i love him for 17 years & he loved me back. we always had a problem getting with each other due to others. we finaly get with each other,we lived together for 11months, i left due to family (his side)started things between us.i left 2 days before his birthday,talk to him that day, he died 2 days later on my son's birthday. i can't get it out of my mind & can't stop crying. family wouldn't let me go to service, they all think it's my fault. i would never do anything to hurt him.
2006-08-23 09:19:46 · 5 answers · asked by diana b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That person will obviously hold a special place in your heart for a very long time. Things will get better with time and you will be able to move on. You can't blame yourself for someone else's death. You have no control over that unless you are the one taking their life from them. So, if you didn't take his life then it's not your fault. Allow yourself to be happy again.
2006-08-23 09:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by NGE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I can't believe they would actually put that on you. That is terrible. They are going through a hard time, too, you have to remember that, and they are speaking without thinking. They may have something against you but they don't mean what they say. It's understandable that you would cry. Death is a very difficult part of life that we all have to deal with at one point or another. It isn't fun, I know this. Give yourself alone time and give yourself time to get over this. This is hard. You'll get through it. And smile because you got to know such a wonderful person in life. If you believe in an after life, smile because you know someone will be there someday to welcome you with open arms. I'm so sorry for your loss. God bless......and remember, it was not your fault.
2006-08-23 09:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by *apes* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother died on August 21, 1976. It was thirty years ago last Monday. He was just 15 months younger than me. It still hurts. From time to time, I can still cry about it.
You will never "deal with" or "get over" it. That's all b.s. spoken by people who have never lost anyone close to them.
What you can do is accept it. That's mean acknowledging the loss and accepting the fact that it will hurt for the rest of your life. It will hurt less as time passes, but it will alway hurt.
2006-08-23 09:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you if it is your fault since you didn't say how he died, but since you would never do anything to hurt him I doubt it. Mourn for the life lost, but cherish the love you shared. If your love was true (as it seems) then he would want you to hold that love close and share it with someone special one day. It takes time, but it will stop hurting so much and you'll smile again.
2006-08-23 09:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to move on i wish i could find some one that devoted to me and love me and my family im sick dont know how much time left so this is improtant to me see i whant to be loved but feel like a dam geek cowboybiker
2006-08-23 09:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by tonydiekman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋