i am a teen why are parents sooooo over-protective? i want parents answers here?

Question

i am 15 and i live in the suberbs, a good community, there has never been a shooting or a kidnapping ever anywehre around here.

Because i am 15 i dont have a permit or a car so when i go out with my friends we ride our bikes. Today i was going to go out to lunch with one of my friends, then across a street to a park to meet another one of my friends at 3 then i have a party across the street at the public library at 5 for volunteering there all summer. All of these locations are within 1/8 of a mile of eachother, the place where we eat is about 1/8 of a mile from the park and the library is inbetween the park and the place where we eat. And this little area is about 2 miles from my house

My mom is making me come home inbetween me meeting my friend for lunch and me meeting my other friend at the park just so she can drive me back to the park, Why???

i am a good girl with a 3.8 GPA (stupid honors geometry) I dont have a boy friend but there is this guy who is one of my best friends who everyone says likes me and he has a 4.1 GPA.

I do have a cell phone and i always have it on me and i always answer but that doesnt matter to her.

oh and i am still a virgin and i plan to be, i am honestly a good kid, always one foot right infront of the other on a path that leads to either a UC or a Cal State

Answer 1

I think I have the truth. Your mom is scared you are going to start seeing a boy and start getting those feeling. Boys can be looking for one thing only (some boys) not all. I think you're a good kid, some times good kids go bad, your mom loves you,she's only taking care of you. Trust me you'll thank her for all she does, girl look where you live. You and your family are OK Trust your mom, trust in God.

Answer 2

No matter where we live, it is not safe and with the terrorist stuff and rapists, kidnappers and just crazyness your mom wants to make sure you are safe and do all she can to protect you. There are so many teens listed on the missing websites and from being kidnapped in thin air and it happens everywhere. Most teens think they are invincible or that nothing will ever happen to THEM. It does and all the time. More than you think. I see it everyday as I try to match uidentified victims who are already dead with missing persons who we dont know where they are or if they are alive and what I see is scary and sick and all too real. It happens everyday. Just because nothing bad has happend in your area (yet) doesnt mean it wont. Your mom doesnt want you to be a victim and she loves you so very much to do whatever she can to keep you safe. Maybe try putting yourself in her shoes and reverse the roles to see how you would feel.. Try talking to her and see how she feels about it. :) Parents have good reasons for being over protective. Respect what your parents are doing. :) It isnt that they dont trust you or anything it is the outside world of people they dont trust. Maybe a cell phone for you and your mom so you both can stay connected that way too might help. They have the cell phones with gps (global positioning systems) that satellite tracts where you are at all time through the cell phone. Tell your mom about that perhaps. maybe that will help give you a bit of breathing room too. :)

Answer 3

Hi,

I'm a mom and an aunt.....

Listen, bad things happen in good places all the time. They happen where people think they can let down their guard and not be careful.

I'm not saying to be afraid of everything, but there is reason for concern.

I don't get your mom's logic today, but just because you live in a good area doesn't mean you are safe. We live in a rich area and there is a nut approaching children on the loose.

Parents know what can happen, we know what is out there......teenagers think nothing will happen to them...the leading cause of death for your age group is "It won't happen to me."

It is also the cause of pregnancy for your age group too.

Also, and most important and you'll never get it until you are a parent. Your parents love nothing more in this world than you. YOU ARE EVERYTHING.......you have been since the day your mom found out you were coming. The thought of anything ever happening to you is enough to make any parent a little nutty.

You'll be the same.

Answer 4

Your mom worries about you, you are lucky. When you get old and jaded like me you'll know why she worries.

I was constantly sneaking off and doing stuff and my parents never caught me - and they were good parents. I drag raced my mom's car, smoked, had sex, had an abortion, got a parking ticket (and paid it), bought myself a car (with money I saved working)- all without them knowing until later!!! You might think they were bad parents but they weren't, I was an only child and they were both college educated, in fact my mom was a high school teacher. I was just sneaky.

Now that I'm a parent I'm still young enough to remember all the sneaky things I did. Plus, I've seen a lot of stuff since I'm a nurse and also a grownup who watches the news - traumas, kids with cancer, kids having babies, kids dying. It happens so fast, in the blink of an eye. Parents lie awake at night worrying about you, you know. Also, whenever we see kids sick, hurt or dying our heart goes thump until we know it's not you, and then they start to ache anyway because we know that somewhere, this kid has a mom and we identify with her grief. You don't know about all these things yet and I'm glad you don't because if you did you'd be an adult with adult worries instead of a carefree teenager enjoying and discovering life.

Just try to talk to your mom and see what her main concerns are with each situation before you go anywhere. Tell her your concerns, maybe you guys can come to an agreement where you have a little bit more freedom, but she still feels like she knows what you're up to.

Answer 5

Well,hun parents are overprotective for many reasons which may include the following:
1.They dont want you to make the mistakes they made.As much as they want you to learn from their mistakes you cant.You will make mistakes and you will learn from them a whole list of them.They cant make you learn from theirs,you cant and you wont.
2.They dont want you to make irresponsible decisions.As much as they dont want that,you are going to.They did at one time,and so will you.Its a part of growing up.You live,and you learn.

This is a mistake that many parents make,often times it results in the child rebelling and making an impaired judgment.I am not saying you do or you will but that is what often happens.They should talk to their kids about the things that they are worried about.They should let them know the mistakes they made and have an open and honest communicative relationship.They should allow their children to be aware of the consequences that are involved in many situations and the risks of many situations.Allow their children to make the choice,but help them be prepared to make the right one not make the choice for them.She does Alot of these things in fear of people approaching you even if it is a fairly good community.Thats parents.Just remember to be safe and let her know where you are because you are only 15 and many things happen in this world today.Good luck,and be good!

Answer 6

Parents aren't perfect!! We have to learn as well, and one of the things it that we have to let go.

It doesn't matter how good an area you live in, your mum will still worry about you, especially if you are the oldest or an only child. Even at 15 (and probably at 25!!) she will still worry about you crossing the road on your own. That's what parents do.

Perhaps now is the time to suggest you have a phone so that you can call her occasionally just to let her know where you are. But, if you say you are going to call, make sure you do, or she will just worry even more.

Look on the bright side, at least she loves you and cares about you.

Answer 7

Well This World Is A Scary Place..And Even Though No Shootings/Kidnapping Ever Happened B4..Doesnt Mean It Cant Happen Now..

Answer 8

I'm a teen and a mother. I am 19 and I have a six month old baby. And I know if anything happened to him I would be devastated. I'm sure that feeling never goes away. Being 19 I haven't forgotten what it was like to live with my mom and be under her rules. Its hard but Being a mom now I know it was all for the best. She is just being a mom. Get use to it. She will be doing it your hole life. That's just the way life is. Every good parent is like that. At least you know she loves you.

Answer 9

Bad things can happen to good kids, even in 'good' neighborhoods.
Just be patient, mom will out grow this in a year or two.
Do you have a cell phone or access to a phone? Maybe offer to call her when you change locations will put her at ease just a little.
I had my daughter do that. I didn't really care where she went to with her friends, but I wanted to know when she changed location's. Maybe it was just in case I needed to get her for some off the wall emergency, or maybe I was just being nosy, I don't know, but when she started doing that for me, I felt a lot better for it. It also got me to trust her a little more.

Answer 10

Because there are so many crazy people out there that will take advantage of you. You aren't aware of them yet, b/c you're still young. But, your mother knows, and so do I. It's SO dangerous. You could be gone in a split second. Never to be seen again. I know it's hard to understand, and you want your freedom, but believe me, it WILL happen. You just have to be patient, and respect your mom's decision - if it makes her feel more secure, then do it. These days we are living in, you have to be safe. My oldest is not even 6 yet, and I get totally paranoid when he goes in the front to play (we live in an apartment) I don't even let him stay long, and every time someone passes by him I look and make sure they don't just grab him and take off!