Sit him down and I think by talking calmly to him about the situation. Some kids understand when it is talked clearly to them. Let him know what is going on, what bothers you, what he should and shouldn't do. I remember getting in trouble when I was little not knowing why. I wish I knew what I did wrong most of the time.
The key is to talk to them, if that does not work then...homeschool? Dont let him out at all...just have him sit on his butt and work to get a little reward. Positive rewards work sometimes.
2006-08-23 11:50:09
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answered by Maria 3
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Talk with his doctor about this.. it is very possible he has ADHD..
Symptoms
Children with ADHD are unusually inattentive, hyperactive and show impulsive behaviour at home, school and in social settings – to a degree that is inappropriate for their age and development. They may:
* fidget and squirm in their seats
* have trouble concentrating on tasks or games
* not listen when they're spoken to
* talk excessively, run about, and seem to be always on the go
* get easily distracted
* act impulsively
* not wait their turn and blurt out answers.
This behaviour makes life difficult – often extremely difficult – for parents, siblings and teachers, and often for the child as well.
What causes this behaviour isn't known. It's thought that there may be a problem in those parts of the brain which normally inhibit impulsive behaviour – the cortex and the limbic system. This may be due to an imbalance in the brain's message-transmitting chemicals (neurotransmitters) in these areas. ADHD often runs in families – studies with twins have shown that ADHD is inherited – so these changes may be partly genetic.
There may also be social or environmental factors at work. In some cases children who have these symptoms haven't bonded well with their parents. In the case of boys, the father may sometimes be absent or emotionally distant.
There are two types of ADHD. The most common is 'Combined' type, where the child has poor attention and poor impulse control and is hyperactive. Less common is the 'Predominantly Inattentive' type, where the child is inattentive but not impulsive or hyperactive.
Boys are affected five times more often than girls. The symptoms usually start before the age of seven. It's been estimated that between three and five per cent of Australian primary school children are affected.
2006-08-23 18:54:45
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answered by MrsDave 4
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You've lost control of your son. You probably never had control. Your son does not know that you are the parent, and you are to be obeyed. You've got a long road ahead of you if you are to gain control of your family. What I've seen many times is: the child acting out or disobeying the parent, then the parent reacting with a statement such as, "You won't get a treat if you don't stop doing that!" When a child acts out or disobeys, punishment needs to be immediate (I do not mean spanking, necessarily) and consistent. After a few punishments, the child figures out that when he/she does something the parent has told them not to, they will be punished. Be firm, be consistent, be a parent, your children will NOT respect you if you give in to them all the time.
Seek professional family counseling, even without your husband if you have to.
2006-08-23 18:53:09
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answered by artistagent116 7
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I don't think this shows poor parenting skills as some of the posters have said. A person who wasn't trying to control the kid wouldn't care about them going to school and wouldn't care enough to call the police for help.Just shows that he's a 10 yr old boy under alot of stress that some adults can't handle ie.dad being in the army.Just hang in there and continue to be firm.
2006-08-23 19:02:25
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answered by .... 1
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You need to remember that you are in charge....he is 10! There is no excuse for a child to act like that, or an adult to allow it! If you have truly tried the things you mentioned (grounding, spanking etc) without results...take him to a shrink perhaps there is a larger problem.
2006-08-23 18:50:03
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answered by Becky 4
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Yeah, sweetie......you need parenting skills! You have been a poor parent for 10 years and it is not going to happen over night. You need to contact someone in the military to help you....I am sure there are services available. Also, watch "Super Nanny" on TV. But, whatever you do........stop doing all those things that are abusive and causing more problems.
2006-08-23 18:49:18
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answered by Anonymous
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Wow this is great because its so common.First NEVER spank a child.Its an act of physical violence,its wrong,and I believe its illegal in every state.
He's found all of your buttons and seems to be doing a great job pushing them(after all that IS his job as a kid).
This is full of irony because its about changing YOUR behavior not his.He's acting up,misbehaving ,pushiong your buttons,to get a reaction out of you.The second he does something awfull,DON"T react to it .It will blow his mind.IGNORE bad behavior,REWARD good behavior.(this is how we train dogs)
Unfortunately,he has already trained you and now must be untrained and retrained in the proper behavior....and so must
you.Run don't walk to the phone book and call social services
and get into a parental training class.(and good luck!)
2006-08-23 19:05:14
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answered by Mark K 6
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Put yourself in his shoes. His father is gone, his family and friends are gone, he has no control over his life... no wonder he acts out. Frankly, boys this age need their father to control them, not their mother. Have you sat down and really talked to him about what he's trying to accomplish with this sort of behavior? Also, is this something that just started recently? Find out what has changed for him. Acting out like this can also be the result of something traumatic happening to a kid, like abuse, bullies, etc.
Good luck.
2006-08-23 18:55:14
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answered by SLWrites 5
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your child probably feels sad because the dad is not home a lot. you should try a lot of family activities but never spank your child. spanking will make your child more upset. hang out with your child and try to have fun with him/her. they will only be this little for so long. don't send your child to boarding school either, because that will lead to hate.
2006-08-23 18:51:00
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answered by Anonymous
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Put him in a youth home, if nothing is working. Sounds like its out of your hands now.
2006-08-23 18:47:24
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answered by ~~ 7
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