I've had a couple of guys smile and say hi to me but i just freze up and don't know what to say or think and to make thing worse i'm a very shy shy person.. Is there any way's u regamand to get over this shyness?? I'm also a huge closet case...
2006-08-23 09:00:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It must be a huge closet then.
I think you should become frigid or celibate and become a catholic priest.
2006-08-23 09:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by slimshady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe Jesus Christ lived in the flesh. I was very shy also and it was because of my homosexuality as a child. I knew it was something that did not fit in society. I was not teased or harassed either. There was no one else like me as a child around me. This may be some of why you was shy, I even had a gender dysphoria as a child, so I really thought I was different. They had no treatments readily available, not even until just a few years now and they are scarce at that.
I also did not like a part of my body, yes I had acne and that was the worst. So if you have acne, clean it up, do not pick and wash your face or chest three times a day and ask your parents to get some noxema bar soap for body acne. I am still shy at 45 because i was so shy I did not even know what to do but ignore it all, lol.
Focus on what makes you shy, then break it down to separate issues to handle them individually. I recommend you ask for help from Jesus Christ on all concerned, it may be a message from him even.
2006-08-23 10:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to get over shyness is by being spontanous, and just being open with them and talk to them.
DON'T think what you say will make things worse, you're just a person I think most people can understand why you're shy!!
2006-08-23 09:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your shyness is probably based in the idea that you have to do something and get approval. You dont have to do anything and you dont need someone elses approval to survive. Say hi back and than go back to being shy. Not saying hello back is not polite. After you get used to saying hi, the interested guys will make small talk. Enjoy that for awhile. Remember, you are just talking, not selecting your partner for life. Enjoy yourself.
2006-08-23 09:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You took the first step which is recognizing this. Congrats! Not a lot of people (shy people) are willing to do it. Now you need to help ur selfsteem grow and get stronger. You can practice in front of the mirror, over and over again until you feel comfortable with yourself.... After, when the actual situation comes up, just feel BEAUTIFUL because they are saying Hi to you... they are noticing you.. and you need to make out of that impression the best of it. Good luck!
2006-08-23 09:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think that you know what to do first. Be honest with yourself and start going places where no one knows you and talk to people. You have to not care what people think about you. That is a hard thing to do when we have been doing it for so long. Really, it is difficult but very accomplishable. Try at that first. Then you can move on to bigger and better things. I am kinda shy around cute guys, so I know what you are talking about.
2006-08-23 09:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by Metacoma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first.How old are you, if you are under 18 I would not rush anything, You can check with pflag or other organizations and go to meetings were it will be easier to get to know people and talk. Who knows maybe one of the guys that smile at you could be there too, it is not uncommon for you to feel shy and awkward about your orientation, but you do not have to rush
2006-08-23 09:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by Finally home 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to be yourself - I am/was very shy myself and a smile worked for me, I caught the man I wanted 16 years ago!
2006-08-23 09:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you turn 18, then visit a gay bathhouse. You won't be shy for long.
2006-08-26 12:06:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop worrying about what people think of u. just b urself.
2006-08-25 16:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by mat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋