ok i know this is in the wrong category but no one will answer. I really want to ask this guy out but he just happens to be one of my really good friends. It would be really weird to hang out with him if he says no. Should I ask him out or get a friend to do it for me??????
2006-08-23 09:48:41 · 28 answers · asked by bloom_luvr 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Do it yourself. Might be weird if he says no, but it's even weirder to get someone else to ask him for you.
2006-08-23 09:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the mature girl that you are, and ask him out yourself. Maybe try getting into a conversation that will lead up to a point where you could ask him out. Or, one day just go up to him and say, "I've been meaning to ask you something, but I didn't quite know how." Tell him you have liked him for awhile and that you were wondering if he would like to "hang out" sometime. Just you and him. Tell him you were thinking about something like, dinner and then maybe something like a round of tennis, or going to the beach. It has to be an activity where you two can talk alot to each other. Movies are totally out!! Then, after the date, if you end up still being friends, you didn't lose out. Don't sit back and at least not try. The worst he could say is no. Sure it might be akward for a little bit, but if you were true friends to begin with, then you'll be friends after wards. Good luck.
2006-08-23 20:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by Dorie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely do it yourself! He may not answer your friend candidly and if he actually does like you back (in that way), how weird would it be to start your relationship off with someone in the middle? Try to make it casual and say something about how you enjoy spending time with him, blah blah and that lately you have been feeling more, but that you are wondering how he feels. Acknowledge that you don't want to ruin the friendship. If the feeling is not reciprocated, it may feel awkward for a little while, but there's no harm in trying!
2006-08-23 17:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by aliecat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not....your body language is far more effective than coming up with good words to ask him out. In other words...let him know how you're feeling these days with more laughter to his jokes, just being warmer in conversations, holding a stare just a bit longer than usual....believe me he'll feel what you're feeling and I bet he'll feel the same way and even ask you out first.
If you notice that his body language is backing off from yours....then he might get confused....so you're back to square one at this point on how to approach him with words this time.
But I say take a chance with your body language first. Dress up a little more than when you were hanging out with him. Seduction goes a long way....no guy will ever reject a beautiful woman seducing him.
damn! I wish you were in the same city as me!
2006-08-23 17:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by davemg21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him yourself. If he's your friend.....he already likes you...right?
Just ask to go somewhere the both of you would like, dancing, dinner a movie? Then tell him straight forwardly how you feel about him.
If he's not interested in you in that way, yes it will be strange & uncomfortable, but it's better than your friendship being ruined because you sat back while some other woman snatched him up.
Good luck!
2006-08-23 16:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by Canadian Ken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. He might be wanting to ask you out but not doing for the same reasons you gave. If he does feel the same way about you then the two of your being very good friends is such an excellent start to a relationship.
2006-08-23 16:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by Caillech W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, NEVER get a friend to ask someone out. It always turns out that the man will end up falling for the woman who approached him. The best way to ask him out is just to ask him out, dang the consequences. Preface your question by telling him that you are not joking and that you may have feelings for him that you want to explore
2006-08-23 17:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by ERIC W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like the chase, you must not ask him out on a date and even worse you musn't ask your friend to do it for you, that's like kids in junior school ! Continue being just good friends, if he wants you to be his lady then let him ask. The only thing I can suggest doing to try to find out if he fancies you is to play a game when you are in a large group of male and female friends, ask each member to say who they would pick, out of the group as their partner. Make it fun but serious.
2006-08-23 17:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are good friends, then hang out with him, don't go out. Then feel out the situation, flirt, see if he is responsive, and if not, you can say you were joking around. This gives you a feel for what he's thinking before you make a move.
2006-08-23 16:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by btdt65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get drunk with him and ask him if he wants to "hang out" sometime just you and him and have some fun.
If he says no, than you can just laugh it off and blam it on the drink.
If he says sure then make sure you two come up with a time right away.
2006-08-23 17:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by jillian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's one of your really good friends, then what is wrong with asking him out?
Just be natural, and go on ahead to do so.
2006-08-26 04:34:30 · answer #11 · answered by Saffren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋