My 4-year-old daughter calls her dad's new wife "Mommy Beth." It kind of distrubs me that they've taught her to address her by that name... since I'm the mommy. Am I crazy for feeling hurt that she calls a "stranger," Mom? Is there anything I can do?
2006-08-23 09:57:12 · 20 answers · asked by bethiswriting 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand your emotions. I think that it's inappropriate for them to teach your daughter to call her "Mommy" and addressing this issue might cause animosity therefore confusing your child. I feel there is not much you can do as of this moment because she is still too little to understand the concept of her situation. But, when she is a little more older and is able to understand then you can kindly explain to her who's who and let her determine what she wants to call "Beth". For now, keep in mind that YOU'RE her true "Mommy" and always will be and as long as she loves you (which I'm sure she does) - leave the situation alone for now.
2006-08-23 10:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You call her Mommy Beth too! If Beth's genuine (and you're not sarcastic) this should be cute - show her that you accept her in a mature way without all out-and-out respecting her as a parent to your little girl. Just fine & understandable. But, no use making a mountain out of a mole hill. Your daughter will sence that you think it's all just 'so sweet' on a light level (like it's 4 pretend).
2006-08-23 17:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of adding the Mommy to it, suggest calling her Miss Beth. I agree with you. They only have one Mommy and Daddy. I am sure your ex would feel the same way if you had your new significant other being called Daddy ****.
I think by adding the Miss or (Ms) it is still respectful without stepping on any toes.
She is still young enough to learn another "form of endearment".
Good luck! : )
2006-08-23 17:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by bonjovigroupie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your daughter that you are "Mommy", and that Beth is Beth, (or Mrs. Beth, or whatever you want her to call her.) It definetly won't last, because as she gets older she'll probably call her by her first name anyways. If you get a chance to confront "Beth", do it. Ask her how she would feel if she was in that situation.
2006-08-23 17:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Ma'am 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter should call this woman by her first name.
Okay, everyone who is telling her not to take it so personal, it is personal. There is no other way to take it. I could not agree with you more. It would bug the living **** out of me if my son called this woman "mommy whatever". My son (pre-primary age) calls his step mom by her first name.
It really boils down to how you express this to your daughter. I do support picking your battles and looking at what is best for your daughter. However, she's at a young enough age that you can simply correct her - just like you would if she called anyone else by the incorrect title.
2006-08-23 19:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by Neenah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feeling. Your daughter will understand when she grows up. You are the real "mommy". Nothing you can do now. Maybe you can talk to your ex and have your daughter to call her Aunt Beth.
2006-08-23 17:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Vicki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you have every right to. Look at it this way, it's better than her calling her mommy. Mommy Beth indicates to her and the world that she is not her mom but a stepmom. That's one way of looking at it.
2006-08-23 17:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
work on giving her a healthy & supported childhood and a good relationship between all of you. You can't be fussing about who's calling whom what, it's part of the package when you had a divorce. In many ways, her step mother is not a stranger and your daughter needs to get along with her also. The best thing you can do is not to make a big deal out of this
2006-08-23 23:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No Way - you are the ONLY mom. She should just call her beth and you need to tell your ex that. He is wrong for doing that. No one can replace the mom or the dad. Although I'm sure right now you'd like to replace the dad. LOL That is very wrong of him.
2006-08-23 17:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself ... be happy your daughter has a loving woman that wants to help with raising your child ... !
Don't be selfish ... and she's only 4 ... I'm sure in a few years she'll call her whatever the hell she wants to call her.
Don't be jealous of a 4 year old ... calling another woman mommy Beth ... she knows who her real mommy is ... !
2006-08-23 17:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋