Is my boyfriend gay or bisexual??

Question

Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years, i have recently been questioning whether my boyfriend could be gay. He will only have sex with me from behind, never looking at me and always says "i love f***ing ur a*** even when hes not. At night i hear this noise like hes fingering his a*** and i turned around the other night to see that he was.... i was so shocked and wondered whether this is normal for a straight guy?? He never wants to talk about commiting either even though he is 35. I cant see that the only reason for him not looking at me during sex being cos im ugly because im not.... When people talk about gay men he quickly changes the subject. His friend once asked me why am i with him cos hes gay! But i thought he was only joking. I always thought that i could tell if a man was gay but my boyfriend is so manly and he hangs around with tough men... I dont know what to think!!! im 6 months pregnant and dont know what to do.

Answer 1

The thing that makes me suspicious most is the fact that your friend told you he was gay. For him to say that then something he has done or said has given your friend that impression. Talk to your friend, ask him what information he has as to why he thinks your boyfriend is gay.

Being in a good sexual relationship means there are two people involved, and if the only way he likes to have sex is from behind, then isnt that disrespecting you? Whether he is gay or not in that sense is not really the issue....its the fact that sex has to be his way or no way.

You are 6 months pregnant and if your boyfriend is gay, which I tend to think he might be, it doesnt mean he wont be a good father. Gay men make excellent fathers. If this man is gay, then he hasnt come out of the closet yet, and is still putting up a facade of being straight, hence him being with you.

It has to be resolved....You need to know, so the best plan of action I think is to first talk to your friend....get some information....then talk to your boyfriend. If you are armed with information it will make it easier for him not to deceive you any more.

Regardless of whether he is or is not gay, he needs to spark up the sex side of things with you and start having sex in different positions. Its like a man getting bored with the woman only wanting sex in a missionary position. I would not be happy with my man only wanting sex with me one particular way. What about foreplay....does he touch your body? Whatever is going on, it needs to be straightened out before too much longer. In 3 months you will be having his baby, and you need some kind of truth so you will know what to do. Not knowing is always worse than knowing something you dont want to. At least with the truth you will be able to decide where yours and your baby's future lie.

Answer 2

Wow! Ummm Ummm Ummmm. What a HOT MESS!

Women seem to ALWAYS get red flag warning signals about men... yet (for whatever reason) continue along until they literally get the smack down... Why ignore the elephant in the room? Address the problem immediately because if not... some major damaged will be done. It's all a matter of time. In your case, unfortunately, the damaged has been done and you're in a world of issues. You have an unborn child that will be subjected to confusion and disappointment. You've decided to (now that it's too late) pay attention to this situation based on what you already knew deep in your heart. Whaz up wit that?

That funny feeling your getting or had was serving a purpose and was there for a reason. You needed to RUN!!! a long time ago.

Now you'll need to still RUN... but you'll have to do it slower now because you are having a baby. WOW!. You already know the answer to your question about his sexuality and so.. the thing you need to do now is what's best for you and your child. Start with prayer and then seek counseling. In time you'll heal from this experience and learn how to heed the warning signs and make better decisions for your life.

Answer 3

Now it is a time to get an action. You have to tell him that the baby is coming and you need to prepare for his or her future. Now you have to ask him what he want to do with the baby and your relationship and nothing matter.You have to make your decision about what is next ? Do not afraid about the outcome, it is your life and you need to address this issue. Meanwhile,you need to take care your health and well being. Never mind about him weather he is gay or a straight man. Your pregnancy is going to take your toll when you become a mother. Look ahead and it is about time to secure your baby 's future. If he wants to walk away then you are prepared and move on to another chapter. Trust me I take my baby before my husband and this is an answer from a happy marriage and value my children more than anything else because, they are my real blood and the blood always sticks.

Answer 4

oh you poor thing.
Has he been with any other girl? if he has then maybe he's not gay but if your the only one he's been with and doing those things you said then it's not a good sign, tell him your pregnant and you love him but and you want the truth but if he can't give you the truth ask his friends and if there hiding up something then leave him, he's not worth it.
Numba one rule in a relationship is too always be honest because without honesty you have nothing.

Answer 5

Time for a change. You don't want to get a disease or worse Aids. Talk with him then move on. Life is so short and you deserve a man who will cherish you and your baby. You can set up visitations days but keep his bf away for now! Best of luck just bad timing. Shame on him for not being honest. You will be fine. Talk with your parents or someone that you trust. No stress baby can sense it also.

Answer 6

Hmm, first I would ask him. Him hanging out with manly men doesn't mean anything because gays can look really manly! You can't tell if a man is gay by his looks.
From his actions and the fact his friend told you your BF was gay, I would conclude that he could be gay.
Chances are that he is gay, but doesn't want to admit to himself and tries everything to suppress his sexual preference.
It sounds to me he needs to come out of the closet!

Answer 7

His being an "anal erotic" doesn't mean he's gay. Clearly he's stuck in this anal phase. Anal fetishes are not uncommon. What does "gay" suggest to you? A nurturing man, more submissive than aggressive, passive, or that he prefers sex with his own sex? Homosexuality defines those who prefer their own kind for erotic fulfillment. Who daydream of such love. Try to read him better. Only you can know. Loving your behind is not, in and of itself, a sign, anymore than liking his own behind is. Stay calm. If doubts persist, perhaps he's the wrong guy.

Answer 8

I would just ask him. If he refuses to talk about it then I think the both of you need to try couples counseling. You don't want to have these questions bugging you when your trying to care for a baby since it will put a huge strain on your relationship. And it could just be a fetish he has. Some guys are just really into the backdoor.

Answer 9

U need to talk to him and tell him that if he is gay that u still love him and that he needs to be himself. And if he is tell him that dont be scared of what people think of him. And you really love him that ur here for him and that you got his back. And i hope he knows that ypur 6 months pregnant.

Answer 10

ask him straight questions and nothing he can strategically alter the annswers to. and gay daddies don't always make the best daddies; my father is a f*g or bisexual. oh and my guy is an ex-bisexual.