first why do most people feelif you have been with your Girlfriend for 15 yeras, it's almost like people think just for the sake of being together for 15 years, you must get married? i care a'lot for her and we have one child together, he's 13a'lot of the reason i stay is because of him, but i'm just unsure why else i stay, i like sex but she's kinda oldfashoned that way to. so if anyone else has ever had a relationship like this, please give me some advice.thanx
2006-08-23 08:45:17 · 6 answers · asked by rpoker 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Huh?? You sound pretty immature, but if I do the math you'd have to be at least late 20's early 30's! If that's the case, do her and your 13 y/o son a favor and move on. They don't deserve for you to stay around for the "sex", when you don't think mommy is good enough to marry. Consider what you are subliminally teaching your son about his mother. Don't you think she deserves better than your pitiful "care a lot for her" attitude? Don't you feel a little stupid calling a grown woman you've been with for 15 years your "girlfriend?" Lemme guess, it's either stay with your child's mother or go back to your own mother. Wow.
2006-08-23 08:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - I don't agree that being jealous is our nature. My husband and I have a very open relationship, we both are HUGE flirts, each of us has a number of friends that are the opposite sex, and it's no big deal. We maintain a line of communication and hold no secrets from one another, so there is no reason for either of us to be jealous.
Second - Are you and your g/friend happy with each other? Does the relationship work for each of you and for the child? If so, then who gives a damn about what others/society thinks. I'm a firm believer in that as long as each of you are happy and the "family" works as is, then it doesn't matter if you are married or not. I also believe that a marriage/relationship should not stay together just because of children. If that's the only reason for being together it's completely unhealthy for all parties involved. Trust me kids know when our relationships aren't working; and they can be much more understanding and flexible about things if given the chance.
May you find what your heart & soul truly seek.
Dee
2006-08-23 16:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by !*Tejasgal94*! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, what does your question have with the jealousy? Are you flirting with other women? Is she feeling a bit insecure since you've been together so long that you aren't married? Do you screw around on her? Are you giving her reasons to be jealous?
Your leaving a lot out of your question which leads me to believe that you want it both ways.
Either commit to her, or move on, either way you'll still see your child, but don't waste her time if you don't want to be with her, and if you truly do want to be with her? Why don't u marry her? You also might want to check out the laws of your state, cause some have a common law marriage thing where if you've been together for a certain period of time it's just a give-in that you are already married.
check it out, u might already be married!!!!!!!!!lol
2006-08-23 16:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by hisladytish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont leave her...your the reason she had the baby so you should stay with her until ur finished raising that baby (at 18). i think that you 2 should just get married and live the rest of your lives together. after all it would feel kinnda weird living with someone for 15 years and getting married to some women you'v only known for like 1 right?
2006-08-23 15:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealous, not jeolus.
We just are. It's our nature...
2006-08-23 15:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, where does jealousy come in? your question and story don't go together.
2006-08-23 15:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋