to have fantasies ???? My hubby & I had an idea last night about pretending to be complete strangers for example like calling for a pizza to be deliver late & nigth and have start seducing the "delivery" guy & have fun!!! or any other just to pretend to be strangers & have like an affair but with your own hubby ... Will this be good or bad for our relationship ??? Any advices or any good experiences about this.... :)
2006-08-23 11:39:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
fantasies are what keeps sex exciting!But be careful,the last fantasy that my husband and i acted out(overpowering me),i ended up pregnant!
2006-08-23 13:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sallie J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, these can be a LOT of fun! You might look up "role playing" on the Web to get ideas. The pizza guy and the college girl, the pool boy and the housewife, the naughty schoolboy and the strict headmistress, the French maid and the wealthy playboy... LOTS of "classic" scenarios, or make up your own.
Things like this can be VERY good for a relationship, because something happens when you're playing "make-believe" -- it's as if you give yourself permission to behave in a way that you wouldn't in real life, but because it's pretend (and it's with someone you trust), you can let yourself go. For example, my wife used to like to have me pretend to take her by force -- a situation which would be horrifying if it were done by a stranger, but which she found very exciting in play.
You can get elaborate with this, including various sex toys and getting dressed up and even, if you feel really adventurous, dying your hair and getting new clothes. I used to think it would be fun to meet in a public place, pretend we didn't know each other, and go through the whole flirting thing and go home (or better yet, to a motel!) as if we had picked each other up.
(The closest we ever got to that was one time that I was traveling and made an unplanned stop -- car trouble -- at a cute little bed-and-breakfast on the coast, about three hours from home. I called my wife and described the place I was staying; she thought it sounded great, so she got in her car and drove to meet me in the middle of the night. The next morning, the guy from the repair shop who towed me in the night before came to get my key; I reached into my pocket, couldn't find it, and then remembered I'd put it in my shirt pocket -- which my wife was now wearing. She took it out of the shirt pocket and handed it to the tow-truck guy -- who clearly remembered towing in a single guy to the motel the night before -- and he turned BEET red and started laughing in embarrassment. We never let on... :-)
2006-08-23 13:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by Scott F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a GREAT idea! My hubby and I do this once in a while. I would go to a bar and he would pick me up as if we're total strangers. LOL! It really does help keep the boredom and staleness away. Not to mention, fun! I think it's a great way to spice up your love life.
2006-08-23 11:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it is GREAT for your relationship. After awhile of being together things can get pretty regular. Spicing things up is a really good thing for you both, as long as you both are comfortable with it. If you see that one is getting a bit uncomfortable, drop it and get back to the things you know and makes you connect. Have fun!
2006-08-23 11:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have never tried this, as he's just into that sort of thing (I love the man, but he's very "left brained" and sex is very....well, "usual" for him. In a good way, though), but as long as both parties are into it, it's very healthy and very normal. Go for it and have fun!!
2006-08-23 11:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have been together for a long time that is what it means to me
i say have fun and keep coming up with new stuff try dressing up for each other its fun to
2006-08-23 11:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by ardgo2112 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its totally normal and fun, it brings that spark back in the bedroom, Have a great time!!! I do!!!
2006-08-23 12:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's All Good.
Have a great time.
2006-08-23 12:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never done anything like that but hey...go for it...sounds like fun....
2006-08-23 12:47:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is good to have fantasies, it keeps your sex life interesting not boring.
2006-08-23 11:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋