I love children and wish I could have one of my own. does that mean my clock is ticking??

Question

And am I ready? Should I have a couple? Where should i go from here?I need some advice.

my feiance is wanting to get started but i duno we are not married yet and I don't wanna make a mistake. And I need some advice because I am confused and it is like since i told him i didn't want to have kids till we r married he has been mad at me. Will he get over it and see where i am comeing from? If not what do I do? Should I go ahead just because he thinks we should? Or go with my first choice and wait?

Answer 1

First of all how old are you? If you are under 18 then I would suggest you wait on having kids.

Step 1 would be to find a lifetime partner to get married to. Then you can concider having kids. Don't forget that kids cost $$$ and if you don't have much $$$ then its not a good idea to have kids yet.

I would suggest that you just play with other peoples kids or take on a profession that interacts with kids.

Answer 2

Well, I may be old fashion but, I believe children should have two parents, both committed to each other and their children. So, are you married, or even engaged?
Age is another factor. Do not have children if you still have some growing up to do yourself yet. Explore the world, go to college, have a life of your own before you commit yours to the lives of children. It's not like you can change your mind later once you have them. You are stuck until they are adults. There is so much more to say about this. I have already been there done that, so I know what I am talking about. No matter what anyone says here, you will do what you want to anyway. But stop and think about the state of things in this world right now - do you really want to bring children into this messed-up place? And if you really are mature enough to consider having children, then consider adoption!!!

Answer 3

Well, your biological clock might be ticking but, generaly speaking, since you are a female, you all plan for the future more than us guys. Therefore, having kid(s) means a family, be stable with your life but, that does not mean anything. Here's why: I am 24, male, I have a 18-month old brother, I want to have a few kids myself but, since I'm a guy, I really don't have a biological clock. I think it's just need to be loved by some one else and being needed and feel like you have to achieve more in life and have a family and be more accomplished and a family.

Answer 4

If your honey isn't willing to commit to a lifetime commitment like marriage, then why do you think he is willing to commit to an 18 year commitment for a child?
I think you need to find a real man before you bring a child into this world that will be yet another victim of a single parent home.
I love children too, and have raised two myself, but would never bring another one into this world because we simply couldn't afford it.
You might want to look into what it really takes to have a baby before you just jump ahead and have one. The cost, the fact that they become children then teenagers, the fact that your life is never the same as you knew it once you are a mother, many factors.
Dump the bozo, find a man that really wants to commit, and do things in the order they should be done in, make sure he is ready to commit to you first, then a family.

Answer 5

Kids are great, but really think it over. My daughter was an unexpected suprise... We found out about her 2 weeks after we were married. Marriage and then kids is the "traditional" approach, but the way I see it if you feel this is the person you want to have children with then do it. ON YOUR TIME! No offense to any of the guys out there but you have to make this decision based on how you feel. It's great if you both want to do it. Then there's no worry if it happens. Only you will know if your ready... dont count on finance... your never really financially ready unless your really really rich. Just look into your heart, think about weather you are in college, want to go to college, have already gone.. what you want out of life and what you want to accomplish before the babies. I hope this helps... or makes sense. I'm speaking from experience 22 year old mother and wife with only a GED. There's still time for those things I just wish I would have done them sooner. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Kimmila, you didn't say how old are you. You need to look at your budget and lifestyle. Are you willing to make the sacrifices to be with your kids. Who will raise them while you work, or do you have a financial support system in place to stay home with the kids.

Why do you want the kids? You need to answer that question first and foremost. Also, do you have a partner that also wants kids?

As you might imagine, we cannot make this decision for you, but I hope these questions will help you decide.

Answer 7

Waite as long as you can!! Trust me, I'm 27 with 4 kids and its crazy.. I loved kids too before I had my own.. Everything changes I mean Everything.. Enjoy life now because once you have kids you can't do the things you can now..So WAIT. There is no Clock..At least I never felt no ticking!!! Just Wait.. Trust me, I love my kids but things could have been way different..

Answer 8

Well it all depends on when the wedding is and how old the two of you are. If your wedding is a ways off like a few years then maybe consider it if not you can wait. I personally think you should wait till you married then you don't have that liability of something happening to the two of you and you becoming a single parent.

Answer 9

Just because your biological clock is ticking doesn't mean you have to go out and get knocked up today. Take time and enjoy your life, don't rush into having a baby because that is alot of responsibility....So what if your clock is ticking...Just press the snooze button!

Answer 10

You clock is only ricking when you are approaching the countdown to mission your window of opportunity for children.

When you are financially secure and ready to devote your every waking and non-waking hour to the needs of somebody else, then go ahead have a couple babies.