my boyfriend was in a 4 year relationship before me and we have been together 6 mnths and i have come to realise how different there relationship was to ours. he was apparantly very loving to her caring and generous. Ours is quite different im stil cared about but i asking him for time for just us is a huge issue and he cant be bothered. I askd about this and he told me he has changed and he was young and stupd with her and now wants his own life and just to have fun. (She cheated on him and he had to leave town coz he was so humilated). The thing is he knows i would never ever hurt him but i know now i will never get the love from him that she had. What can i do, if anything?
2006-08-23 10:38:45 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your love is something special, you don't need to have a love copy of a passed one. relax. your love is fine. and btw you are a lucky girl because the man even though had a bad time in relationships decided to start a new relationship with you exactly. and you don't need to be like her, remember: she made him leave. do you want your man to leave too? just relax and enjoy your time with him. time flows so quick....
2006-08-23 10:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, sometimes when someone gets hurt in a relationship, especially if he was giving her his all, then it makes it hard for the next relationship because that person puts up a guard to keep from getting hurt again. Just continue to love and support him emotionally and have great times together and he will soon realize that you are true to him. You have to give his heart some time to heal and learn to trust again. But in the meantime, don't be pushed to the side just because of what she done to him....explain to him how you feel in a nice, calm way. Make sure he knows you love him to.
2006-08-23 17:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by dixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't take away the humiliation he experienced. He probably promised himself never to be so trusting again. Who can blame him? This is a new strategy: if I don't give too much...then I will not be too disappointed.
You pretty much figured it all out. Congratulations! Question to you: are you willing to settle for less? If yes,...hey at least you know he is serious when it comes to love. Be patient....and stick around, but don't expect too much of him. Take care of yourself...don't just sit around waiting for him to give selflessly again (....chances are it's not gonna happen). Have a hobby or two away from him. Obviously you want more. Widen your horizon....because being around someone with such mistrust will make you utterly miserable in the long run. It's not your fault what happened to him. He's got issues....not you. Good luck and happiness for your future.
2006-08-23 17:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL, IF HE WASN'T OVER HER WHEN HE BEGAN A RELATIONSHIP W/ U, THAT'S TOTALLY UNFAIR TO U. IF HE CAN'T REALIZE OR GET IN HIM MIND THAT PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT. IF U WERE IN A BAB SITUATION AT ONE TIME AND DECIDED THAT U WERE MOVING ON, BUT U STILL THINK ABOUT YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP U HAVEN'T MOVED ON. GIVE HIM SOME TIME TO BE APART. HE MAY HAVE JUMPED IN A RELATIONSHIP A LITTLE TOO SOON
2006-08-23 17:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by teriwilburn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋