If a guy cheats on his wife and marries the girl he cheated with. will that marriage last?

Question

I was with my ex husband for 5 years and gave him 2 children. He cheated on me with a girl that lived near by, he left me for her about 3 years ago. Now they are due to get married my issue is if he would do it to me will he do it to her as well and will there marriage last.

Answer 1

What are the chances of ANY marriage lasting these days? Not too good. They've lasted 3 years so far - longer than most "adultery" relationships do - so maybe they can make it work. My advice would be to stop worrying about his relationship and move on with your own life. Focus on yourself and your kids - does it really matter if relationship with this other woman lasts?

Answer 2

Your ex-husband and you have been together for 5 years and that is quite a long time when you think about it. His new marriage may not last due to guilt reasons and also because maybe he left you because he felt tied down. So if he is to get married again it may not last as he may start to feel tied down again. Marriage is a difficult choice and it is something you are meant to keep for the rest of your life. When you are just dating you are able to do, well whatever. You get to have dates, and you think you are going to be with each other forever. However when your married you think that these things aren't possible as you may have kids or bill difficulties.

My advice is to forget about your husband. The only time you will probably get to spend with him is with your kids. Hes probably moved on with this other girl (or so he thinks). You should go out one night, get a babysitter and find a decent guy - just don't marry him as it may cause more trouble between your kids and your ex.

Answer 3

My therapist told me once it's useless to get a divorce without trying to fix the problems first because the problems will follow you into your next relationship. So yes, most likely their marriage will fail, because he hasn't solved the problems he had with you. I don't necessarily believe once a cheater always a cheater. You can cheat and have a marriage end and be determined not to let it happen again. People can change if they're determined to do it. But in his case, he just compounded the problem by completely ignoring it and pretending it isn't there.

Answer 4

Now that's a no longer common one. First, i fairly have been cheated on and stayed with my spouse even afterwards, what am i able to assert i admire her. besides the shown fact that the question of who my new child grow to be never got here up and that i nonetheless understand the youngster is mine. If she advised you with regard to the affair than she fairly cares approximately you if she lied upon getting caught by ability of then you definately theres a distinctive tale altogether.the two way the two people income some thing from mendacity for sure he has emotions for her via fact that this has been occurring for a at the same time as and in line with probability she has emotions for him however no longer as strongly. in case you probably did go away her who could she turn to him, possibly yet while she did care with regard to the courting then she could blame him risky recreation for him to play if he fairly desires to be along with her. in line with probability she does love you yet there wasnt as lots exhilaration interior the courting so she grew to become to different components. Any boy can go away asserting that he wont preserve whats his, yet any guy is acquainted with that if there is the slightest probability that the youngster is your's you may desire to stay and carry it as such. interior the tip it only is going so some distance as how lots you adore her, how prepared you're to set the previous at the back of you, and are you going to make sure this new child if he's your's and carry him with care and love or will you abandon him and his mom. however she would deserve it the youngster would not. and that i do no longer understand approximately you yet i does no longer have confidence everyone to develop my new child the suited way besides me. i could only get the try in case you knew little question that A) you have been staying and could develop the youngster as though it have been your individual no be counted what and B) if your prepared to have confidence this lady with your heart returned as quickly as you're taking the plunge

Answer 5

Most likely he will do to her what he did to you. She will be the one on the receiving end of the deal. He's not going to change his ways just because he's with someone else. He will inevitably take his problems along with him in his new marriage. What goes around always comes around.

Answer 6

60% of divorced people who remarry divorce again. Why?

Because we love the "in-love" feeling but do not want to put in the work to love someone the way they need to be loved. It's not always easy to express love to your significant other.

Take solice in that you can find someone else like he has. This time find a man that is willing to work at a marriage rather than just wants to have sex. ( I realize that's pretty assuming but its not uncommon.)

Answer 7

It just depends on the people... really. I know some who have ended up in yet another divorce, and I've known others that have ended up with their soulmate and are truly happy. Don't be discouraged- - hopefully you've found someone else, too!

Answer 8

Who knows, I do not believe once a cheater always a cheater though. I think once you cheat on one person you probably will do it again to that person but I do believe that you can move on in life meet someone new and never cheat on that person.

Answer 9

It may or may not last, just like any marriage. If you're wondering if he's gonna cheat on her too - he most likely will.

Answer 10

Well it depends on circumstances. Second marriages have same chances of success as first marriages.