This question is more for men than women, (but women are free to answer as well). Situation: you want to be with your first love & haven't seen that person for 4 years. She got married b/c you were not ready, she was immature, & she did not know what she wanted in life. You're aware she has children & accept that. She gets a divorce, both you & her start talking but do not see her in person. She matured & now knows what she wants in life. Finally, you plan to see her but she is not as thin as you remembered. She gained some weight, (about thirty pounds because of the pregnancies she had). You still feel love for her but she has "some" weight on her. What are your thoughts about her now when you see her? Do you still love her & feel as strong or do you not feel any connection w/ her anymore because she is fat? You know she will eventually lose the weight. Do men love out of personality & intelligence or do men love out of attraction as well? Does attraction, (sexiness) make a big deal?
2006-08-23 09:22:35 · 10 answers · asked by Sapphire 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
baby girl, if he is mature like what you'd describe him. then appearance would not matter. even if she'd lost a leg, if the love is true, then he would be able to see right pass it. once you see this guy, it will be the real test of character. if he reacted badly, then there is no point seeing him. but make sure on the phone, you're up front with him. you'll be fine.
2006-08-23 09:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love out of personality, intelligence, and compatibility. For me, weight doesn't play a huge part of it. You may say in appearance I have a big strike-zone. LOL
My wife has gained weight over the last 8 years we've been married, I still see her like she was when we met.
I hope that helps.
2006-08-23 16:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well as a woman I have to be honest and say it all depends on a few things.......
If he trully loved her, with intense passion - the outside doesnt matter to him at all.
If loved her somewhat, the new "heavier" girl will have to grow on him eventually.
If he is in good shape - physically fit - then the fat girl better get to the gym and quick !
What if he got fat too ? hahaha.....It might be a good idea to exchange some current pics of each other so they kinda have a warning of what to expect & no one is completely surprised.
2006-08-23 16:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by honeyinthelexus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I don't think 30 pounds makes someone "fat". Secondly, if he really loved the woman, looks wouldn't matter. He shouldn't be put off by it. If anything, he should just be supportive and help her lose the weight when she is ready, not shun her and forget her because of it.
2006-08-23 16:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weight? what about the kids? I saw an old live, shje looked older, but in a short time the old feeling came back.
2006-08-23 16:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexiness does matter to some extent, but if he loves you, it doesnt matter as much, and there is a tv channel for men its called spike tv, take THAT lifetime!
2006-08-24 14:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by Someone Right! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you loved her for hew she was for the first time why not now she still the same person i now i would i have a old friend out there i would love to be with i cant find her though
2006-08-23 16:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by tonydiekman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a history with this man, i doubt it will be a problem.but if it is and you really want to be with him lose the weight.
2006-08-23 16:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the question is just too long, i lost you half ways
2006-08-23 16:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be so *&^& shallow
2006-08-23 16:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by scott a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋