sometimes I feel like I'm afraid of meeting people or even talking to people. Is there something wrong w/me?

Question

i get nervous talking to people and meeting like big groups of people and worry what they think about me. do i have social anxiety? How do I fix this?

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Answer 1

You shouldn't worry. A lot of people, including myself, are the same way. To make things a little worse, I have a mild case of hyperhydrosis.(oversweating) Usually due to large groups of people.

Confidence is the key. If you have something to be proud of, there shouldn't be anything to worry about. Try hitting the gym for a confidence booster or even reading the newspaper. Having things to talk about will help you overcome this.

Wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

I think that is perfectly normal. I often feel that way, too- and I frequently avoid big crowds. I feel much happier, usually, when I am either by myself, or with one friend at a time.

I also worry about what people think about me sometimes. To be honest, I think that is normal, really- as long as someone isn't consumed with the thoughts all of the time.

You may or may not have social anxiety. If you do, it's not a bad thing. It is very common, and can be rectified by seeing a doctor. You may end up taking medication for it. If so, it will most likely help you.

It's okay to be a little nervous, especially in new crowds. Just learn to love yourself, and you'll be fine! I know that is no small task...because I struggle with it all the time. I think that the reality is that we experience highs and lows of self-confidence. Sometimes, I feel very brave and self assured- but then other times, I feel quite nervous, and shy.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Whether or not there is something wrong depends a lot on how severe your symptoms tend to be. A lot of people experience some amount of anxiety/discomfort at some point when meeting new people or being put into unusual situations- such as large crowds. The question is how often do you experience this, how badly does your anxiety affect you, are you able to deal with it... that sort of thing. If it happens enough or is intense enough that it bothers you then you might want to consider talking to a doctor/professional. There are different things that you might try. By talking to a counselor you might be able to determine what it is that is triggering these reactions/low self confidence and overcome the reasons behind it. They also have medications for people who can't seem to cope otherwise. (But in my opinion... trying to get to the cause first is always better than immediately medicating.) =) Good Luck!

Answer 4

Social anxiety? You mean your shy? Join the club. In every group of people you meet there will be others who feel just like you do but are covering it up. Every single one of us presents a face we want people to see, not the real us inside - most of us keep that for those closest to us (that's why intimate relationships are so hard). Don't go down the pop-a-pill route. Find the face you want to show, the persona you want to inhabit. It's not a easy thing to do, it takes time, a certain amount of pain and sometimes acute embarrassment but that's life. In time you'll learn to relax more and grow into the role you have chosen to play. Bets of luck, and remember - if your nervous in a group there will always be people in that group who will sympathise because they have been there too. Best of luck.

Answer 5

hi there, i really can sympathize with u, i am only 36 but i have had this for 15 years. i have tablets for anxiety, which does not get rid of it but lessons the feelings. i have spent many years in my own company because people dont understand unless thay have this social anxiety-phobia, i have tried everything u name it nothing works, all i can say if u r having a semi-good day and feeling confident push ur self out there and keep saying to urself im great and if people dont like me, i dont care. it helps a bit. i have had 2 months of accupuncture and it did bugger all for me. and i waiting for a coucelling appointment from the doctors. so good luck we can only hope 1 day it miracusley disappears

Answer 6

Everything has a big fancy name these days...there's nothing wrong with being shy around big groups of people you don't know as long as it doesn't cripple you from trying. The best way to conquer this might be a class on public speaking....practice makes perfect and gives you confidence.
I'd say try using your mind and your wits before trying a drug to help this. It's a more permanent solution.

Answer 7

No of course not everybody is shy especially me but yet I sing in front of thousands of people I dont even know. And if there is a big group around stay calm just find a person in the group that you want to talk to and go for it!

Answer 8

Many people experience this feeling. Yes, it's probably social anxiety. Various forms of therapy or medication can be helpful. Start by asking your doctor.

Here is how Fiona Apple deals with it:
• "I spend most of my day holed up in my hotel room, in silence, boring myself to death."
– Fiona Apple, on suffering from social anxiety while on tour, to Time

Answer 9

My son had the same problem he is 21 and hated big crowds and would actually have panic attacks at the mall and other crowded areas. so he went to his doctor and he put him on a low dose of medication and he is doing great,he feels so much better about himself and handles social situations with ease.

Answer 10

You do have social anxiety. There's a pill you can take for this. Also, there are excersies you can follow to help you cope. Try both and with enough training, you won't need the medicine.