When is a good time to have a baby?

Question

I will be 30 next year and my husband is 30 at the moment. Some people there is no rush others say is better to have them when you are young.

Answer 1

I know I asked myself a similar question at the age of 28. Previously I was never keen on having children but found this changed as I got closer to 30. We decided it was the right time but it took us a year to fall pregnant. I also thought about how old I would be if I decided to have a second child.

I now have a beautiful baby boy 10½ months old and whilst nothing can prepare you for the changes it will make to your life and they are hard work, I wouldn't change a thing ... he is every bit worth it !! The fact you are asking this question probably means you are ready. By the way, there never is a good time financially etc, just try and be as prepared as possible. The good thing is the pregnancy will be your choice, rather than unexpected.

Answer 2

I'm 34 and having my first. I didn't choose tho have a baby late, I just couldn't get pregnant, its taken me years!!

My boyfriend is 11 years younger than me - 23 - so he'll be a younger dad. My own dad was 52 when I was born!!!

My mum had her two kids at 36 and 42. My grandmother had her three at 36, 38 and 40. No problems with the pregnancies and births. All healthy babies!!! So age didn't cause any problems there.

Besides, what works for one person might not work for another. just because one person found having a baby at 20 was good for them doens't mean it would be for someone else. you have to be in a position where you have somewhere to live, enough money to look after a child and also you WANT one. You have to have the patience and maturity to put yourself second and give up the clubbing and spending all your wages on clothes etc. That can be hard when you're young.

On the other hand I know lots of young mums who cope really well and it was obviously the right thing for them.

BF's mum had him at 19 and she was just too young, she had nowhere to live, no money, was on her own and things were not settled at all for her kids growing up. My mum being so much older we had a stable home and things were different for us.

But now the downside is my mum is nearly 71 and facing being a grandmother for the forst time and says she's sad she won't be able to do as much for her grandchild as she could have 10 or 15 years ago so its swings and roundabaouts really.

BTW though BF's mum is only 43 and wheelchair bound with arthritis and lots of health problems so being younger doesn't necessarily mean you can do loads for your granchild either.

Theres nothing wrong with you trying for a baby now if you're stable and married and afford to provide for your child. And most importantly - you WANT a baby!!! Most people are about your age these days when they start their families.

Answer 3

If you are ready go for it. You and you husband can only day when the time is right for you two. But you do have to remember the older you have them the older you will be when they turn 18 or 21 or have their own children. I started at 19. I had my second at 25 and now I am 27 and pregnant again. Do you want kids? Some people choose to not have kids and that is perfectly fine. Don't let anyone rush you into anything if you aren't ready. But also you have to remember after 35 you pregnant will be consider to be high risk. That doesn't mean that anything will happen look at all of these other women having babies in their 40s and 50s...Good luck to you

Answer 4

Yeah it is better when you have a baby when you are young, but not too young that you can't even take care of it. The good time to have a baby is when your income is stable and you have time for your baby. The best time is when both of you are ready and looking forward for a family. Dont have a baby just because you think it is cute like most stupid teenages thi nk! Anyway, i wish you the best to motherhoof, but make sure you are looking forward for this, because having a baby take a lot of timesaway from you and the people surrounding you!

Answer 5

When you both feel you are ready in your relationship to have someone else enter it. A baby is a whole new person entering your relationship and demanding constant attention. If you feel you have done everything you want to do as a couple/person and are truly happy together then thats the right time. There is no rush, this is a life long commitment and you must be ready.

Answer 6

Have the baby when YOU are ready... of course, but do keep in mind that the female body is best designed to bear children at an earlier age. Once we hit the 30's, chances for birth defects and other problems become more of a factor.

Answer 7

Don't wait to start . a woman I know was 49 yrs. old when she got pregnant and she doesn't know how to handle a baby. the little girl is now 2 yrs. . She is not been taken care of properly ., she let the little girl stay up with her to 3in the morning and wants this child to sleep all day when the woman sleep .the child can't talk ,she acts differ from my kids. she still is in diapers.and all she has to say is I waited to have this child at an older age because,I never could get pregnant before. don't wait have your kids while you're young enough to enjoy them! good Luck. Babies are a blessing. I think the little girl is autistic., and I told her to take her to th Dr. but she say no. she will do it in time.when the little girl get older.

Answer 8

When you are both ready. That is honestly the best answer I can give, because everyone is different and everyone's relationship is different. If you and your husband both feel the time is right, then go for it!! But if you're not sure, maybe you should wait - 30 is not that old these days.

Answer 9

If you want a family, start trying now. You never know what problems you might have. It may take a long time to get pregnant, some people are just unlucky. It's a life changing experience (for the better!) and a miracle. You'll wonder what you did with your spare time! Good luck.

Answer 10

Never (just kidding). Honestly though, I'd say any time. My sis-in-law just had her fist baby at 35. Her doctor had told her if she wanted a child, she needed to get on the ball because of her age. I was 30 when I had my first kid and had no complications whatsoever. You're still young!