved in with me. i have had to set a rule, cause he is a maniac that if he is drinking that night, we don't have sex, cause if he is drinking, he'll drink till 2:00 in the AM, come to bed, and while i am sleeping, to start my day at 5:30 am, he'll start wanting it.. so this way i don't have to half as much

Answer 10

For you:
Is there a reason you don't want to have sex often with him?
If you are not enjoying sex with your husband, why?
You need to fix that for sure.

For your husband:
Why does it have to be every night?
Is there some quota that has to be reached?
Where's the trophy for having the most sex?
What's wrong with not feeling like it one night?