Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years. The past year we've been 60 miles apart, so he hasn't got to spend as much time around my family as I would like. My dad seems to like him, and respects the decisions I make, cuz I'm an adult. But my mom continues to roll her eyes every time I even mention his name and pretty much said she doesn't think he's good enough for me...when she barely knows him, and doesn't even want to try to get to know him. He has done absolutely nothing to offend her, has been nothing but polite when he comes to visit, and she is quite intimidating to him because he knows she doesn't like him and it makes him kinda uncomfortable to come around. So, I don't know what to do...I pretty much think it's just her personality..and we are complete opposites...so I guess she will just have to learn to deal with it and stop being immature about the whole matter.
2006-08-23 09:45:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, my friend, to be honest with you, all moms hate their daughter's boyfriends, it's just a way of her protecting her little angel. I am surprised your dad is not as protective of his little girl liek your mom. General speaking that is the way. But, Moms know the best for their kids and I'm sure there is a reason why she doesn't like him, maybe you should sit down and have an adult conversation with her and explain to her about him and ask her to at least try. But, again, she's not going out with him, you are but, still, that is your mom, if you want to have a future with this guy, he's gota have a relationship with your mom. Becasue if she doesn't like him, his life will be a living hell. Your dad likes him perhaps he's just like his son and it's just a guy thing. But, I hope you can work it out.
2006-08-23 09:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an adult, you can make your own decisions. However, you need to ask your mother why she doesn't like your boyfriend and get a clear answer from her. Ultimately, it is your decision because you're the one that has to be with him, but you need to find out what's on your mother's mind.
Maybe she knows something you don't and doesn't want to tell you because it might be hurtful. Maybe it's just her instincts. Most of the time, outsiders can see things more clearly than insiders. Consider the fact that there are times when one person may not like another and can't really put their finger on the reason why, but something about them raises concern. You don't want to find out later, after damage has been done, that she had a good reason not to like him. Ask her and be open to her answer. It could just be a personality clash. What if it isn't?
Wish you well.
2006-08-23 10:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by NGE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom that you don't appreciate the fact that she rolls her eyes every time you talk about him. Say you appreciate her input of "he is not good enough for you" but it is your choice and she should respect that. Her mom probably said the same thing about your Dad?
2006-08-23 09:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by bonz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, your mom is right, sometimes your mom is wrong. I think you should go with your feeling. The two of you have been together a long time, and if you think he's your guy, you should try and show your mom what exactly you like about him, and tell her that you love him if you do.
2006-08-23 09:50:21 · answer #4 · answered by jug_viris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother wants the best for you and she doesn't see it with your boyfriend.
Fix it by showing her that he is worth it all. He needs to prove himself to her. More communications. Tell him to get over being intimidated. Your mother wants someone to protect you not be intimated by her.
Be polite but stand tall.
2006-08-23 09:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you actually asked your mom why she doesnt care for him? Sounds like you two need to talk about it. Moms sometimes are actually right about these things/feelings.
2006-08-23 09:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a tough one.......BUT
my mom hated my first boyfriend. She thought he was ugly and too old for me (he was 4 years older than me). Turns out he was the biggest jerk I ever met. So........mom may know best. - Mothers intuition.....
2006-08-23 09:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by honeyinthelexus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is with you. Your mother could give two flying Fu$%# who you are dating. You are just too sensitive. Tell her you are with me worst case scenario and then she will appreciate the stud!
2006-08-23 09:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you were an adult, so who cares what your mom thinks, its what you think, that is all that should matter.
2006-08-23 09:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR MOM MAY KNOW SOMETHING YOU DON'T KNOW, IT'S A REASON FOR HER NOT LIKING HIM YOU NEED TO GET TO THE BOTTOM OF IT NOW. THEN YOU CAN ALWAYS PRAY TO GOD HE WILL GIVE YOU UNDERSTANDING AND WISDOM. OH AND LEAD YOU WHERE YOU NEED TO BE. JUST PRAY UNTIL SOMETHING HAPPENS.
2006-08-23 09:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋