2006-08-23 09:19:18 · 30 answers · asked by shart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how do i make the relationship better
2006-08-23 09:20:29 · update #1
Do something positive - go somewhere, get out and have fun, or just turn the comedy central channel on - make some popcorn and laugh together. Stop focusing on the negatives.
2006-08-23 09:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens. When we get too familiar with each other in relationships, especially, in marriage, we tend to expect a lot from each other. We take everything for guaranteed and we presume a lot & tend to believe that the other partner already knows it all so why all the fuss to share our likes & dislikes. We even do not give each other enough breathing space. It is normal. No serious problem. AS SIMPLE AS THAT.
You need to talk about it with the partner and sort out what is causing the irritation. Give each other a break; give each other enough time & space to involve in some hobby or social/religious/community welfare activity and above all try to change your routine. AND IT WILL BE ALLRIGHT.
2006-08-24 01:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married you need to talk, listen, hug, kiss, lust and everything you can as a married couple. Think back why you got married. Remember and bring it back.
Sometimes we get wrapped up into every BS and forget about that kiss or that I love you with meaning. Little things make all those other things seem so small.
Talk about you both and be interested in each other. Give each other at least 5 hugs a day and mean it. Irritable stuff will disappear.
Try it. It has worked for my wife and I for over 20 years.
2006-08-23 16:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango.
Marriage should be a 50-50 partnership in an ideal situation.
Just as you know that the world is not fair, so is this idyllic notion about marriage being 50-50 partnership.
Stay with it as long as it does not get too lop sided. If one of you is irritated other should learn to ignore, and should not make matters worst. Some thing has to give from time to time.
2006-08-23 16:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out what the real issue underneath the irritability is. Those things are just issues, not the real problem. This is my cheesecake with cherries on top theory....you are irritated and snapping at each other over the cherries, but thats just whats on top...you need to dig down in to the cheesecake if you want to solve the real problem and make the relationship better. Good luck!
2006-08-23 16:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read this book and see if sheds some light on the story.
It explains that there are 5 languages of love:
1) Physical Touch
2) Acts of Service
3) Words of Affirmation
4) Quality Time
5) Receiving Gifts
Your spouse may need more attention in one of these areas then you are giving and vice versa.
2006-08-23 16:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and pick a good time when spouse is not tied and communicate try and get to the bottom of what is causing irritation if you say you love each other irritability should not exist......patience normally helps and over looking small issues is the key
2006-08-23 16:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by ref b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a tarot card that tells me, "Pretend you are what you want to be and so you shall be" and I think it's right. It's very normal. Anybody who lives together for a long time will get on each other's nerves once in a while. You do it with family, right? It's no different with your spouse. When I get to feeling this way, I go out of my way to be sweet to him, to NOT snap at him and whatnot, and it eventually fixes itself. Eventually he stops being that guy who annoys the hell out of me and starts being that guy I can't wait to be with again. If you know what I mean.
2006-08-23 16:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of you has crossed the limits of marriage. only when one gets love outside it behaves like this. trust each other and shower the love from your side. always try to talk for each small thing be it soap or hanky. you will see spouse will also talk and then initiate in bed. do not get irritated take everything lightly. best of luck
2006-08-24 03:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by Retaish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you must remember that all relationships have thier ups and downs. There will always be times when you feel like you just can't go on. 99% of the time the bad times will always turn into good. The only advice that can get you through this time is communication!!! Let them know what you're feeling and be open to how they are feeling!!! Good luck!!!!
2006-08-23 16:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by key4eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋