What should I do to deal with the fact that my family goes to all of my sisters softball games and even helps with coaching, but they never even bother to go to my dance performances, or even ask about how things are going even though dance is practically my life? They just say that hip hop is inappropriate for me even though I am 13. It is not even anything nasty, or sexual. Isn't this unfair?
2006-08-23 09:50:41 · 16 answers · asked by iluv2dance 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Dancing
No, it's not fair. But, you may get the last laugh. All of the girls on my high schools' softball team, ended up being lesbians. ALL of them. They'll have fun dealing with that inappropriate behavior, and you can bring up that they thought hip-hop dancing was inappropriate. Then, laugh your head off.
2006-08-23 09:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe parents should support every activity of each child. If it is not appropriate, why would they allow you to take it? They are probably more comfy with softball becasue it is old school.Try to do some hip hop to a song that they remember or like instead of the reg. type hip hop music. Like they did on So You Think You Can Dance. Then try to get mom and maybe your sis to try a few steps slowly! You can get them involved if you go at it from their viewpoint.They even did one to Singing In The Rain! If you have to -encourage yourself and be careful not to rebel because of this unequal treatment. Your sister may need more attention if she is lacking in self-esteem or is not as popular or pretty or smart. If you rebel you will just hurt yourself and that would take away from your dancing skills and the love for it. Best wishes!
2006-08-23 17:02:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your family doesn't support you. I have been there with my own parents when I was in high school. It is unfortunate that parents can act so selfishly and deny their children the love and encouragement they need. I hope this does not deter you from continuing dance. If anything this should give you more fuel to pour everything you have into your work at the studio. I think it will say a lot about what kind of person you are, whether you have the courage and conviction to keep your head high and know that you are doing something worthwhile that you are good at and care about. Take pride in the fact that you have the courage to continue doing what you love, even when the people closest to you fail to show encouragement. Good luck!! Keep dancing!!
2006-08-24 09:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by cintishoegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not fair. And I disagree with those who say that hip hop is totally ghetto and/or sexual. My daughter took hip hop dance lessons (we're white) and learned some really cool moves and liked it a lot.Not all styles of hip hop are suggestive or crude.
Talk to your parents again. Explain how important it is to you and that you wish they'd just come and see you perform. Maybe by seeing you and how good you are, they'll be a bit more open-minded.
I don't agree that you're being disrespectful or defiant. If you are doing what you love and are good at, then you have a right to feel badly.
2006-08-23 17:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are probably old-fashioned, and I'm not sure, but I think hiphop is a fairly new form of dance. Thus they associate it with the sex obsession that appears in all rap and some hiphop music.
I don't think there's anything you can do about it. Just keep dancing.
2006-08-25 20:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems unfair. Perhaps you should talk to them about how you feel being alienated. Perhaps they feel uncomfortable with hip hop but if they know how you feel, hopefully they will make an effort? I would if I was a parent.
2006-08-23 16:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mystral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your family isn't there for you. Keep your head up and keep dancing. Maybe they might just surprise you one of these days? Good luck with your dancing
2006-08-24 01:43:34 · answer #7 · answered by nicknacpattymac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try to talk to them. siblings are weird, so you can't really expect her to go, but your dad should go see you definitely. my dad coaches my softball games, and still has time for things my sisters do. including dance. he doesn't like it much, but he makes sure he's there, since it means a lot to my sister. and no, its not innapropriate. i wonder why he says that. :]
2006-08-23 20:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by softball002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is soo unfair i did softball and dance and my parents went to both urs should too
2006-08-26 11:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's so sad! I feel so badly for you!!
I think you need to talk to them. maybe write a letter telling them that it makes you upsest. It's important that you say something.
Remember that no one's perfect and even your parents make mistakes sometimes.
If they still don't show up to your shows, maybe try inviting some aunts and uncles, family friends, grandparents, etc.
2006-08-23 17:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by raquel122203 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋