my friend had a baby boy 2 weeks ago and her baby was born still born and her boyfriend left her becaus he said that the baby didnt look like him but he told her after the baby was already buried and she is really upset HELP ME ( or was it an excused to get out the relationship he blamed my friend for the babt death he was choked on the cord NOT her fault
2006-08-23 11:18:17 · 18 answers · asked by MEXICAN PRIDE 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hi my cousin had her baby to die the same way I am sorry for your friends loss.No it is not her falt at all her boyfriend sould be their with her this is a hard time for her.I feel that he just wanted a way out i am so sorry for your friend .
2006-08-23 11:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by mcdanieljoanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah it sounds like the guy just wanted out of the relationship. It is hard when a baby dies, expecialy when you have carried that baby and felt the baby kick and move, to feel like it was all for nothing. has your friend got councling for the mishap? if the baby choked on the cord then it was no ones fault. if the doctor knew in time a emergancy c-sction could have been preformed to save the baby.the cord wraped around the baby's neck is not uncommon. trust me my sons cord was wraped around his neck and tied in a knot, he barly survied, we were in the hospital for a week and he is now 91/2 years old and has lots of learning and speach problems. the doctor allso had diagnosed him with having ADHD. the best advice that i can give you for your frined is to just be her rock and be there when she needs to cry and what not, encourage her to talk if she wants to. that allways helps. BTW babys do not nessasarly have to look like the "dad" or the "mom" I have a cousin who both parents are white and he is black.. figure that one out... so that line is a crock.
2006-08-23 11:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by summer_kids_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats so difficult. im sorry your pal has to bypass by using this. i'm a registered nurse and artwork nursery and pediatrics. I fairly have been to delieveries that are comparable. frequently the babys lungs dont mature adequate to maintain existence till they're 24 weeks. the anatomy only isn't there in the previous then. so at our wellness center we frequently have a protracted communicate with the mummy approximately her strategies and then she makes the alternative if she needs us to artwork on the baby (iv fluids, chest compressions ect.) being born that early is imcompatable with existence however so maximum mothers only prefer to hold their toddlers at the same time as they bypass. so difficult!! i cant even think of. feels like she or the baby weren't taken care of o.k.. the baby grow to be technically born alive...nonetheless beginning is while they're born without heart beat or no longer respiration. the regulations sound distinctive on your section. we additionally do a fetal death kit with the toddlers....footprints, pictures, lock of hair ect and placed it in a particular container tied with a ribon for mom to make sure later if she needs. we additionally deliver residing house a particular filled bear that has some weight to it so mom has some thing to hold if she needs to at the same time as she is greiving. that wellness center did a terrible interest coping with a comfortable project. he grow to be born alive however so i could combat the plicits and get him a beginning certificates with a acceptance if that's what she needs.
2016-11-05 11:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your friends loss. there is nothing like lossing a child. The loser sperm donor was looking for a reason to get out. what a jerk to do it when she really needed him the most. i've seen a baby that was stillborn and the don't look like a live baby. he's just saying that.
2006-08-23 11:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by ♥mommy of 4♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's better off without that loser. She needed a man at her side during her terrible time, not this boy. Your friend may need counseling for her loss, make sure she gets to speak to professionals who can help her find her way back to some form of normality. She needs to talk to people who can give her all the answers she needs to find her peace. Her boyfriend, on the other hand, needs to grow up.
Blessings to her, and to you for being such a good friend to her.
2006-08-23 11:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All babies just look like babies when they are born, and the fact that this baby was stillborn is an even different story. Kinda like when black babies look white when they are born. Its really hard to tell unless you are interacting with the child, you cant interact with a stillborn
2006-08-23 11:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by natalie rose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she will be ok. To forget about him. he proabably couldnt handle the loss of the baby. if anything after some time he will come back and apologise. They both have gone through something very hard and very tragic. dont worry she will be okay and he'll come around. if only to say he's sorry. i wouldn't take him back after that for sure. lol
Just tell her to stay calm and focus on the future. she will be okay! She'll come out stronger after all this.
2006-08-23 11:25:11 · answer #7 · answered by kandlight1182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a sorry excuse for a man, if he was a real man he would have helped her in this terrible time, instead of accusing her a killing the baby, what a jerk. He wanted out
so sorry to hear of your friend's loss. be there for her as much as you can. losing a baby is hard. I lost my daughter at 24 weeks.
2006-08-23 11:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Ericka K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a low life to me anyone who is going to blame the woman for the baby's death over something like that is a sick person.
2006-08-23 11:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by rochelle s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said in one of your previous questions that she was'nt sure if he was the father. I can kinda side with him. I would be mad if i were a man and with a lady that was pregnant and didnt even know if i was the father. wow!! Then on top of that the baby dies, why drag a man thru that??? Obviously she wasnt honest in the beginning so whose to say she was honest in the end about how the baby died, she was probally drinking while she was out there having one night stands....with multiple partners.
2006-08-23 11:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by Kristi A 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋