No matter how much I tell my husband it hurts to call me names,he still does it.When the argument is over he apologizes and promises to never do this again.Then he always returns to the same behavior.Should I just ignore it and accept the fact that this is how men get their point across?
2006-08-23 08:40:07 · 8 answers · asked by jayne s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My dad did the same thing. So I learned that bad behavior from him. I would cuss my husband out and call him every name in the book. He would always say do you hate me that much? Why do you call me names? Why do you want to hurt me? He said you don't call people that you love, names. So I changed. I probably did it a few times after because it was a habit that I had to break, but now I don't cuss him or call him names. We just stick to what were arguing about. It hurts the relationship more. It is words that you can't take back, ever. And it will always be remembered and hurt. He probably learned this behavior from his parents. So put your foot down. There is no sense in it. You two can argue without calling each other names and cursing and he needs to understand that. Your argument will be resolved a lot better too. Because when you constantly call each other names and curse, it just makes the other person even more mad. So your not going to resolve it if you keep getting mad. Try telling him to go somewhere else and calm down and when your ready to have a civilized conversation, call me. I think it's better to calm down before you talk anyway. Especially when you have a very bad temper. Most of the time you realize it is just nonsense anyway and just want to forget it even happened. Good luck.
2006-08-23 08:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I feel you on this way because me and my boyfriend of a year are the same way. He decides to call me a B**** whenever we argue because he knows it upsets me and hurts my feelings. He also promises never to do it again but does it time and time again after that.
You should do what I do.
They are not going to stop because they use these words to hurt us in one way or another because they don't want to admitt that arguing with us hurts them. So I decided to say to my boyfriend, "I don't know why you're calling me a B**** when you are a fat a** b**** with a little dick." Of course, none of it was true but it hurt his feelings.
I continue to say things like this back when he wants to hurt me with ignorant words because if they wont stop, us women need to get even rather then just take this verbal abuse.
2006-08-23 08:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Men?" How about, why does "my husband" call me names?
Not all men are jerks like this or use name calling "to get their point across".
If he cannot stop himself, there is something wrong.
On the other hand, seeing how general and "men-suck-oriented" your questions was, it makes me wonder what your responsibility is in this scenario.
Relationships are a two-way street.
2006-08-23 08:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would anyone want to live with, spend time with, or even acknowledge anyone who wants to hurt you???? Life is way too short. Make your life here in this world a nice life. DO NOT SPEND TIME WITH ANYONE WHO WANTS TO HURT YOU!!!
(verbally or physically)
2006-08-23 08:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by Parker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him an a$shole and see how he likes it....don't ignore it cuz he gonna keep doing it every fight and it don't matter how mad he gets he shouldn't call u disrespectful names even out of anger
2006-08-23 08:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by babygirla718 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not ignore it. It's verbal abuse and he should seek counseling. It can get worse and physical. Get help now!!!!
2006-08-23 08:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by awhisper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, women do it, too! It's to make sure they are being heard
2006-08-23 08:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a jerk
2006-08-23 08:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by babeusahot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋