I've been dating my boyfirend who is muslim for 11 months (trust me he is not one bit religious)...my parents don't know about him...and now my manager who is also the same nationality as me really likes me and we hung out a couple of times (he admitted he has liked me since i started working which is 2 years ago)...i reallly like hime too...who do i choose please help?...by the way i'm 20...my boyfriend is 28...and my manager is 25!
2006-08-23 11:57:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know we are not suppose to judge others by their origination or religion. However there is a reason why you are not sharing this with your parents. If you cannot tell your parents.. what happens if and when they find out? What happens if you fall in love? Both or either of these senerios can happen. If your parents finding out is no problem.. then I would probaby choose the boyfriend for the reason that co-worker relationships usually does not usually work out good especially if the relationship turns sour. It can make for some uncomfortable days. Good Luck.
2006-08-23 12:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the whole dating your boss thing is not a good idea! I once dated my boss and when things didnt work out ((because of his nationality--his parents did not accept him being with someone who wasnt his race)) it was really hard to work together. He would say stuff in front of other coworkers and customers and made me feel really uncomfortable, he got kind of obsessive about it. I eventually had to quit. I was also 20 and my manager 25. It is never a good idea to have a relationship with your boss. It really doesn't matter what your parents think about who you date. You are a grown woman and can date whom you please, if your parents see you happy then they will eventually come around to you dating outside of your own race. If you are not really interested i your boyfriend it is best to let him know now so you can both move on. Good luck with deciding what to do!
2006-08-23 19:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Christinamk227 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The key words here are my parents don't know about him. This tells me there is something about him that you are ashamed of and if this is true you should just brake up with him right now. About seeing the other guy that is a separate question. You should not date someone who is your boss and you have to know he could get in trouble for dating you. It has the look of sexual harassment.
2006-08-23 19:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to really think about your situation. It depends on who you want to be with. If you go with your manager and something happens you two break up, will it affect your job? How much do you care for your other boyfriend? These are questions that you need to consider, before making a decision.
2006-08-23 19:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by doglady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Must you decide right now? Take a little time and see how it all pans out. While you are doing that, take some time and examine the history and current status of women in the Muslim community.
2006-08-23 19:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, Muslim boy has no religion and probably no values, religion teaches values, rule #1 never get your honey where you get your money, romance at work is off limits, when you split, it is very uncomfortable to work together. you really have no choices, unless you like playing with fire. your manager could also be the object of a lawsuit if he diddles you. he is the dominant and you are the submissive because of your job titles. you can always claim you were oppressed because of him wanting to get with you, believe me , it happens all the time. muslim boy is looking better all the time.
2006-08-23 19:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the other guy is muselim, take the manager. Plus, the manager is closer to your agwe, you like him, and your parents would probably like him better to. Or you can date me. I'm 100% christian, love long walks along the beach, slow romantic kisses, and a sexy lady to share them with. Give me your e-mail, and I'll send you some pics. My e-mail is sexy_hotty_54@yahoo.com E-mail me
2006-08-23 19:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by Bob B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well are you in love with your bf? if you are then you need to remember love doesn't come around so much. if you just really really like your bf or don't know if you are in love with him, that's another story. perhaps you should talk to your bf about the future. do you all have the same or similar goals or direction in life? if not, then that may be the deciding factor. you also need to decide if you are willing to stay with him forever despite what your parents might think - whether they come around or not. after you answer those questions it should be clear what you should do. but you should base your answer mostly on what you have now, b/c you may like your manager now but you don't really really know him.
2006-08-23 19:02:37 · answer #8 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why dont your parents know about your boy friend?my cuz married a muslim was not good get out while you can stop sleeping with the enemy. and romance in work place not good eather mostly if he's your manager not good at all
2006-08-23 19:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pursue the guy you like the most... Regardless of religion or nationality. But keep in mind that romance at work usually backfires...
Although, I would try someone your own age but that's just my opinion...
2006-08-23 19:02:17 · answer #10 · answered by snape4good 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋