This is mostly geared to Black Women, if not still feel free to answer. I could be watching a show and if a Black man is dating or married a woman of different race, it's no okay. If any thing goes wrong in the relationship, then he deserved it. Like If I'm watching one of the court shows on tv and a black man is getting sued, my mom will say he deserved it.
But
If a Black woman marries a white man it's perfectly ok. She didn't do anything wrong. Other women in my family have said the same thing. It's okay for a black woman to marry a white man, but not okay for black man to marry a white woman.
Why is that?
2006-08-23 11:39:46 · 9 answers · asked by ArchAngel Raziel 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
To me it doesn't matter who marries who, as long as they love each other. This world needs to stop looking at color/race/religion and start looking at people for who they are.
But to answer your question, I think most of the time you will find that people usually say that the man deserved it, no matter what color he is. That just seems to be the way society thinks, at least the way I see it. But there is definitely a double standard.
On the other hand, where I live (in Virginia) things seem the opposite of what you're saying. My husband & I are both white but we have 2 daughters we have adipted who are black. When he goes out alone with them, people don't pay him any attention and are always comenting on how cute the girls are. But if I go out alone with them, you would not believe the looks I get & sometimes ugly comments. Once again a double standard.
Why is that?
2006-08-23 12:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mentor Mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a white woman, and not knowing your mom, I wouldn't know. I've heard from black female friends that there aren't enough good black men to go around, so for them, it's okay to go outside their race. When Richard Tyler, a black male character on the 4400, saw his white wife die, too many people were happy that the relationship was over and they didn't have to see them kiss or hold hands anymore. Personally, I'm glad the writers gave that character another white female character to fall for.
2006-08-23 18:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every black woman cares wether or not a black man chooses to date outside his race. Why would I make a big deal about it when I date outside my race as well. Your right it would be a double standard if someone didnt agree with a black man dating outside his race but at the same time not blink a eye at a black woman with a white man. But once again not every black woman thinks like that. I know people who arent comfortable with interracial relationships PERIOD! I think if it doesnt concern you then it shouldnt matter!
2006-08-23 18:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by Yasmeen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree. The region that I live in has a ratio of about 3 to 1 of black man/white woman vs white man/black woman.
2006-08-23 18:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It definitely is a double standard however, I think it's just something personal relating back to slavery days. Black men were hung/executed for even whistling @ white women (Emmet Till), so I think somewhere in the back of our minds we see black men with white women as taboo on the other hand; when we see a sister with a caucasian man-it's all good; basically because we feel as though the table's been turned; and it's good to see a sister empowered....I don't know; just guessing.....
2006-08-23 18:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah the black men should marry black women. I think I can say that as I'm black lol It just makes things easier for them and for their kids if they don't have to struggle with a racial identity. A lot of people ask me what I am as I'm very racially mixed, white skin, brown kinky hair and oriental eyes....HELP!! I never feel as though I truly belong to ANY race. That's so unfair!!
2006-08-23 20:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is weird that they feel that way, but that is only their opinions. It must be the way they were brought up. Don't worry about it, just because they feel that way, doesn't make it wrong, or right, it is just their opinion. You have to decide for yourself what is wrong and right. But personally I don't agree with your mom her relatives. People should marry for the right reasons, and skin color should have nothing to do with why they get married, and if they have problems-don't blame it on skin color.
2006-08-23 18:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by jewel girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess that doesn't happen in France.
2006-08-23 19:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterio 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
willie lynch syyndrome
2006-08-23 18:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by sean b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋