Well 5 years ago my husband & I were having major troubles in our ordained marriage. I kick my one & only husband out from our home & press changes agaisnt for being aburseful to me . Over the years he was being aburseful to our children.So he went over to stay with our best friends.Than my girlfriend kick out her aburseful on the streets and got a divorce.Than one day my husband believed the big fat lie which is the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence so He filed for a divorce like a coward always do to out from their lifetime commitment. Now he is living with my x-best friend over on the other side of the fence which is ALWAYS brown & have death there too. Both of them could care less for our children & me , it shows by their actions. My christain counsellor told me that my husband does care deeply for me & our children he would NOT be where he is now with the girlfriend. My counsellor told me both of them are two face & that is how they can live with themselvies
2006-08-23 09:31:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girlfriend I been where you at My husband was abusive and I was to but God separated us in order for us to see that grass ain't greener on the other and that or marriage is ordained of Him this my take some time but by fasting and prayer unceased things will be restored stay on your knees the truth is what GOD has for you is all for you and no devil in hell can steal your promise from you.Remember you are the good thang stay strong sista I'm a witness God restores even if the wait is long.Stay prayerful for God divine will to done in your life. The tongue is very powerful speak life into your dead situation. Be encouraged!!
2006-08-23 09:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by phoxy phat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A true friend would never take something that is very important to you away or hurt you in anyway. That is very wrong. You should go on with your life and enjoy it. If they want to be together there is nothing you can do about it, but live with it. Remember what goes around comes aound. Put a smile on your face, when your crying inside and your ex friend should be ashamed of herself. She was jealous of you the whole time. :-)
2006-08-23 16:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by Nevaeh 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My best friend held hands with a boy in the fourth grade.....I wouldn't go out with him because of that. Your friends, your real friends do not do that to you. If he abused you he's a waste of skin anyway. Your children love you unconditionally. Focus on them. Also, a little tip.....when you see either one of them be very happy, this will drive him crazy. He will wonder who you are with and why you are so happy. I promise this will work. This man has no scruples, give him a taste of his own medicine. When he asks why you are so happy, be mysterious. Let his mind wander. I hope you feel better. Good luck.
2006-08-23 16:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by frogspeaceflower 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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None of that made enough sense to comment on."I kick my one & only husband out from our home" "He filed for a divorce like a coward always do to out from their lifetime commitment." you don't see any contradiction in that? And what the heck does "side of the fence which is ALWAYS brown & have death there too" mean?
2006-08-23 16:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your counselor has touched on some valid (good) points.
You need to forgive and forgive and forgive. I know -- it's tough not having your kids' dad around. It must be real tough to explain to them why daddy isn't around.
Please think of the longterm effects, sis. You don't want them to grow up hating their dad, or never trusting a male figure. If you can find it in your heart to tell them the good things about him, the Lord will bless you.
After all, a bit of him is in them, and no one likes to hate themself, right? Besides, Scripture does say, "anyone who hates their spouse despises themself as well."
The "ordained soulmate" confuses me. (What it means) If he is your soulmate, he who come back to you one day and profusely weep for his sin. And you will forgive him, because you will have done that before he repents.
Fill yourself with love and forgiveness. This is a cross to bear -- give it to the Lord, and ask Him to lift up from you.
2006-08-23 16:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by Sage 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you can answer your own question.
If your "best friend" was your "best friend" she wouldn't have stolen your former husband. Neither of them have feelings enough to care about anything other then themselves, that is what makes them two a couple.
However, one day karma is going to get them right back for all the hurtful, wrong doings they've done.
2006-08-23 16:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
baby doll that is not your ordained soulmate he was something that happened you need to worry about your well being for your children and if he mistreats your kids fck him there are other men that will respect you and your children and love you and your family its up to you to make sure your kids are alright and kids do grow up so this shouldnt be an issue for you. they will give him the blues when they get older and your socalled friend is just trifling she may be jealous and want the next man you have as well then your husband will look really dum keep it real with yourself and move on and your kids will cherish you for it
2006-08-23 16:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by firered 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had a hard time understanding this...
but no. she is not a true friend. He doesnt care about anyone but himself, and neither does she. Their relationship probably wont work out because the grass will ALWAYS be greener somewhere else.
2006-08-23 16:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by kari 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you even old enough to have a husband and kids?
If so, I'd focus on moving on. Getting your GED..SOME education so you can have a better life for you and your children. They deserve that much.
2006-08-23 16:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by sanjay r 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you even old enough to have a husband and kids?
If so, I'd focus on moving on. Getting your GED..SOME education so you can have a better life for you and your children. They deserve that much.
2006-08-23 16:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by Ralley 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋