please tell me,i am giving up hope
2006-08-23 09:25:34 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It can occur when you have two equally minded individuals, who respect and care for each other, in a mature fashion with open communications. The problem at hand; is too many people bring baggage into the new relationship and are selfish. In any relationship: nonsexual, friendship, and or professional, you have to have room for compromising. Too many people cop out on the "That's how I am" rhetoric; or "Take it or leave it" speech. With attitudes as such; it's virtually impossible to have a healthy relationship.
On the other hand; you have those who say they want a relationship but in nature they want a mommy to heal their heart's owie. Some times we just need to accept the pain, learn from it, and move on to start fresh.
Don't give up hope on finding someone out there. You live in New York, what if you gave up today, and Mr. Right walked by you the next day. You wouldn't be ready or receptive to him. One last note; many times Mr. Right is right in front of our eyes; but we can't see the forest for the trees. Keep hope alive; romance, love, and monogamy isn't dead! Bet on it!!!!!
2006-08-23 11:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love my husband unconditionally, and I know for sure he loves me the same (believe me I can be a mess ha ha). We met while in the USAF in 1989, at first I did not realize he was gay. For three months I kind of thought he was a jerk (his attempts at flirting included bring me bugs, swatting me with papers, picking on me) on New Years Eve we ran into each other at a gay club. My attempts at flirting are MUCH better so we have been together ever since. We got married (not a legal ceremony) in 1992 and move into gether the next day.....we have had our ups and downs like any couple. We are happy and have the support of both of our famlies. We are friends with numerous couple with like stories...I sometimes think the midwest is an easy place to live because the people here seem to mind their own business.
Yes, my love for Joe is unconditional - in fact I don't think I would know any other way to give my love away.
2006-08-23 09:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Take out the word 'gay'...for that institution has no bearing on whether two humans can love each other and have a fulfilling relationship.
I believe it's more difficult for gay people to have successful relationships, but not impossible, that's for sure! I'm in one right now - married to my husband - and we're soooo happy to be in Love with each other. We are monogamous and HONEST with each other - and we talk about everything. Very key elements here...except there are poly relationships which also work...it's just not our thing.
Best to you!
2006-08-23 11:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by Vancouver-snuggy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jonathan and I have been together almost 15 years. Our relationship is more successful than almost any straight couple we know of.
We have gay friends who have been in couples 30 and 40 years as well as younger ones who have only been together a year.
Yes, gay people can have long term relationships. Those can't start with distrust however and only rarely can they start in a bar.
Ours didn't.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
2006-08-23 13:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can they? Of course. When will we see more examples of this in our daily lives? I don't know. I believe in love....love of Life...love of creation...and the love of giving to another unconditionally. Most of us are looking for a relationship to heal all of the things that are wrong in our lives and are not willing to look inside for our own love. Until the gay community starts loving themselves unconditionally, I feel there will be many more days of drama ahead for us all. Peace to you, Tim
2006-08-23 09:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by timinsobe 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i visit't talk for the comprehensive of the gay community, yet i comprehend MY relationship isn't open, nor have I ever universal a gay couple in an open relationship. Like Raistlin, i might want to be searching for an open can of whoop ***...or basically an open door out of that relationship.
2016-11-27 01:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so, but Im a lesbian and we tend to have longer, better relationships. Here is my stance on gay men,,, men in general,,, Men like sex. Sex all the time, with whomever they can get it from. Gay men give each other the leeway to fck whoever they want cz then they can do the same, satisfying that constant need. If striaght women allowed there boyfriends to go fck every girl they wanted, they would, please believe. I think that gay men need to rise above this behavior and try to be more monogomous. But men are men, so there you go. Dont give up hope, there are men out there who are into true love in a gay relationship, I have a few hottie friends that are just like you .
2006-08-23 10:03:47 · answer #7 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Yes.... I have friends that have been together 24 years, 13 years, 11 years, and 8 years... It doesn't always start out as unconditional love, that would have to be something you work at.. People do have baggage. Surround our self with people who are in long term relationship,, they usually attract other people who believe in that or are looking for it.
2006-08-23 09:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
YES! I'm thinking to have a long term with my current boyfriend. You just feel it and you have to be in love. Don't lose hope, we all find someone at some point.
2006-08-23 10:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course we can love each other unconditionially and have real long term relationships. I am living proof.
2006-08-23 13:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by Necole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋