ideas on how or what to do to make it not hurt when having sex back there
2006-08-23 09:08:00 · 27 answers · asked by CHer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try laying on your back and have him go in slowly. Also use Anal ease, it helps numb you, or at the very least use KY or some lubrication.
2006-08-23 09:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use any type of warming water based lube, try KY. You can pick it up at most grocery stores. Try to avoid anything thats petroleum based, if your friend is smart and is using condoms, the petroleum based stuff breaks down the latex, making it break. And him doing that back there could lead to him getting a bacterial infection. Yeah, doing it back there is not exactly the most pleasent thing, but hey, if you are looking into it with your hubby or whatever, no biggie. Have fun, find out what you guys are into.
Oh one other thing, go slow, start off with plenty of forplay to relax you, one finger, maybe a thumb. Just go slow and work your way up. Make sure you can fully trust him with this, so he knows when to stop, or slow down and when you are ready to go full on. Also there is no such thing as if you do it enough stuff will just fall out, blah blah blah... Besides, you may actually end up liking it and getting off on doing it. You never know.....
2006-08-23 16:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by jeff the drunk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are also over 21, you can say "anal sex"...don't be ashamed to call it what it is.
Relax...I've been told that lying on your sides, spoon style, is a good position for first time anal sex...use lots of lube (and he should wear a condom, so if you want vaginal afterward, he doesn't have to go wash his penis)...
Take your time...go slow...get in a little way, the stop and hold it there until she relaxes (sorry, I'm not sure if I'm writing to the male or female of this situation)...it may take a number of tries before he's able to penetrate fully...don't rush it...there's a chance it may not ever happen, but if you take it slowly and both want this, it'll likely come about in time...
2006-08-23 16:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots and lots of lube. I've heard you can't have too much lube. I've also heard not to use stuff like anal ease, because if something bad happens, like you tear or something, you won't be able to feel anything to know that something's wrong. Oh, and make sure he uses a condom. The anus and the things that come out of there are extremely dirty and full of germs you can get nasty infections from.
2006-08-23 16:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of good lube. I know you said over 21 only and I'm 18, but I have experience and if you find a lube that is right for you, it will feel great.
2006-08-23 16:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by Pirate_Wench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of lubricant! Relax. If you anticaipate having anal, maybe try and poop before the experience because it won't feel like you need to take one so bad when you are doing it, plus it lessens the chance of it getting messy :/ Good luck and try it more than once if you don't like it the first time because I really think you will learn to love it.
2006-08-23 16:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by *apes* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take baby steps. First use a lot of lube, than, stick one finger, than 2, maybe 3, after you get used to that, go for the grand prize of the penis. But, if you want to practice, use a dildo. A soft, small, flexable kind.
2006-08-23 16:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ian 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Back there? You mean anal...if you can't talk about it openly, then don't engage in it at all.
But in answer to your inane question...lots of lube and take it slow. That's the short and skinny of it.
But you should do some research into anal sex and sex of all kinds frankly...don't engage in something you're embarrassed about...shows immaturity; and if you're immature about it, then you shouldn't be doing it.
From the Great and Powerful Poppet
2006-08-23 16:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Relax, lots of lube and even a drink or two to calm you down. If you just don't like it all don't do it. But its actually not bad at all once you can relax....
2006-08-23 16:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Yes i do, STOP having ANAL SEX.I will never try it. I like to see my parnter while haven sex,and i like to move and enjoy sex. The only one who is enjoying anal sex is your parnter. If you are hurting while having anal sex,Why are you doing it??If it's to please your parnter,For get that.You both should agree on the sex you are going to do.That way you both can enjoy each other.If he still wants you to have anal sex,It's time to kick his A*S to the curb, and find someone who will respect your feelings
Clowmy
2006-08-23 16:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋