ok you need some background info on this one...my partner wants to know as he doesn't understand my "if you listened the first time" explanation...i hate not being acknowledged and or ignored completely! if someone can explain to my partner they get the points!
2006-08-23 08:53:12 · 16 answers · asked by Kirsty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
"If you listened the first time" AKA Selective Hearing is a problem among many of us. My husband suffers from this especially while watching TV. Its not that your partner is not acknowledging or ignoring you, sometimes we are just distracted easily and things just don't click until the end of the sentence and there like, "What did you say?" & we say WTF, "Why dont you listen to me!" When my husband doesn't get what I have to say thte first time than I don't repeat myself. Try this maybe it'll work... Anyways, Just hang in there, especially if you love this person alot-it'll get better...if not who cares there are more things to worry about than having to repeat yourself agian!
2006-08-23 09:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by "ωнαтєνѕ!" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you keep saying something until you get a response or reaction then you are kinda nagging.
My suggestion is to sit down with your honey, talk about how you feel about something, let him put his input in (and don't make him feel dumb for what he says), then come to an agreement, and if that isn't possible then let things fall where they fall.
Agree to disagree.
You aren't always going to agree, and constantly bringing it up just makes your spouse block you out.
Sometimes with my hubby I am right, other times he is, but never ever say "I told you so". A better way of saying it is "your were right, sorry I doubted you".
No one gets hurt, it shows respect for each other, and earns trust in each other's opinions no matter how silly it may seem at the time.
All women don't nag, some of us really do give the guy a chance.
2006-08-23 16:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by hisladytish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know what you are saying. I think men have selective hearing.
I will give you an example; we have just had a new bathroom fitted and we were discussing the tiling and decided that we would not tile all of the bathroom. So that was that. So i asked the tiler to give us a price for tiling the agreedtiling.My husband went ballistic saying that he had not agreed to it and could even remember discussing it.
The consequence was that I had to cancel the tiler and we now have a half finished bathroom just because my husband nodded his head but was not listening. This sort of thing can cause arguments. I say to my husband that I am worried about his memory as he never seems to remember anything we discuss these days.
The way I think to solve this sort of problem is write everything down we discuss that needs agreement on and hopefully he will soon get the message.
2006-08-23 16:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with a women, & we are together 100% of the time & she says the same thing to me, I don't listen or I ignore her when she ask me to do something.We have argued about this, to no ends, let just say over years of living together all the time, one develops selective hearing, yep I have it!. there is more to this though, everyone has their modes too, & when a guy lets too many honey do's ( thing she ask u to do, that mean a lot to her ) go by, she gets a tone in her voice that sounds like naging, but it not & don't ever tell her it is, trust me on that one. all this repeating of things she needs, will start that tone & mode thingy. so if two people live together & want to be happy, they have to do at lest a few things for each other each day & not let tone & mode thingy build up.
2006-08-23 16:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women nag because men don't listen! Period! They just keep doing the same things over and over again, when we have already told you a million times. Men have selective hearing and they want to listen to what they want to hear, if that makes any since at all to you. If you tell them a ball game is on, they listen to you. If you tell them to take out the trash, they hear you, they just forget to listen. BUT just to throw this out at you.............not all women nag, but chances are if we aren't nagging you anymore, we have someone else to do your job!!!
2006-08-23 15:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think woman nag that much!! Guys do it too!! Men are always like that the only time they are aware of their surrounding is if it's on fire or made out of cheese!!!!
2006-08-23 15:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's what women do, this is why we were bought in o this world. If we don't nag we simply don't get what we want.
2006-08-23 16:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite simply to manipulate and get their own way.
Saying that, I know some men that nag.
2006-08-23 16:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by Norman Bates 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all a matter of perception. nagging to one person is caring to another.read men are from mars and women are from venus by john gray.
2006-08-23 16:06:30 · answer #9 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a relief mechanism. Women don't belch or break wind. If they didn't nag - they might explode.
2006-08-23 15:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋