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When we met I told her that I didn't want a smoker or drinker and she chose to do it anyways.

2006-08-23 09:01:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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I wouldnt leave her over it, but I would talk to her about it and maybe look into some counciling. You need to let her know that she doesnt need to do that. Because ocne you start drugs, it just leads to more drugs and then she will have a real problem. You just need to talk explain your concerns, explain that she can do anything else but that.

2006-08-23 09:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 0 0

Weed is illegal...call the cops on her if you wish.
But my husband doesn't "really" like me getting tattoos, smoking, drinking and some other such things that don't really matter.
If she was smoking ciggs I would tell you to lay off, it's her choice to with her body as she pleases and it's not a question of love but a question of not "giving in" to every pet peeve that your spouse might have about you.
But since it's weed...it's illegal, pure and simple. If you or she has any kind of job where there are random drug tests...not a good idea to engage in it.
So call the cops on her...but if you don't want to do that...then frankly let it go. Did you marry her for her "good" habits, or did you marry her because you love her, that's the question you need to ask yourself.

From the Great and Powerful Poppet

2006-08-23 16:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 3 · 0 0

Your wife is making a HUGE MISTAKE.

She is making the choice to destroy her body. What kind of mother can she be if she pollutes her body with weed? I'm a Teacher, and studies prove that weed smoke causes brain damage in children who get early second hand exposure to smoke--and especially if the mom smokes during pregnancy..
If you DO NOT have children--I would tell you to leave her if she refuses to respect the agreement that you BOTH had before marriage to NOT SMOKE. Chances are she will just continue and get worse and worse--better to cut your losses now and find a new, clean wife..If you stay, realize that she will be the Mother of your children one day, and I worked with 5 year old kids who cant write their names or read the word "cat" because their mommas smoke weed. Its a shame.

If you DO have children, you both have GOT to work this out--and Do Not leave her if she has your children--your kids will need you even more now..Make it clear that you will NOT tolerate this behavior--BE FIRM..Women usually like when a man puts their foot down when the woman IS DOING WRONG. Put your foot down and Be A Man! Tell her to stop this because that is child abuse! Dont let her spend the families hard earned money on weed! If she refused to stop, then PRETEND that you will leave her--threaten to leave her so she will understand just how bad this is--maybe that will make her stop. Dont ease up on her until she STOPS. Even stop sleeping with her if she keeps doing it--dont share her bed.
My family members who smoke weed are a MESS. They can barely speak in full sentences. I would NEVER marry a man who smokes weed--I dont want retarded kids!

Read about weed and the effects it has on children.
Good Luck and Peace

2006-08-23 16:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0 0

well, i am having a similar problem, but when we met i did everything to. My husband is addicted to pain pills and smokes pot and also drinks. I am living a clean life now and i wish he would to. But , since you told her right from the start i would just say "i told you i did not like this behavior from the start and if you don't quit I'll just have to leave." I bet she will at least try to stop. good luck.

2006-08-23 19:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by gee-geeofmo 3 · 0 0

try talking to her about it again and tell her the options you have. like if she doesn't stop or doesn't get help to try and stop smoking, you'll leave or report her. just play a game or something that will scare her. leave for a week or two until she comes to her senses and realizes its you or the weed. your in the same situation as if she was cheating on you or if she was an alcoholic.

2006-08-23 16:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by horsegal08 2 · 0 0

If she loves you but still won't give it up then she is addicted and needs help. Should you leave? I don't know, but you should tell her not to smoke around you or your home. Weed is against the law, if it's in your home you are breaking the law no matter if it is yours or hers.

2006-08-23 17:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by Melm 2 · 0 0

is she smoking weed in moderation. like once every couple of months? or is she doing it everyday? regardless, you promised her a marriage through the good and bad times. don't leave her because of this. help her to see it's not good for her. why don't you try signing her up for a yoga class. this relaxes your body as much as weed does.

2006-08-23 18:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by lalalalalala 2 · 0 0

Well you have to decide if it is something you can deal with or not and how bad it is.If it is something you absolutely want no part of tell her she has to quite or you are going to leave and if she still continues to do it than the weed is more important to her than you marriage good luck.

2006-08-23 16:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0 0

Yes definitely. I have been with my husband through 2 marriages for a total of 25 yrs. He is a constant pot smoker and is now using prescription pills in excess. I can tell you leave. NOW! Drug use will ruin your life, as well as hers if you don't get out now. Believe me I know all about it. I have nothing thanks to his drug use. Nothing except terrible memories. So do it now before children are involved. If you have children with her they will use drugs also. Druggies will eventually give it to their children too. I know all too well. LEAVE NOW! God Bless you.

2006-08-24 17:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Then you should have stuck to your guns and not married her if she was not what you wanted. I can't tell you to leave your wife because she smokes weed that's up to you.

2006-08-23 16:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0 0

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